my relationship

[reef ferry]

Calm down, you said he had anger issues 1 year into your relationship? Can you tell me what caused it so I have a better understanding?

[mild radish]

he's a jealous boyfriend, but he was never that controlling until after a year of dating,, he started getting mad if i took more than 15 minutes to reply back to his messages, he would get mad if i played games without him and he always thought i would cheat on him w someone else.

he just told me he overthinks and i always reassured him but it got to a point where it was very annoying everytime he started arguing with me so i started pushing him away because i didn't wanna talk to him about my feelings

[reef ferry]

That seems like he’s an unhealthy boyfriend to have. He’s kind of showing toxic and manipulative traits right now. He’s being very controlling of your life from what I see? I don’t think ‘overthinking’ is the right word. He might not actually trust you or he had issues in a past relationship.

I don’t understand him as much as you do though.

[reef ferry]

And by pushing away your only making things worse for yourself, you’ve gotta stand up for yourself. From what I believe most times when someone’s partner is controlling they only do so if the other one is easy to take advantage of or vulnerable.

[mild radish]

i was thinking that he was toxic towards me but i guess i didnt want to accept it to not break up with him, he used to blame everything on me and he wanted me to act specific ways towards him because thats what he wanted. I told him im willing to give our relationship another try if only he fixes his temper and i start communicating with him. He just said he's not sure and i guess im overthinking that he'll break up with me

[reef ferry]

I don’t recommend getting back into the relationship. If anything you have a break to consider your options. Your boyfriend seems really immature right now, he’s showing signs of toxic and controlling behaviours. He knows that you value your relationship so he’ll probably use it/or is already using it to his advantage. You can stay with him and have a high chance of still having to deal with these bad behaviours he’s showcasing or you can finally leave your relationship and spend time figuring out what went wrong, and how you can avoid getting into another relationship like that in the future.

The choice is yours

I don’t control your life only you do.

[mild radish]

thank you so much, i feel a bit relieved i was just panicking once he told me he was unsure about us. if he did truly loved me he wouldve changed from the start.
have a nice day 🙂

[reef ferry]

Ty, Have a nice day