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haughty hedge
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It sounds like a good thing to me
As it has only improved your life so far

tawny kernel
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I'm 16 as well actually...this isn't completely out the normal

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I mean I have many crushes for animated character but it's depends on what you mean by crush

rugged oak
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I have a crush on a fictional woman, is that bad?

modern stratus
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Hah! look at this virgin ✡️

sleek coyote
modern stratus
sleek coyote
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i feel like its just a thing that happens sometimes, its not really a bad way aslong as you dont obsess and realise that this isnt a thing that can happen

sleek coyote
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@rugged oak yeah bro your kinda cooked ngl

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Snap out of it

modern stratus
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I bet you are a virgin

sleek coyote
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seeing it as a bad thing sounds like a teen problem ngl

modern stratus
sleek coyote
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😭

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Ts random

sleek coyote
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tawny kernel
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I regret not staying one

modern stratus
sleek coyote
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terse swan
sleek coyote
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i meant like the ones here

terse swan
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Oh yeah.

sleek coyote
tawny kernel
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Spreading that you lost your virginity is so weird and immature

hardy willow
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in my opinion its not really a bad thing i had a bunch of crushes on anime characters so its normal and made u a better person so its a good thing but just dont get too obsessive

chilly sphinx
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Nah it's not bad to have crush on any fictional characters

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As long as you're not gonna be crazy obsessive dude on those characters you love

pulsar trellis
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holy get a life

twilit vault
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It’s not abnormal

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But if you don’t grow out of it that would be abnormal

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Not being able to emotionally distinguish the separation between reality and fiction is worrisome for an adult

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Idol worship is also not good either

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There’s a fine line between being attracted to the idea of a fictional character and being attracted to the character itself

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To me it sounds like you’re attracted to the idea of the fictional character

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You like what she represents and want to find that in a real woman rather than deluding yourself into actualizing the character and pretending she’s real

fathom cairn
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nah just jerk it and be done

maiden anvil
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ayo

proper goblet
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is this ragebait

clear burrow
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I'm going to be so serious, this is very very concerning behavior. These are severe attachments and fictional dependencies on a fictional character you've created a delusion of being with. Things like these have led to death and unhealthy coping addictions in people your age.

Having a crush or being attracted to fictional characters isn't weird, it's actually very normal for someone your age. This isn't a crush. This is obsession. You're using a fictional character as a gateway to a real relationship with real people. That isn't reality. Fictional characters do not act like real people, do not process or have emotions like real people. They're written like one but they won't ever act the way a real person would.

You keep pictures of her in your wallet. This isn't a regular nice innocent crush, this is a fantasy you've concocted. I know what I'm saying is harsh but it's the truth. It's good that you acknowledge you can't be with her (aka, you know she isn't real) but using her as a basis of what you're looking for in a person is just as bad, because, she's not. I'm a game design major, and on a psychological level (especially female characters) are designed to be attractive or cutesy to guys. They're made to be conventionally attractive. They're not how girls act, just include cute things girls do that a guy might like. (Marvel rivals, even Splatoon characters that aren't kids, etc they all do this). Instead of hoping for a relationship that you've essentially made up, go work on getting into a real one and understanding what one is like. It's going to help you figure out a lot in life, interacting with real women and possibly getting into a real relationship.

twilit vault
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Ok no

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Saying stuff like “for angel” shows more of an attachment for the character and not the idea

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Like when I was younger I was really attracted to characters like raven from teen titans, but I didn’t base my motivation and relationships off of her

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I just inadvertently would look for girls that resembled ravens aesthetic since that’s what I found attractive

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And even then emo girls wouldn’t be the only ones I would date

gloomy yacht
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Nah bro ,it's pretty fine to having crush on fictional character 😭🙏

gloomy yacht
clear burrow
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Warning: I'm going to say this very bluntly and harshly because I don't think you're too far gone yet:

She's not real. You know this. You have an intense emotional attachment to a fictional character.

I understand Angel feels like a very real and well-written character to you, and that this game has made a very big impact on your life, but you're putting all of your hope into finding someone who acts exactly like her. Even the most "realistic" fictional characters are still curated representations of reality and not people. No one in real life is going to perfectly embody Angel's personality, speech patterns, or habits. Real people are more inconsistent, flawed, and unpredictable that any generated or written character.

You're confusing admiration and fixation. It doesn't sound like you're inspired by her, but instead structuring your entire life around the idea of someone exactly like her existing. Even if you do find someone similar to her, you're going to idealize them and expect them to fit this mold, and that's going to lead to serious attachment issues, disappointment, or unhealthy relationship expectations.

You're essentially working on yourself for finding an Angel. Real relationships will never reflect a fantasy you develop in your head. What you call "having a crush" is not a crush. It is obsession. You know everything about this character, to the point where it would be seen as weird or abnormal. This can become a serious problem if you develop this kind of problem towards real people. Your behavior right now is already concerning.

I'm trying to help you, but the best way to help you is to be honest. You're chasing an ideal that doesn't exist. Real people are more complex, true relationships aren't finding the perfect match but growing with someone. I’m not saying to stop liking the character or the game, but you need to recognize the difference between fiction and reality before this mindset leads to real problems for you.

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A preference would be something like "tall girls" or "girls with black hair" or "girls who wear little makeup" or "goth girls" or "girls who read". This is not a preference. You're looking for a real life replica of a video game character, and it just doesn't exist.

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dude that's the problem... you're trying to find someone who fits this mold of "angel" you've concocted in your head and you can't even see it. You're going to find someone who somewhat resembles her behavior and either get really hurt or messed up or hurt them because this is an obsession derived from loneliness

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You've fallen in love with the idea of being with a person that resembles a video game character

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Not to mention, you exhibit extremely obsessive traits by identifying every single little aspect of her behavior to justify why you like her and why you'd want someone like her to exist, it's not simply "oh she's attractive" it's "i find every little detail about her cute", real girl or not it's really weird to obsess over every little thing your partner does

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Maybe it's not like that, but that's how you paint a picture with the way you explain your situation

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I know, and like I'm going to be so real, it's okay to be lonely and it's okay to seek fufillment from a character but it's important to separate fiction and reality. Don't let it be the basis for your entire life but it's okay to let it help you move forward,

like a lot of people will use character AI or AI bots because they're lonely and want someone to talk to, and as long as they don't become obsessed or attached they can still have normal lives with real people if they slowly build that for themselves, if you use that idea of her in that manner than it's way more healthy than what you're currently doing now

i just hate to see someone become so obsessed or attached they become a danger to themselves or others and don't realize it until its too late

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Like i've seen this kind of behavior turn into obsession with twitch streamers where some guy will go to where they live because they think they're dating and do horrible things and well, you're not there but problems like these can quickly quickly evolve into much more serious ones

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Make yourself better because you want to be better, and feel better, and be a good person

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not because you want someone to love you

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my motivation for taking care of myself and striving to be a better person is because people around me still need me, my mom, my cat, my bf, shit even my little sister and like I can't do everything in the world to help them but they still need me in their lives

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yeah

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when you're overwhelmed or scared or freaking out

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and you don't know what to do

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your heads about to explode and you get dizzy and blurry

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"what am i doing with myself? god i know i can do better than this"

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you take a seat but the headache's still there

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a lot of people go through it

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yeah, but it's a part of life and growing and maturing

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thats a mindset not a lot of people have and im proud of you for that

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i gotchu bro, but again don't live for someone

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like goals are ok like you can live for the goal of

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"i wanna have a girlfriend or a family some day"

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well no

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like dont put all your hope into the idea of someone/change yourself for someone who doesn't exist

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you should better yourself because you want to be better

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in addition to bettering the lives for the people around you

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not because you want to be loved lol

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people will like you/love you as a person and people won't like you or they'll hate you as a person that's how life is

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shouldn't change yourself to be something someone "might" love unless you think the person you are right now is really really messed up (like serial killer, abusive messed up, then go for it)

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yeah but the problem is you're not doing it for yourself you're doing it for someone that doesn't exist, if that person asks you to change your personality for them would you? bettering yourself for the sake of a future goal like "i want to better myself mentally for a future relationship I want to have" is good, but "i want to better myself so my future gf/bf knows how far im willing to go for them" is not good

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wanting to be loved is a normal thing, we all crave affection and a relationship as its biologically coded in us as a species (to conserve the population and reproduce)

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its a balance

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change the bad but don't change everything yknow

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like if you're mentally unstable, and dependant/have attachment issues, its a good idea to get those things sorted for a relationship but also for yourself, because having those types of issues can hurt you or your partner/someone you love

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but say you idk love pokemon but your partner sees it as childish you don't wanna get rid of that because that might make you unhappy

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thats just an example of a problem someone might have that would be good to change for the sake or wellbeing of a relationship/others

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have you ever been in a relationship before?

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Yeah I get that, trying to date people but not really understanding what it means to love someone/be attracted to them

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then all of a sudden

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BOOM

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it hits ya

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honestly, my recommendation, talk to people and put yourself out there, especially irl im guessing you're in high school so try joining some clubs or wearing stuff you like (anime shirts, video game shirts etc)

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try not to show off obsessions but interests

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like i like anime and stuff so i might wear like an attack on titan hoodie or something or a sonic the hedgehog hoodie

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or bluey so i might wear a bluey sweater (even tho its kinda childish its a comfort show for me lol)

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my "quirk"/ joke between all my friends is that i have a "crippling goldfish addiction" or im "a goldfish addict in recovery (that's not really in recovery)"

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its a great way to meet some people and be like "oh shoot, you like anime?"

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talk to people you have group projects with, shit i wish i talked more

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growing up i was a loner and an outcast, entire friend group dumped me in high school and i stayed a loner but there were so many chill people at my school i wish i talked to

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focused on education and careers and ignored my social life it led to a lot of relationship and personal problems in my current life that i'm still getting treated for

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hs kinda sucked but it was my fault it sucked and college is a fresh start so don't waste your chance :p

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but don't hesitate to put yourself out there

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and shit you dont gotta start big you can start small, my starting place was online friends and video games and it finally led to having somewhat of a friend group and a (not perfect) but ok life after suffering with years of depression, anxiety and loneliness (as well as family problems/trauma but thats a diff story)

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it took a while but i helped myself and taught myself and bettered myself for the sake of "i can't live like this anymore" and "the people around me deserve someone who can take care of them just as much as they do for me"

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yiiiiiikesss

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guessing small town where everyone knows everyone

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dammmnnn

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i lived in the suburbs

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its like a combination of the city and a rural area

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not too populated, but not too rural

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also doesn't smell like sewage and rats

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in a classroom or my graduating class?

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wanna say about 400 students?

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yeah thats pretty tough

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cause theres probably about 25k people on my campus alone in college and i think there were 1.6k people in my hs total

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but maybe u can make friends from other schools too

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idk, my lil sister uses snapchat to do that (altho me personally ive never used it)

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just be careful abt that stuff

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last thing u want is a dangerous situation with a dangerous person (or worse, a pedophile 😦 )

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i mean from what it sounds tho u have an ok social life

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ur just desperate for a relationship

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do u have a job?

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kinda unrelated to your issue, but you should definitely get one

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puts you in social situations and around different types of people

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not to mention money 😄

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(that'll help you get a car and take your future girl out on dates 😉 )

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good on ya

digital gazelle
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I'm pretty sure Angel is non-binary

mystic leaf
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my guy just watch hentai and relieve yourself even if she's real i'm sure she gonna reject your ass

eager vessel
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In some way shape or form, you guys actually are the same when you really think of it. You’re both jerking off to things that are releasing dopamine and serotonin in mass and unhealthy amounts. The source of your problem seems to really just be a deep rooted loneliness problem, you’re seeking solace in this fictional character. What I think you need is a reallyyyy thorough cleanse from the internet and the game. Like put yourself on complete lockdown for at LEAST a month. It doesn’t matter if you’re doing positive changes when your reason for doing them revolves around your addiction.

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You may not think it because you’re in shape (so you’ve said) and because you have friends IRL and seemingly good habits like cooking, but you’re slowly and surely developing Incel behaviors.

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I don’t doubt that. My point still stands though

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Yeah, a really good internet cleanse and social media cleanse and just everything would do you really good. You’ve already got some good tendencies and discipline, I mean you kind of have to in order to be in shape, so direct those good traits towards this side of your life as well.

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Wishing you the best of luck

mystic leaf
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bro look i'm not here to argue with you. I'm just trying to make you face the truth, no matter what you can never find that virtual woman beside you in your whole life. and FYI i don't jerk off.

mystic leaf
spiral kite
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nah bro i have crush on fictional women for their body and looks gng

proper goblet
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i dont blame him

fringe minnow
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i think its normal

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especially for a teenager

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but just dont let it ruin your real love life you know

gloomy yacht
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Bro you're so sigma , I respect that

gloomy yacht