My girlfriend broke up with me

[median flax]

Bruh if your girlfriend cannot accept you being anxious then she's not worth it.

[undone lodge]

But I mean 4 Years is quiet a long term and Before all of this happend, She was actually the one who always checks if I was okay If i was even the slightest bit anxious, She'd give me proof and everything

Just really need some help on how to deal with this tbh, Everything I love doing hasnt really done much for me and My Friends told me if i need them, they'll always be there for me but So far They've been inactive and busy which I dont blame them for, They got their own life to live, Im not dependant on them but its gotten to a point of desperation where I had to seek help in literally Anything

[slim oasis]

Hey I get it. Four years with someone is hard to walk away from. You both built a life with eachother and now that its gone it just feels like nothing matters. But I promise you things will get better. I don't know your specific situation but I know what helped for me was my hobbies. I just did something I enjoyed to help take my mind off it. Reading, Video games, and any kind of physical activity is great to get you in a different place for a bit mentally. You also mentioned that your friends are always busy when you call them so you could try to see if you could all plan a group activity or something like that with them on a random day just to give you something to look forward too. Basically hobbies and planning specific activities with friends might help you. That's what helped me out the last time I felt similar to what you're going through. But I promise no matter what you do, you just gotta keep moving. Life is beautiful and every day has something new for you, good and bad.

[dense sapphire]

Im in similar situation bro @median flax :)

[median flax]

If your girlfriend treats you like her dirt, tell her to stop. If she doesn't tell her how it makes you feel. If that doesn't work it means she doesn't respect you. Dump her fast.

[dense sapphire]

I have been calling and texting and everything like if she ate and everything but well she left me on seen lol and uh i made a post if u have time pls read it ;)

[undone lodge]

I've bene trying alot of things but it hasnt really gotten better for me, Im not trying to get some sort of reaction from anybody but Suicide has just been really on my mind Especially at the thought of her finding some brand new guy who's suddenly doing the things that She and I used to do in the first 2 years of me and Her dating, Its like u always have to provide a girl any form of happiness or else they'll leave you even if your loyal, loving unconditionalyl or Trying your hardest, its never enough and they just end up leaving you because a guy is giving them a few days worth of joy

[slim oasis]

Hey man I get it. It’s hard watching someone you love doing the things that used to be y’all’s thing with someone else. But I promise you life will get better. You shouldn’t end it just because she doesn’t want to be with you anymore. Someone who truly loves you will never leave just because they got attention from someone else. And I know it’s easier for me to say this but it’s true. I promise you there is someone out there that’s gonna love you and be with you forever, it just takes time man. I’m always here if you need to talk, just don’t end it. It’s not worth it.

[undone lodge]

I've been trying to do everything I could but it hasnt changed much because even after Im done with everything you suggested, My Hobbies, Video Games and I've even just finished working out, ever since u sent that message I started working out again after not being able to for a year because the gym i used to go to, Closed down. It hadnt gotten any easier but the only different from then and now is that my Body feels immense fatigue due to working out, But at the end of the day, Maybe somewhere in the middle of the night where im alone with my thoughts, It leads me to her and how Miserable I felt, It was just a perpetual loop that didint get any better, In the day I get to be distracted with the things I like but i dont know how to battle the night, Its only then where Im left alone with my thoughts that It just ruins my entire day just reminiscing about her

[slim oasis]

The nights are going to be rough. I remember how bad mine were and I can only imagine how bad it is for you. It’s going to be hard for a little bit but it will get better. Getting over something like this isn’t going to be an overnight process, it’s going to take a lot of time. Months to even years. But the pain will go away, slowly. You just have to see it through. When it comes to night, some things that could help is doing something like listening to some calmer music or watching a good tv show you like. If none of that works and you just need to hear some kind works you could always listen to a F4M video or two. I know that’s what I did on the really bad nights and it helped me out. I’m proud of you for getting back in the gym and doing hobbies to help but I don’t think you’re doing them for the right reasons. It’s easy to do these things to help distract yourself from the pain but that’s not why you should be doing it. I know from experience that the only way any of that will do anything significant in your life is if you do it for you. Do it because you enjoy it, not because you need to distract yourself. And I know it’s harder said than done but just like everything, it takes time. You just gotta see it through man. Life is beautiful and I can promise you that you’re gonna find someone who loves you and wants to be by your side no matter what. Again, I’m proud of you for getting back in the gym though. But just remember that healing from stuff like this takes time. And I’m always here to talk if you need it. I may not respond right away but I’ll always get back to you as soon as I can.

[undone lodge]

You could be right, Im not doing these things for the right reasons and its hard to think that when its really all i think about, Not to mention how many things in my room are hers, She baught me games, She baught me Ingame Items, She baught me Vip Passes and I returned the favor by buying her Food, Ingame Items and Accessories she loved, but I'll see if i could trust the Time and Process of these things, I dont really think I'll find somebody who'll love me like that tho. What Caused our breakup was the deterioration of 2 Mentally ill People who wernt able to take care of each other anymore. Even If i were to find someone who will really love me, That dosnt mean Im suddenly allowed to lay myself out and let myself feel the emotions right? It now scares me to get into another relationship because No matter how Loyal, Unconditional, or Loving I am, So long as I Still am Mentally ill I wont ever be happy with anybody, Atleast thats what i've learned through this breakup.

But Thanks for taking the time to help this poor man