I'm beginning to hate my girlfriend

[worthy meteor]

I know the key to stable relationships is communication, but every time I try to communicate something with her, she always spends the rest of the afternoon or so crying and feeling guilty and I hvae to comfort her. It's because of the fact that I'm starting to lose respect for her (because I'm still unable to move on from the bad things she's done) and I'm distrusting her more and more lately. When she cries, I don't feel bad. When she says she's bored, I just want her to go away.
I'm considering ending the relationship but I know that'll just effect her too. I know I'm not responsible for her happiness, but she makes it really hard for me to achieve what I want without making me feel like a bad person about it. I don't even want to talk to her about it because I suggested breakups multiple times and she just clung onto me and begged and begged until I gave up on it.

[jolly moth]

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[slim raven]

Yo!
Seems like you feel stuck in your relationship, if she is holding you back and you kind of want to end the relationship, maybe having a open conversation with her about it might help.

But you said you have tried and she basically made you forget it.
If you are trying to express concerns about your relationship and she switches up and makes it about her and makes you feel guilty, it doesn't seem healthy.

If you break up with her, it will affect her but how much is the relationship worth if it's just dragging you down.

From my perspective from what you have shared you should consider really leaving. I'm not sure the situation but maybe texting/calling/telling her that you are breaking up with her and maybe a general explanation and set a boundary of how you want to move forward like cutting contact or whatever you would want.

Dont allow her to guilt you into staying when you dont want to, you could just send/tell her and let her sit with it for a bit, don't feel you need to respond back if she does.
If you set a boundery she needs to understand that.
In the end you are not responsible for her. Your not her parent.

Also Maybe make a plan?
If you have things of hers or vise versa, tell her when you will be giving/taking it back. If it's online maybe consider just sending her a text and blocking her, or slowly stop responding?
I can probably give more advice on a plan if I knew more of what the situation is, irl/online and all that.

Hope this helps, feel free to message back if needed.

[next viper]

it really seems like she's bringing you down

she seems very emotionally unstable and if you don't feel comfortable with dealing with that then you should just end the relationship

[worthy meteor]

Tysm for replying, this did help. I was too upset to realize what I could do in the long run, so this was a nice reminder ♥️