I feel like i dont deserve therapy, but also think it would help

[small flume]

Im 16 and i struggle with negative toughts, overthinking, im fairly certain i got some level of social anxiety and overall im just stuck in my own head all the time and the things i say to myself there are not nice.
This is where my problem starts, these things really suck, they ruin my whole mood for entire days or weeks, sometimes i feel miserable and i dont even know why, sometimes a person will do something that is normal to them but my head will spirall out of control overthinking about it until the conclusion is that said person now hates me, i then stop talking to them until they directly tell me i didnt do anything wrong.
Honestly theres a lot more to this problem but i cant seem to remember more, ive been trying to write it down in a journal but i cant check it right now.

Anyway i dont have anyone to talk about this with, i barely have any friends, i got people i talk to but dont have any intimacy with, my parents are great but i think anyone my age knows its really not the same as having a close friend. I have a girlfriend but its a recent thing and im scared venting to her will drive her away.
I've been considering therapy but ive hit 2 roadblocks, first asking my parents and openly talking to them about all this, this isnt a big issue i just need to leave my comfort zone a bit, ive done it before with them and im sure i can do it again.
The big issue is that i feel these issues are not therapy worthy, i dont have any real trauma, im not depressed or suicidal and so i feel like going to therapy with my problems is kind of insulting to people with actual traumas and issues.
Maybe im right and should just deal with it, maybe not? i dont know

[vital pendant]

those issues are therapy worthy. and therapy’s only there to help you and your stressors. therapy’s not to shame you. you don’t necessarily have to have trauma for therapy. sometimes it’s just for stress, like overthinking and that’s okay and good. but if your overthinking and your negative thoughts get to you where it ruins your mood for an unusual amount of time, you should do therapy because with the right therapist, you should improve. just because you don’t think you have trauma doesn’t mean you can’t improve with the help of a professional. and they can be there for a support system too and improve your life, like getting more friends and such. a therapist is a support system and wants to help you. it’s not insulting, if anything therapy is just to help. cuz dealing with it doesn’t give it a possibility of getting better, it does a little but a therapist increases those chances. i didn’t think i had trauma, and it turns out i do. like something even as minor as being adopted can cause abandonment issues and avoidant which is something that needs to be improved on so the person can succeed in their relationships throughout life

and you should be able to feel comfortable vulnerable around your girlfriend

it took me a while to be comfortable, but without vulnerability there won’t be as strong as an emotional connection

and she should love you for you. if she leaves you because you’re being vulnerable, then she’s not the right one. you guys love each other and she should support you and not invalidate your feelings

being vulnerable is important and for strong relationships

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i dont think she would leave me for it (well part of me does, but a more rational part of me knows its not true) but i also dont know how to communicate such issues in a natural way with her, like i dont want to just dump a bunch of my personal issues on top of her out of nowhere you know? i think i also have this issue with my parents, like i know my problems but i cant find the words to explain them to anyone around me, either way your response was very helpful so thank you for taking the time

[sharp thunder]

there's this line from the poem desiderata that goes:

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

None of us asked to be here, we all just kind of got dropped off here so you have the right to do your best to address your needs. You have the right to ask, your parents might say no but then at least you tried. I think it's ok to open up to people who care about you, if you're worried then before you start you can ask permission and let her know that if you're talking too much or if she gets overwhelmed its ok to say she can tell you to stop. one thing you can try is to have codewords, like just some funny word to use in different situations, like if the conversation gets too heavy then use the codeword potato or something idk.

Usually, if you have some worry just do your best to communicate about it and let the other person tell you if it's too much

[knotty pasture]

Mental health isn’t just about trauma or depression. It’s about managing stress, emotions, and how we feel about ourselves, especially when those thoughts are overwhelming. Therapy helps a lot with this

I know you feel like you don't deserve it because you feel like there are people out there with "real" problems. In reality, we are all human and deserve better so I'd say go for it!

As for the negative emotions... Imagine you're walking through a forest, enjoying the scenery, and suddenly, you trip over a rock and fall flat on your face. You can either stay there, frustrated and upset about the fall, or you can pick yourself up, dust off the dirt, and remind yourself that everyone trips sometimes. You can’t change the fact you fell, but you can decide how to react. I really hope this sticks with you. Have a blessed day 🩵

[small flume]

thank you so much for the very helpful responses!