should i just be patient?

[shrewd pendant]

hello, i’m currently talking to a guy and i like him a lot…and he knows this and has for quite some time. i’ve liked him for about 8 months now and the thing is he isn’t ready for a relationship and i’m totally fine with waiting because i know why because relationships are a lot and he isn’t in the right headspace right now for that. we were talking one time and he basically told me that he wants our relationship to develop naturally and just let things flow which i’m really appreciative of because we both lowkey aren’t in the right headspaces, i have serious attachment issues and abandonment issues and he knows that and he has promised he won’t leave but i always have the feeling one day he will get too tired of me. i feel like i’m pushing it so much and he is handling it so well i don’t make to be so pushy i just don’t want him to find someone else. i’m scared of losing him to another, i know it won’t be the end of the world but to me in that moment it would feel like that. i’m sure i’m just overthinking like usual but since so many people would call this a situationship it just makes me feel like i’m doing something wrong or i should just leave but i know people need time and i’m willing to give him that but i just have bad habits of coming off too strong and or being too pushy. i’m not sure what to do i just keep overthinking everything and i’d like to just someone else’s perspective like an open minded opinion. that’s all, thank you. ( i’m sorry if it doesn’t all sound like coherent my mind gets side tracked when i write )

[quaint dagger]

Its the best for both of you to be patient ^^

He said him self that he wants you but doesnt want a realtionship at the moment

You guys still can talk dont worry

[sturdy spruce]

U SHUD GO TO DOCTOR AND BE PATIENT HAHAHA

[shrewd pendant]

i know he means well but i’m just worried one day i might overdo it and push him away fully, or maybe he will end up finding someone better and i’m not sure how to fully cope with that and i can’t really be mad at him cuz we aren’t dating so i’m just stuck in this weird spot.

[shrewd pendant]

i actually did go to my doctor yesterday to help with better meds but i’m not sure how that will go i know you probably meant this as a joke but i was looking for a different answer lols but thank you for the positivity!

[stark carbon]

If both of you are willing to wait for each other then patience is all you need but speaking from experience here. and for someone who had to wait, I can whole heartedly say. Yes. It is indeed a possibility they can get tired of you, they can put themselves first and foremost and that your well being isnt as concering to them as they are to you if the time came, Let them breathe and make the decision to accept you themselves, so just take your time, Focus on your own worries.

[ripe temple]

The entire "wait" thing shows signs of he wants to double date
If you ask me

[shrewd pendant]

this is probably how i should be but i can’t help but worry about him because he is all i think about i don’t have as much interest in my hobbies as i used to because he is all i can think about it’s really hard to just not think about him and how he feels so me and the waiting is driving me crazy but you are probably right and i will try my best to calm down and relax and not be on his ass about everything lol.

[shrewd pendant]

yeah that’s truly how i saw it at first too, but i’m not the only person he has technically rejected and he puts more effort into talking to me than others which i think means our chances are much higher and better but i probably just need to chillax right now.

[stark carbon]

Yep, That kind of feeling is the one thing you should avoid because it can be suffocating for him

[shrewd pendant]

yeah i know that and he has been handling me so well and i greatly appreciate him for that, but it’s also suffocating for me as well but it’s hard to just stop and i just have a hard time not being like that because of my prior experiences.

[ripe temple]

I'm sure you know what's best for yourself anyways

[shrewd pendant]

i hope so, i just hope things will go well if i just let things happen how they are maybe… maybe i’ll come to a realization i’m not sure yet but thank you for your input!! i greatly appreciate it.

[ripe temple]

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