I made a post awhile ago asking for advice so if you wanna go back and look you can. I’ve been kinda trying to feel things out since and really look in the mirror and think about what I truly want. I’ve been replaying all the memories we made and deep down I’m starting to realize how much of an idiot I am.
#Broke up with my gf about a month ago and looking back now pretty sure I threw something perfect
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I made a post awhile ago asking for advice so if you wanna go back and look you ...
Do you think she still has feelings for you?
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So I’ll add a little back story to it as well things did not end well I broke up with her and in a mix of emotions of just being upset because it hurt we both said some hurtful stuff. Now I think it was last week I reached out for the first time since everything kinda hit the fan metaphorically. I reached out to apologize and try to make amends. I lied saying I just wanted to be friends when deep down I know I want her back I just don’t know how to get her back. She has expressed that she doesn’t want to try to fix things I just don’t know if there’s anything I can do to fix what I did.
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You broke the spark between the both of you because of emotions
You need to try to bring the spark back up again
I know you still love her but the spark and love are 2 different things
If you started dating again it would be super awkward like say this second you’re talking to her
It would be super awkward
That’s why you need to bring up the spark
Be honest about what went through your mind when you broke up with her
Don’t be like “let’s be friends”
Tell her straight out
“You’re (what you think of her, amazing etc) I broke up with you because of the heat of the moment and I completely regret it”
“I always want to be around you because you make me feel (how she makes you feel) and I don’t want to be your friend while being around you”
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“You’re (what you think of her, amazing etc) I broke up with you because of the ...
But like maybe wait till she answers to this
She answers doubtfull you say this
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“I always want to be around you because you make me feel (how she makes you feel...
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You tell her your regrets and what you felt in that moment leading to your decision
If she’s willing to give you another chance take it slowly
And see how it goes from there but other than that idk what to say
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So one thing I do wanna say is that I text her that stuff last week or whenever. I’m not much of a texting person I hate texting bc I feel like it fails to get the point across and also there’s no feelings behind a text. Would it be going to far to just call her?
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Call her
Meet up with her
Tell her your real feelings man she deserves honesty
You wanting to just be “friends” isn’t honesty
But if it’s face to face maybe go more slowly on the “I don’t wanna be just friends”
But maybe like a “let’s start over again”
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My plan was to call her tomorrow while I’m on my lunch break. If all goes well I’ll give you all an update but thank you for the advice. I still feel pretty stupid and last night I was going through the only gift that I didn’t throw away and all I could think is what did I do.
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My plan was to call her tomorrow while I’m on my lunch break. If all goes well I...
I wish you good luck and it was a bad mistake but we shouldn’t punish ourselves because we did something we didn’t mean to do
It’s like storming out of the room and slamming the door when it wasn’t your intention to do so
You acted in the heat of the moment and believe me you’re not the only one who does
It doesent mean it was right but it wasn’t exactly wrong aswell
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I know a part of me knows it’s not gonna work and I’m probably just gonna get shut out again but I don’t think I could really let myself live it down if I didn’t try everything.