#"Relationship break" or whatever that means

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unborn forge
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I finished reading everything

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that took me a while lmao

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okay um

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the truth is this person you speak of is inconsistent well you've seen it you've observed it yourself so the only way you can build yourself back up is to learn to let go

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it hurts i understand but as time passes we cant linger with the same feelings

green ingot
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I'm assuming that she has issues of her own outside the relationship, has she told you about those if there ever were?

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that's basically an avoidant attachment style

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I haven't done much further research on it so if I explain it to you I might say something inaccurate about it

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very high chance she has issues of her own

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maybe the two of you were better off as friends, avoidant + anxious could create a push-pull dilemma between two people

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and just because the two of you are friends doesn't mean that what you both have has inferior value to a relationship

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have you considered the possibilities within yourself too?

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and not just the situation?

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you should have focused on yourself as well

green ingot
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focus on yourself, self-love is the most important thing when it comes to these situations

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maybe that's why

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the both of you were in a relationship, you were supposed to be there and help each other up

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whether you have your problems or she has problems of her own, it all comes down to the both of you willing to help each other

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but you're still friends right?

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yeah, this is where things went south

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y'know it's not really too late

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both of you barely talk because you guys need time and distance from each other for a while

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and if both of you are willing to make it work, it will eventually come back naturally

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she needs time

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and space

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it'll take around 1-2 months maybe if both of you are willing to make it work

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stop thinking about "what ifs"

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that mentality destroyed me

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it'll all be alright, if you sense that she's willing to make things work then you have nothing to worry about

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be there for her from time to time

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but remember to also trust her that she can handle her own situations as well

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improve yourself

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focus on things you love to do all by yourself

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go to the gym maybe, start journaling

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y'know, the usual stuff

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you're welcome

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glad to help

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man, wish we talked in dms, I would love to look back on this convo for some time

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but since we talked here, I feel like it's gonna eventually be deleted or something

velvet lily
green ingot
# velvet lily Why's that though

I went through a situation that's very very VERY similar to yours, I was glad that I managed to help someone who dealt with nearly the same thing I dealt with back then

velvet lily
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I think that makes me happy

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Wait

green ingot
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really?

unborn forge
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i've had similar experiences but of course it would be a long story to share 😆
but the best i could for my situation during that time was to let myself grow along with the other side i tried to understand that things like this were really bound to happen to me so i had to slowly cope until i could accept the pain of letting go

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even if she had her mistakes i could say i had mine it doesn't matter who did worse i think it was just time to move to another stage and forgive