i cant move on from my ex | The Therapy Center | Page 1

summer crater Oct 31, 2024, 5:42 PM

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i think shes already moved on but i still cant move on and still think abt her, i really need to study but everyday i overthink abt her and it just feels so lonely without her

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 5:43 PM

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I'm sorry to hear that, how long has it been?

summer crater Oct 31, 2024, 5:43 PM

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well

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almost a month now

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 5:44 PM

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ouch

summer crater Oct 31, 2024, 5:45 PM

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i left my friends to focus on her so now i just really dont have anyone to talk to anymore

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 5:48 PM

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I see, yeah sometimes during a relationship you push your friends away because you want to have as much time as possible to be with the one you love

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I totally get that and I get the feeling of being lost

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But thier your friends for a reason, it may be hard but just try to message them

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Open with a "hey it's been a while but I'm going through something right now and I appreciate it if you could just be here for me"

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they will understand, believe me

summer crater Oct 31, 2024, 5:52 PM

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i see

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thanks for the advice

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means a lot

worldly kestrel Oct 31, 2024, 5:52 PM

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I’m in a similar situation tbh

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 5:53 PM

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you wanna open up about it?

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were gonna be here for one another

worldly kestrel Oct 31, 2024, 5:54 PM

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static horizon you wanna open up about it?

Me

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 5:54 PM

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yeah you

worldly kestrel Oct 31, 2024, 5:55 PM

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So make another post?

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 5:55 PM

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you can talk about it here or make another post

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theres no pressure whatsoever

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 5:56 PM

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summer crater i think shes already moved on but i still cant move on and still think abt her, ...

also look, it's not your place to know anymore, they wanted you out of her life and ultimately if we love so much we need to let go for them to understand how much

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and if they don't come back it just means they didn't love you as much as you did

worldly kestrel Oct 31, 2024, 5:56 PM

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I’ll make a post about it tbh

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 5:57 PM

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I see, can relate with the ADHD and I know it's really difficult man

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I'm also about 2 weeks in

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but I've learned again the person who gave me up was very selfish and toxic and I don't need toxic people on my life

worldly kestrel Oct 31, 2024, 5:57 PM

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Iv made a sprite post

summer crater Oct 31, 2024, 5:59 PM

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static horizon and if they don't come back it just means they didn't love you as much as you di...

she thinks everything is my fault

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she did say she might come back in the future maybe

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and i think thats kinda what kept me on a leash

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thinking if she would come back

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but also she would act like shes completely moved on

worldly kestrel Oct 31, 2024, 6:00 PM

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Iv made my own post now

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 6:01 PM

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summer crater she thinks everything is my fault

what did you do specifically?

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 6:01 PM

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worldly kestrel Iv made my own post now

cool, I'll look into it soon

summer crater Oct 31, 2024, 6:02 PM

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static horizon what did you do specifically?

well kinda long to explain

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to explain it shortly

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 6:03 PM

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what i can definitely say is it's ok to leave a door open and continue to walk forward

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don't obses over the hope and obsess over the better version of you you can be

summer crater Oct 31, 2024, 6:07 PM

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she basically had a boy bff who liked her, she knew he liked her and i knew it too. she also knew that i didnt like him around her, but js told me not to worry. and i found out that they were going places tgt without my knowledge, i only found out cus they fought and broke off. after that i was upset abt it and had many questions but she would js cry that im bringing it up, so i just unintentionally became dry and distant. when i became dry she was telling me abt how im hurting her. she was telling me abt how much chances she gave me to chance (to not be dry) and at the end i did but she js said she cant forget the disrespect and broke up

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she would also complain a lot abt my trust issues when shes lied to me so much

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she would just blame everything on me and she thinks shes the victim even now

summer crater Oct 31, 2024, 6:08 PM

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static horizon don't obses over the hope and obsess over the better version of you you can be

well i try but its hard

static horizon Oct 31, 2024, 6:20 PM

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Sorry, was getting home

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well this is what she thinks, and what you think is that she wasn't being truthful

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it's really difficult to let go of someone we love and were so blindsided to the idea of loving them that we can ignore negatives they do because we try to forget and forgive at times

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like here you made things clear with your gf that you don't like him being around because it's a conflict of interest because you want to be exclusive to her and you expect her to be exclusive to just you which is ok to feel

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and it's ok to act distant, infact honestly I'd take a week to really decide if continuing is even worth it because this person obviously has stronger feelings for someone else than for me

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