#Am I a bad daughter?

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mental storm
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I've been really stressed with school, having so many tests and homework, coming home every day just to spend hours on homework til I go to sleep. It already feels horrible, but it makes me feel better when my mother says I did well, seeing my marks. But I have a habit of finishing everything before Friday and relaxing on the weekend. But when its Monday or Tuesday again, I do homework again, but my mother tells me right the next day Im being shitty, I'm playing too much, I'm this and that, just generally criticizing, and it feels so shitty when I'm over here doing homework, and I go online to my friends and curse a lot about her, cursing her a lot in my mind too. It's generally starting to take a toll on me for this that every time it happens. My mother is an okay mother the majority of the time, but she tends to easily get mad, like losing things, and how she would first slap then scold. It disgusts me a lot that she would come over to me and put more of her anger on me because I'm the oldest. So am I a bad daughter of cursing her on the internet and starting to feel disgusted and wrong when she acts so normal after a bit?

reef urchin
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na u not u good

subtle iris
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The best thing to do is not to give up on yourself just because others reflect negative energy onto you. I wouldn’t say you need to defend yourself, especially since she is your mother, and respecting your parents is important. They provide for you, feed you, and put a roof over your head. Or you can nicely confront her about her actions, and if she can't seem to understand you. Than it is what it is, meaning you're not the problem.

That said, I understand what you're going through. I experienced something similar when I was younger. As you grow older, you may come to realize that some of your mother’s actions were indeed hurtful, maybe even abusive. Unfortunately, you can’t change the past, but you can control how it shapes you. What matters most is that you don’t become that kind of person in the future, either for yourself or for your future children.

Staying positive and maintaining self-respect is key. Just don’t give up. If, in the future, you decide to distance yourself from your mother due to her behavior, that’s your choice. Choosing self-respect and peace is never wrong. At the end of the day, the most important person you have is yourself, so never give up on yourself.

Be positive!

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What do you listen to

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Like music taste

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boywithuke

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tiktok

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shut up and dance

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better in stereo

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all night

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dm me if you need any advise

tiny fractal
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damn bro

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shit

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tiny fractal
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listen to the smiths

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the? smiths

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anyways ur not a bad daughter ur great one ur just overstressed

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dont try to be perfect

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be someone u want to on a comfortable level

lethal oxide
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U good

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wide pollen
# mental storm I've been really stressed with school, having so many tests and homework, coming...

Honestly what your mom is technically doing is trying to make you feel the culprit.And when that happens, your mental health starts to go down the drain, it’s like your mom is not understanding what she’s basically trying to do to you. In my advice, is to try not to let her get under your skin to where you start to cuss abt her, and things like that. you’re not a bad daughter, you’re just feeling overwhelmed and stressed because of the things that you’re mom is saying. not to mention of schoolwork and exams, and that usually puts a nail in the coffin for most people.

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I hope things get better for you soon, and hopefully the situation doesn’t get worse.

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