Im 17m and my girlfriend just told me she was poly. She told me she was poly and how it might become a possiblity that she would be dating somebody else. As we were talking i slightly show my distaste for the new discovery and she kinda blows up on me saying she feels judged and i am slert shamming her. First of my discomfort was due to the fact i am not open to sharing. I really am not. but i really love her and i wanna to marry her soon but im kinda scared shes cheating on me now and im upset because im really not open to a poly rls and i dont know how ill react if it happens. right now shes still upset at me for being upset.
#My girlfriend just told me she's poly
sinful burrow
pallid wedge
If she is polyamorous and you are not, she is cheating on you, or is about to start.
And furthermore getting upset at you for not liking it is manipulation at it's most basic
sullen iron
Yeah it’s over champ
Shes using it as an excuse to either bang other dudes
Or she’s been banging other dudes and is comfortable enough to spring this on you so she can bang them in front of you
Either way she’s banging other dudes
Break up with her
sinful burrow
we are both religious and still in school
her parents rarely let her out of the house so we are on ft 24/7
idk if im being deluisonal but that atleast rules out "banging" other dudes
sullen iron
What do you think poly means
sinful burrow
multi
sullen iron
Means she can go out and do whatever she wants
She’s interested in unrestricted relationships
Go out and date and bang other guys
Those two things being indepdent, she doesn’t have to date to bang them
Honestly arguably worse that she wouldn’t be going out banging other guys
Means she’s emotionally getting invested with other guys
sinful burrow
yes thats what i fear
sullen iron
Either way
Break up with her
Unless you’re willing to sit there like a doormat and let it happen
Or you’re poly too
sinful burrow
no im not poly :(
i dont wann sit here like a doormat but until i can talk to her again with a sound mind its kinda all i have to do
she needs a minute before talking
she doesnt do well with on the spot confrontation
sinful burrow
no i wanna set up boundries against it
thats usually what we do if we donnt like something\
sullen iron
What boundaries?
sinful burrow
that i am NOT comfortable with sharing and if being exclusive isnt in our future i wanna breakup
thats what ill say
sullen iron
Sounds good to me 👍
calm garnet
we are both religious and still in school
she can't possibly be that committed to her religion if shes having affairs with multiple people
she might just be for the streets
no disrespect to you though
sinful burrow
she can't possibly be that committed to her religion if shes having affairs with...
shes recently comingback to the religion so shes still learning 😔
pallid wedge
She's going the wrong damn direction
exotic hollow
I'm so sorry to say this but if your partner is poly, and you aren't. You have to break up. You would hold each other back. You guys want the complete opposite and there's sadly no solution.
austere lava