#my bf yelled at me bc i didn’t eat

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hybrid arch
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i’m just really bad at eating like i eat one meal a day and sometimes i forget to eat or sometimes don’t have an appetite. my boyfriend usually reminds me to eat or get me food if i forget. but today he got sick and got super mad that i didn’t eat.

i dont always forget, its just sometimes i do. i am fully capable of feeding myself if i’m hungry or have an appetite.

but he got super mad today and started a full blown argument. we fought for 2 hours. he said like “why do i have to take care of you” “it’s like i’m filling some sort of parental figure” “are you 12? i’m not your dad” “why do i have to make sure you’re fed every day? the one day i’m sick, i would think you can take care of yourself” but it’s not every day, i do eat when i remember or have an appetite. but he started yelling really really loud when he knows it triggers me bc my stepdad always yell and ive asked him to not yell before in the past but he still did and hung up

nimble kettle
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i'm sorry that you are having to deal with this. of course it is not ideal that he is yelling that was wrong of him to do that. it is really important that you have 3 meals a day though as you could become terribly ill. maybe sit down with him and have a serious conversation on your problems and he could possibly understand on some level. it would be essential that you mention how you would prefer that he would not yell at you aswell. it's not ncie to be yelled at by anyone let alone your boyfriend. i'm sure the anger comes from love.

hybrid arch
nimble kettle
hybrid arch
# nimble kettle you are not abnormal. everything he is saying is not helping the cause whatsoeve...

it’s actually an ongoing issue in our relationship and he just say that he’s sorry for having an attitude or yelling bc he’s upset just to keep doing it the next time we fight. one time he yelled so loud i started shaking and i panicked and didn’t know what to do so i called the only friend that was awake at 3 am sobbing. and he accused me of being an emotionally cheater w another guy so i had to cut that friend off

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him yelling really triggers me bc i grew up w a stepdad that always yell and smash things at the smallest things and he knows that but he keeps doing it bc “i cant change overnight” he says

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he keeps saying “i’m sorry for yelling i know it triggers you” just to do it again

nimble kettle
# hybrid arch he keeps saying “i’m sorry for yelling i know it triggers you” just to do it aga...

atp you guys really have to consider if your relationship is healthy and that you enjoy each others company. as a boyfriend he should be there supporting you through whatever issue you have and you should not feel the need to be shaking and panicking in his presence its just not right at all. again i recommend having a serious conversation with him involving your relationship, what you want and if he will live up to your needs.

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i am not a professional btw just suggesting some ideas.

hybrid arch
# nimble kettle atp you guys really have to consider if your relationship is healthy and that yo...

he’s a very good boyfriend overall but when he gets mad he yells and apologizes just to do it again like it’s nothing. i understand that i need to eat but idk why it can’t be communicated calmly without him saying mean things and yelling. he hung up on me though (we also promised not to hang up like that) so i think ill talk to him about it when he comes to me. but idk how much i can trust his words when we talk and he won’t act just like every other apology and just so he’ll do it again

fossil kernel