My parents had me when they were in there teenage years and my birth dad's family did not want to look after a baby at the time so i was handed over to my mother. My mother's family had enough to provide and raise me so i did not struggle in my childhood. My mother recently married someone and is planning to have a baby. Life is good right now for me. My step-father treats me fine and I have the opportunity to attend a good private school in my area. My relationship with my mum is nice too.
One month ago, my birth father got in contact with my my grandmother and in her words- was very apologetic and wanted to meet me if i was ok with it. So far- i was told that he did not have a choice in staying in my life and that his family did not want him to. so much so that they moved back their home country in Europe. He also is now a college professor and spent time in the military too. ive seen pictures of him and i can see the resemblance. he looked like a pretty serious and buff sorta guy not gonna lie. does not look exactly approachable but i should not judge on looks. (my birth father is slavic- not exactly sure which countries and my mother is chinese)
he sounds nice and like he wants to reconnect and i am willing to meet him but my mother and step father have been asking me if i really want to meet him and how he left my mother when he should have stayed or made more of an effort to at least get to know me when i was younger. i feel like if i do meet him my parents wont be happy. as of now we have received no legal proceedings- so it's clear (said by my grandparents) that hes being cooperative and understanding of what we want to do. this would probably at least give me closure but my parents are (clearly) against it even if they are trying to hide it. i was told he was willing to fly out to meet me- even if it was just for a day. he also as of now- does not have any other kids.