How can I find an online bf

[mortal forge]

why do you feel they must be online?

that's not healthy friend

[river loom]

I’m shy irl I’m an introvert and online it just helps me and I feel more comfortable

[river loom]

Yea that’s why

[mortal forge]

why is you being shy mean you must limit yourself brother?

do you feel more comfortable because you hide your identity and it gives you a sense of anonymity?

[river loom]

I’m a girl btw and no

[mortal forge]

i can tell, i call everyone brother

[mortal forge]

if you are comfortable, mind explaining why?

what's so amazing about online that irl just can't compete with

[river loom]

I am too shy irl and online I just can express my feelings more

[mortal forge]

do you notice something?

[river loom]

Huh?

[mortal forge]

you have just said "i am too shy irl" you've just placed a mental barrier to the best solution because you're afraid of facing it

[river loom]

Oh and btw I don’t use e dating like e sex or smth that shit is disgusting

[mortal forge]

i never assumed you did

i'm talking about this because i believe that online dating isn't the solution

[river loom]

Oh and also people irl either hate me or just don’t match my personality

[river loom]

I believe it is..

[mortal forge]

all people?

why is online you any different from irl you

in the end there is essentially no difference between people on either end, they're all people right?

[river loom]

It’s not I’m the same irl than online just that I’m shyer irl

[river loom]

Yea

[mortal forge]

why are you shy?

there shouldn't be any reason to be shy, surely

[river loom]

Idk

[mortal forge]

so, notice how it's not a problem with the people, it's a problem with yourself and your own confidence

[river loom]

Even if I try not to be I just can’t stop being shy I think it’s genes or smth

[mortal forge]

i think it's because you find it easier to communicate online

[river loom]

Oh no like people hate me shy or not atleast on my country

[river loom]

Yes

[primal hinge]

No one's introverted ! That's just my view, you just haven't found the right group of people yet!

[mortal forge]

here's what i'm trying to say, they don't hate you because of you man, almost noone does that, they don't see you as approachable, if you are always shy, but they like people who are themselves, and are relaxed socially

[mortal forge]

but surely that means it's because you lack irl confidence

why is that, if it's okay asking?

[river loom]

Idk ngl I think it’s bcs I hate myself so I think everyone hates me

[mortal forge]

no, that's not how it works

not everyone hates you

you begin to see it now

"i hate myself" why is that?

[river loom]

Idk I find myself ugly I hate my body and I think my parents played a role on this too

[mortal forge]

there we go

this is the root of the problem

i've chosen this path to discuss because if i were to just help you find an online bf, it would not have solved your problems, they lie deep, and you don't see them, but you need to understand them and confront them

only then can you work towards that goal of being loved romantically, and i believe you can do it

but the difference is, only then can it be real love, otherwise it will just be a mess of trying to cope off one another

[river loom]

I used to have a gf then I became Muslim it was haram so it was either god or her I loved her so much we didn’t knew irl but she helped me and I helped her through everything tho I had to give up on her that was my only online love experience and I loved it we would call talk play online FaceTime etc and since she was hypersexual I used to help her through her horny moment calming her after that everything

[mortal forge]

why allow a religion to ruin your relationship?

if you were happy, who cares?

you're accountable to nobody

[primal hinge]

Yeh!

[river loom]

Bcs I truly think that god Is my only god

[mortal forge]

where do you get your information about your god?

from scriptures written by other men thousands of years ago, whom all have the same biases and hatred as any human at that time

[river loom]

I was born a Muslim I just wasn’t into it yet and when I discovered that being gay was haram I let her go but I regret it now..so much…

[mortal forge]

are you still in contact with her?

[river loom]

I wish I was

[mortal forge]

look, you're human, you make mistakes, don't be so hard on yourself

you cannot change the past, it is like stone. but the stones can be used to build a better future

[river loom]

Ik but like damn the only true relationship I had was her I loved her but I think I was forcing myself at first till I actually fell for her

I want to feel that love again

[mortal forge]

what's stopping you friend

you can talk to other people in real life

and find someone else you love by just being yourself

stop giving a shit about other people and their opinions on you

[river loom]

You don’t understand like I genuinely can’t find anyone irl

[mortal forge]

stop worrying and start living, then you'll find love quickly after

[river loom]

I tried,for years

[mortal forge]

because you're not putting yourself out there

[mortal forge]

elaborate on "tried"

[river loom]

I am

[river loom]

I flirted I had crushes I confessed I got rejected by everyone tho at my school everyone hates me so I can’t

[mortal forge]

why do you keep saying everyone hates you

that's not true

[river loom]

They do

[mortal forge]

you make it seem true, it's not true

[mortal forge]

rejection is part of life, you need to see it that way

don't take them as an attack on you, a sign that you're not good enough, but take them as a lesson

observe friend

don't make your mind up before you take a look, see what the reason was, why did it end that way

and be sure of the conclusions you make, don't let your mind make shit up

[river loom]

For years..

I don’t like irl dating

I prefer online dating

And I don’t think that will actually change..

[mortal forge]

i have told you what i have to, you have everything at your disposal to make change, i cannot force your preference,

one thing is certain, idleness will fix nothing, you must take the initiative

[river loom]

Yea

[lucid cloud]

This is true

I have a introverted personality type but w people I identify with I am really extroverted

[fair gyro]

That's a scary path. Especially considering if the age in your bio is right. I hope you wait. But if you don't, stay safe. Know the warning signs. There's alot of evil out there that preys on young girls like yourself.

[river loom]

Ok dw

[lucid cloud]

Dark souls ahh

The evil preying

That’s crazy