#Cheated on after 3.5 Years

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tardy elm
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I just got out of a 3.5 year relationship. We originally broke up because she “stopped having feelings” and wanted to be alone. All my suspicions of cheating I did not validate because with the length of our relationship i trusted she wasn’t lying or deceiving me. I was moving out of our place because we lived together and I helped her move to her new place. With a little snooping, I found and unsent letter to her lover about all the sex they were having and documented times I had confronted her about things I was suspicious about. I’m about to join the military and I’m a mess right now. She was my best friend in the whole world and 2024 she started cheated on me before she moved in with me. And she was the INSTIGATOR.

I confronted her and she feels guilty and horrible but she’s more upset she got caught. The best thing that ever happened to her (me) she threw away for nothing. Like dogshit.

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Would prefer responses from 20+ only.

coarse ledge
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Sorry about that🥲

tardy elm
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I don’t think I can ever love someone like that again

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And I’m afraid of being alone

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We even talked about getting back together farther down the line when I got into the navy

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I guess I dodged a bullet but my heart shattered into a million pieces

exotic forge
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I may not be 20+ but i feel the pain you having

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I also got cheated on like that, I feel the anger and sadness you feeling

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What's best I can say it travel, it's best to clear your mind

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Take a trip somewhere

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Clear your mind

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Discover something new

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Maybe one day you'll find someone who loves you truly during the travels

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I hope for you the best @tardy elm

tardy elm
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I’m gonna be doing a lot of travelling in the navy

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I’m glad I have closure for my future but I’m scared of being alone

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And I thought that she was the one

exotic forge
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It's okey, be positive

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Theres more to the lake, if one fish is bad doesn't mean the whole lake will have bad fishes

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People come and goes and we have to accept that

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I face that in very hard way

tardy elm
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Yea I understand

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But our love story was so well wrote, I moved states to be with her, and I won’t say who for privacy reasons but she was also bit of a celebrity so now I feel like a bum

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Disgusting she was having sex with two people (including me) at the same time

exotic forge
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I dont understand women why they have to cheat? Can't they just break up and say they dont feel the same spark? This generation is something else..

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This is why dating sucks now because of constant reminder of getting cheating on and then having trust issues

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My girlfriend doesn't give a shit about my past trauma that I get cheated on in bad way and yet she thinks I need to man up and forget that shit

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Instead of reassuring that nothing like that will happen

tardy elm
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Love is just ruined

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I’ll only forgive her if she kills hereelf

dreamy patio
tardy elm
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Is it though?

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Wasted my time

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And broke me emotionally

dreamy patio
# tardy elm Wasted my time

nah you didn't waste any time, I'm assuming you are 20+. This whole situation would be great for you to reflect on mentally. 3.5 Years down the drain, not because of you but because she couldn't see this blessed beautiful veiny ahhh dih infront of her. We are currently going through a bopdemic so there is a slim chances you will actually find a loving girlfriend but there is still someone out there. I say you just focus on yourself and learn from this. I wouldn't stress too much because obviously she doesn't care about your feelings. Keep your head up and focus on chasing a bag. I don't know if you have any friends but maybe create some along the way so you won't feel so lonely and eventually you will meet another girl who's in your line of interest.

tardy elm
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I’m gonna be 25 and she was faithful to me through all of college

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The second we hit the professional world, the wall.

tardy elm