May I ask
#what is the point?
gray sandal
How it seems like it’s fixed, but isn’t?
it isn't it's just that my parents have completly moved on like nothing has ever happened
gray sandal
hmm i see, well, i never asked for their help, they intervened
deft glacier
If they aren’t capable of giving me what I need, I should stop trying to get help from them
deft glacier
hmm i see, well, i never asked for their help, they intervened
Well, in a way, I think you are asking for their help
gray sandal
i was seeing a counsellor, but i ended up stopping 'cause it feels like im walking on eggshells so i thought this server would help for a while
gray sandal
Well, in a way, I think you are asking for their help
how so?
deft glacier
The fact that this is still bothering you, in my opinion, shows that they still have weight on your mental and emotional landscape
And I’m not going to pretend like mine don’t have weight over me
But if they’re a fundamentally negative force in your life
You could consider trying to slowly distance yourself from them emotionally
And let’s be honest, pinning you down to take pics of your scars is really, really messed up
gray sandal
You could consider trying to slowly distance yourself from them emotionally
i have already, i think? it just hurts 'cause i do love them? in a sense i think i do
deft glacier
i have already, i think? it just hurts 'cause i do love them? in a sense i think...
That’s exactly what I’m talking about
Now
gray sandal
And let’s be honest, pinning you down to take pics of your scars is really, real...
thank you because nobody thinks it's that bad, i had nightmares the entire week after that incident
deft glacier
You totally may not want to take this advice, because it’s huge, and maybe stupid
deft glacier
thank you because nobody thinks it's that bad, i had nightmares the entire week ...
Oh my gosh, really?
Why
That’s stupid
gray sandal
i agree
deft glacier
That’s the most infantile and drastic measure people can take
gray sandal
but it's just people and their perspectives
deft glacier
And it doesn’t solve literally anything
gray sandal
yeah i wish my parents realised that
deft glacier
The fact that they had to use physicality to force you to do something
Should be really, really obvious that it was a dumb idea
gray sandal
my counsellor said that it was probably cus they didn't know why i was doing this and asked their friends to see if they could find a reason
deft glacier
That counsellor sounds like an idiot if that’s the extent of what they said
gray sandal
and my parents apologized a shit ton after i got mad at them, but it doesn't heal the wound they cut
gray sandal
That counsellor sounds like an idiot if that’s the extent of what they said
i mean she did agree what they did was wrong?
deft glacier
i mean she did agree what they did was wrong?
Okay
You said you weren’t a fan of your counsellor, and my brain is entering angry overprotective mode u3u
Or
Something relating to counsellors not working at least
gray sandal
You said you weren’t a fan of your counsellor, and my brain is entering angry ov...
lmao, yea im not so i decided to stop, it helped for a while ig? as i said, it feels like walking on eggshells because im still unfortunately a minor so it feels like i have to be careful of every word i say
deft glacier
Why?
Honestly, I feel like you have to be more careful here than you do with your counsellor, right?
gray sandal
probably, but it feels safer here; there's no one that would know who i am and it's not like someone in the server is going to tell my parents of what i've been upto
deft glacier
I don’t know the legalities of minors
But are they allowed to tell your parents anything like that?
gray sandal
nope, to some extent atleast you do have privacy that is UNLESS you are at risk of harming yourself
she did ask me if we could talk to my parents tgt before all of this happened and i was considering it but after that incident my parents also found the texts btwn my counsellor and me so that happened waaaaay earlier than i wanted to