#I dont have any real friends and i struggle talking to people

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onyx dune
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NOTE: This is a repost

gray oar
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didn't i helped you :/

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do you have more questions?

onyx dune
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You did help but i need some more

gray oar
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hm

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about what?

onyx dune
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Talking to people really

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i cant really say much i kinda just freeze a lot

gray oar
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yeah i understand that

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but you know only thing that can help you it is to actually try and talk to them you won't be good if u don't practice

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like i told you

onyx dune
gray oar
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try to play some sports or go to gym

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you need to feel good about yourself

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you have low self esteem

onyx dune
gray oar
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and need to improve it

onyx dune
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and i hoenstly need to focus on exams and stuff

gray oar
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oh is that so

onyx dune
gray oar
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maybe workout at home or outside a little

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you probably think they will judge you

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or think you are weird right?

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if u talk to them

onyx dune
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Wdym?

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who are we refering to?

gray oar
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i mean

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about what are you scared

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to talk to them

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you think they will think you're weird or?

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if u talk to them

onyx dune
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Yeah thats one thing, the worst part is that people started rumours about me being weird and now people believe it and try and avoid me

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if nit they are juts horrid

gray oar
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yeah

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thats sign of low self-esteem

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you think about yourself that you don't worth much

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so they will judge you

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u need to improve that about yourself

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and maybe it will be easier to talk to people

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but it would be hard too yk?

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but just need to embrace it

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there's not easy way for that

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but later you will see that everything is stupid

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people are not that bad haha

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most of them

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and you shouldn't care about bad people and rumors

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don't let that distract you

onyx dune
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im not so bothered about the rumour itself people dont care much about it but rather the effect it left on me

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i dont know how to properly act when around people

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i sometimes shake a bit

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fidget like biting my nails because im so nervous

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and it makes me feel so uncomfortable

gray oar
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yeah but you know if u just stay there day by day

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at some point you won't shaking

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then you will shake when u try to talk to them

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week two

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you won't Shake anymore

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it's hard

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but that's the only way out

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you can't do some magic and now you can talk to people

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you need to train

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like running

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you running day by day

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and you can more

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you maybe will say one or two words

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but later maybe you will whole sentence

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just need time

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you're good

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its scary ik

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i was in the same spot

onyx dune
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what would you say is the best way to become more confident when speaking to people?

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is there like some technique or something?

gray oar
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you need to feel good about yourself maybe that will help a little but i don't think so

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but the only way to speak to people it is to speak with them

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it would be scary but you will find it stupid later

onyx dune
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So basically just try and speak to more people even if its like a small hello or something

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or a small convo?

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right

gray oar
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yeah

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try little by little

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go in some grocery store and ask someone where to find something

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even if u know

onyx dune
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Thats a good idea

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i think i can what you have said

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seems do-able

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thanks again