Im cunfused need help

[tight edge]

At my new job i met this girl she complemented me and said i was sweet.she then starting touching me etc grabbing my wrists,touching/grabbing my face and she put her head on my shoulders. It was like that for a few months. Then a month later she told me in another life she wished we were married. But the past month she hasnt been doing that stuff as much just got a bf a couple days ago. I did have feeling but i also think i liked for the attention she gave me. I just scared i missed out and she was the one and that was my last chance

Im cunfused need help

[candid tiger]

I think if anything that her coming into your life serves as a reminder that it’s never too late to find someone. You found her, so why wouldn’t you be able to get an another chance in the future? And if anything, there are so many different ways now to find new people like dating websites or even everyday activities. It may seem that her entering and leaving your life was quick and you maybe took it for granted, but I think you should keep looking to the future with a positive outlook.

[tight edge]

I had a weird feeling whuch is why i didnt ask her out, she told me she wanted to call me everyday but bever did

[scarlet leaf]

lesson: if you want something, take your shot and go for it

too late now

though I do think yeah if you just liked the attention then yeah smart move

because certainly not every girl that likes you would be a good relationship

[tight edge]

Like i said i had a weird feeling about her so thats why i didnt ask ber out. She told me she wanted to call everyday but never did

[candid tiger]

Rather than dwelling on this, I think you should keep this as a reminder for the next chance you get to ensure that you are taking every chance that is available

And as I said before I’m 100% there will be more chances for you especially if you put yourself out there

[tight edge]

I didnt put everything in there but i just had a weird feeling about her. My friends told me she lovebombed me

Thats why didnt ask her out my instinst told me something was off, it just saddens me it wasnt real

[candid tiger]

It’s definitely possible but look at the bright side, now that you know, you can apply it to future relationships and cut it off at the beginning if it happens again

[candid tiger]

Yeah that’s an unfortunate result that happens at the end of any relationship, both romantic and non romantic but the best thing to do is remain positive and look forward

[tight edge]

She told me she wanted to call me everyday but never did

[candid tiger]

Yeah she may have been love bombing you but she also could have been hinting that she wanted you to imitate the call

[tight edge]

I did call her multiple time but she rarely answered

[candid tiger]

Did she have valid excuses?

Or did she seem like she didn’t care

[tight edge]

She told me she still needs to get better at english and other times she told me to call at this time and i would she wouldnt answer. She latina btw. Her bf is also white

[candid tiger]

How much does she struggle with English?

Is it possible she felt embarrassed to talk to you bc she was struggling?

[tight edge]

Not that much cause her bf is also white

But she gave me all these compliments

[candid tiger]

Then i unfortunately think she was leading you on and possibly using you for attention as well

[tight edge]

Thats what i been told

[candid tiger]

I’m sorry that happened to you, these types of unhealthy relationships tend to hurt a lot more when the other person is completely fine

Just stay positive and focus on yourself for a bit, find peace and thinking abt what you want in the next relationship you pursue

[tight edge]

Im just scared i ll never get a oppoturnity like she was the kast chance

[candid tiger]

Why do you think that?

[tight edge]

Honestly idk but that just how i feel

[candid tiger]

it sounds like you just need to sort out your thoughts and feelings

your still recovering from the situation, your heart takes time to heal

[tight edge]

I feel better than i did 2 days ago

[candid tiger]

that’s great, during this period I think time will be ur best friend😁

I’d be happy to check up on u in this thread every day as long as u need it

[tight edge]

I appreciate it

So just take my time and i ll eventually get over it

[candid tiger]

Yes I really think so, just do things that make you happy and focus on yourself

[tight edge]

So should i text and get closure or just leave it alone

[candid tiger]

Is it likely that she’ll respond?

[tight edge]

More likley then not but what should i text her

[candid tiger]

I don’t think you’ll get closure unless u tell her what ur feeling

[tight edge]

So i tell her though or just leave it alone

[candid tiger]

Do u feel as though u need to reach out?

[tight edge]

Not really

[candid tiger]

Then no, trust yourself

[tight edge]

But i also want to

[candid tiger]

Why do u want to?

[tight edge]

Idk

I cant think of a reason but i just want too

[candid tiger]

Is it bc u feel as though there’s still smt there for u?

like it’s unfinished?

[tight edge]

Maybe

But i know too its not gonna change anthing

[candid tiger]

Change anything between ur guys relationship or change how u feel?

[tight edge]

Chnge that she has a bf and that im still gonna feel the same

I dont even know what to text her so im not going to

[candid tiger]

I don’t think that you’ll feel the same after

But it’s ok to wait, don’t feel compelled to reach out now

You have a lot of time

I think you should take the next week or so to focus on yourself and then make that decision

[tight edge]

Im unistalling ig today or tmr

[candid tiger]

if u think that’s healthy for u, then great

[tight edge]

I was gonna unistall it before this all happened

Tmr they both work and im worried about that

[candid tiger]

Just try to ignore them and focus on yourself

[tight edge]

Thank you again ill update you everyday you have a good night

[candid tiger]

Of course and sounds good, good night man

[scarlet leaf]

dodged a bullet imo

[tight edge]

Why you say that

[candid tiger]

It could’ve been worse

If they had led u on for longer

Only make u feel worse now

[tight edge]

Thats fair

[scarlet leaf]

dodged someone who wouldn't have made a good partner seemingly

[candid tiger]

^^

[tight edge]

Yeah yall are right if she was the one she would have answered my calls or called me

[candid tiger]

Yeah put her in ur rearview

You have a lot more to live for

[tight edge]

Like i said scared i missed my chance and ill never find love

[scarlet leaf]

nah bro plenty more fish in the sea

you have reduced your options from 4 billion to (4 billion - 1)

and seems like she clearly wasn't the one for you anyways

[tight edge]

So i didnt have to come in to work today there was a big snow storm. Im feeling better than yesterday

[candid tiger]

That’s great, take the time to chill and focus on urself more

[tight edge]

I just feel so lonely

[candid tiger]

Any friends u can hangout with?

Or talk to?

If not, I can’t talk to you if you’d like

[tight edge]

I am just when im not i feel lonely

[tight edge]

I appreciate ill let you know but for sure

[candid tiger]

Cool sounds good

[tight edge]

Doing better but what hurts me is she asked him personal question, got to know him but with me she just complemented me and barely asked personal questions

[candid tiger]

Yea it’s mostly likely she was love bombing u, but that’s great you’re doing better😁

keep it up

[half hazel]

I’m confused

Were yall dating

Your description makes it sound like she was trying to make it obvious to you that she wanted you but you just never made a move

[tight edge]

No, i didnt make a move because i had a weird feeling about her. Our first interaction she called me pretty she rarely askes personal questions. She just complemented me and touched ms

[half hazel]

Well I mean

You can’t really be upset at her

You did kind of let the opportunity pass you by completely

[tight edge]

Im not upset at her for getting a bf its just she never asked me personal questions or really git to know me.

It was shower of compliments and innedudeos

[candid tiger]

Did u read the whole thread?

There’s more to it

[tight edge]

Im doing better each day, right now im just trying fo find what haistyle looks best on me

[candid tiger]

That’s really good to hear, sounds like ur pretty positive