Breakup

[fiery idol]

I just broke up with my gf, it's Christmas. We were in an abusive relationship. She's not a bad person but I just having a week away from her realized everything that was happening was so incredibly wrong

Looking for some help to just think my way through this
I want to help her get through it somehow, I just don't really know how.

i more or less sent this;

I’m sorry I haven’t been texting you back. I’ve just been really overwhelmed, and while you have been away, I realized that what we’re doing isn’t what I want anymore. You once asked me to be honest with you and to leave if I didn’t see us being together in the long term. I think I made that choice in my heart some time ago, but I’ve only just started to believe it.

I know this is painful sweetie, I regret hurting you as much as I have, I’ve only ever wanted to bring you joy. We've tried to make us work, but we're stuck in a cycle that isn't good for either of us. This isn't about giving up, it's about us realizing that we aren't moving forward. I want the best for you, and I hope this gives both of us a real chance to heal. I believe you will find what you need one day and that you can find people in your life to bring you real happiness, even if I can’t be that person for you anymore.

missing some stuff from the end because its quite personal

[shy tulip]

Hey brother, I know it sucks, especially if it was your first love, you're strong for realising it wasn't for you anymore and taking action.

Can I dm you? I went through a similar thing awhile back.

[fiery idol]

Yeah of course

you can dm me man