She changed after 4 months

[peak crag]

We met on discord I know this isn’t really the best place to meet somebody but I never expected it ever, we just caught on and started video calling every day for 4 months she always flirted with me told me she loved me and we spent so much time with each other suddenly she just ghosted me for a day and started talking to me like I was a stranger online she hinted so many times at cutting me off and blocking me to use it as motivation for studying and that it will never work out, I’m not looking for an answer I know it’s best that I move on but like who on earth tells somebody they love them just to cut them off the next day? It’s not my fault right? I did everything I could I have it my all please feel free to message me I really need somebody to talk to

[tight badge]

just seduce her, I think that's what she wants 🤷‍♂️

I'm not a girl so idk

[dense quartz]

This is not really helpful advice.

[tight badge]

ik

I was just saying maybe try that, and if it doesn't work then listen to somebody that actually has good advice

[bitter bolt]

I suggest you take a look at attachment styles

[peak crag]

You know oddly you may be right she had such a strong history of past partners objectifying her that my difference scares her ;-;

[peak crag]

What is that? Attachment styles?

[bitter bolt]

It's your best bet if you want to start understanding how relationships work

[peak crag]

I see can it be found online? Are you suggesting that I might have done something off that ruined it?

[peak crag]

Thank you for speaking up but I’m at that point where any response helps 😞 the silence is way too loud

[bitter bolt]

Yeah everything you need is online, just look up a video on YouTube or TikTok even. It's pretty simple at the surface but you can get really deep into it if you want to understand things better

[peak crag]

Attachment styles

Got it

[peak crag]

Thank you for sharing

I’ll check it out

Something to fill in the free time

[bitter bolt]

Yeah, it really shifted my perspective once I learned more about it. Bet it'll do the same for you

[peak crag]

Thank you

I hope it does

I want fresh new perspectives and I want to feel justified with my actions

[bitter bolt]

Happy to help, feel free to ping me if you are confused about anything

[peak crag]

I will keep that in mind thank you 🙏

[peak crag]

Hey man so I went down the rabbit hole of attachment styles and I figured she resonated a lot with fearful/avoidant attachment styles where they are afraid of intimacy but at the same time afraid of abandonment it made me feel a lot better knowing that this is one of the harder if not the hardest attachment style to deal with due to the amount of inner conflict they have and there was practically nothing I could do her absence was literally carved into stone lol

[vivid wave]

she is threatening silent treatment which is just an act of sadism

there is no such thing as motivation to study

just ignore her ik it have had been 4 months

but bit by bit it becomes clear and better

[bitter bolt]

I do agree with you on that one, but most of the times it's not purposefully done, in which case we should try to be more understanding and forgiving

[vivid wave]

no like if she is using him as motivation to study thats cruel and she is treating him that way

[bitter bolt]

I think he meant "motive"

Or I might be wrong idk

Either way it's probably just an excuse

[vivid wave]

she casually treated bro like an animal

i cannot let @peak crag chase her or be emotionally hurt by her

[bitter bolt]

Yea I'm not saying that's what he should do

Self-respect is important

But I just wanted him to be more knowledgeable about these other factors at play so that he can choose the option that fits him the best