#Situationship

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wise mango
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i confessed to my crush. they said they dont see me romantically but doesnt want our very close frenship to end. Its been about 2 weeks since my confession we're still besties like before. Yet i still have feelings for them

queen geyser
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how long have you had feelings for them for?

wise mango
spice helm
# wise mango 4 months

That’s normal, you shouldn’t expect to lose your feelings very fast.

My general advice for now would be to stop getting close to them, intimately, and try to distract yourself from having romantic thoughts about them.

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It can take a lot of time for you to finally lose your feelings, remember that. You shouldn’t rush your feelings.

wise mango
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so i just need time with this?

spice helm
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Yeah, it can take weeks to even a couple of months. But if those feelings continue to get stronger than you’ll need to set some boundaries.

wise mango
spice helm
# wise mango what kind of boundries?

  1. Try to be more distant when you hang out with them, and try to be in a group setting instead of one on one alone time with them. The hang out can feel a lot more intense and romantic, and it might get too comfortable.

  2. You should limit yourself how many times you interact with them, be less emotionally dependent on them and try to meet new people you could potentially hang out with or be attracted to.

  3. Commit to more of your hobbies to distract your feelings through your hobbies.

whole sorrel
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or just stop talking to them if you think you cant do it

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it is a bit destructive, but it sure works

spice helm
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But they can try that to, maybe it’d work

wise mango
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i cant just leave them tho man. we are each others closest friend. we talk everyday make jokes everyday laugh everyday play everyday talk abt our own life everyday.. i cant js leave the closest friend i have rn

whole sorrel
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were they your crush before the friendship started?

wise mango