raven osprey
Could get apps that aren't exclusive for talking to talk on there, like instagram or something, gmail has a chat option for anyone in your contacts, hell you could even talk in reddit dms or just plain email or something
i've never had that exact scenario but i do end up having to get a bunch of apps to talk to specific friends
slim talon
How strict was her dad? I'm thinking of contacting mine through TikTok and having a talk so I could have any way to just talk to him, but his mom is really strict, like Chinese strict, about relationships and stuff like that. So she really doesn't support relationships that much, But she knew about me and him being in a relationship for a while so I don't know if I can even convince his mom
How did the talk go though? Did the dad approve?
raven osprey
How strict was her dad? I'm thinking of contacting mine through TikTok and havin...
yeah thaOH HOLD THAT THOUGHT
slim talon
BRO HOW DO I APPROVE OF SOMEONE THAT HAS CHINESE LEVEL OF STRICTNESS
raven osprey
as someone with a strict asian mom the only way is just to white lie and hide things
raven osprey
you could delete apps and move to browser stuff
slim talon
I forgot to mention that she doesn't like me as much cause of where I live
slim talon
you could delete apps and move to browser stuff
Can't either😞
raven osprey
how come
slim talon
She removed google I think
raven osprey
wtf
raven osprey
bruh
the OLDEST SCHOOL way to do it is google docs
i used to make chatrooms on google docs in like middleschool lmao
thats the only other thing i can think of if he has google drive on his phone
slim talon
I don't think he really has access to anything
He doesn't even have WhatsApp
If Google docs is like built in iphone then ye I can try that
The thing is his mom knows everything that he does on his phone
raven osprey
can he use safari?
slim talon
He tried too
fast gyro
The thing is his mom knows everything that he does on his phone
he got a laptop?
or a pc
or yall can lay low for a lil
untill his mom frees him
slim talon
Only for school ye
fast gyro
it might take some time ye
raven osprey
you could honestly get some mobile game you can add eachother on
fast gyro
Only for school ye
oh he can use it
fast gyro
you could honestly get some mobile game you can add eachother on
lmao yeah
slim talon
I told his friends if he can borrow their phone so he can call me
But that's two months from now
I'll wait until that long though
Only way :(
slim talon
Thanks
raven osprey
well the other thing is how would you arrange the hidden communication with him if you cant communicate
slim talon
I told his friends to try and talk to him about it
Only thing is if they have diff classes
raven osprey
how long distance we talking
raven osprey
christ
yeah idk at that point cuz i had the same thing when i was younger
(12)
except not because of a gf
slim talon
I can resort to talking to his mom but it's unlikely that she'll even allow it
Woah
Did her dad allow dating or was it because she stayed up?
Ohhh
raven osprey
just cuz i like
accidentally went on horrible sites and talked to this creepy dude on here so inherently i freaked out and asked my dad like what do i do
so he basically took over my google account for a year to monitor my stuff and block certain stuff
which is an understandable circumstance but ive had to deal with my stuff being tapped before
i eventually snuck back onto discord to try and find my friends but i somehow couldnt find any of them
raven osprey
it was then another like 2 years before my dad found out i had discord again
slim talon
I get why a parent would monitor their kids laptop if they are 12
raven osprey
yes lol
ikik very different from your case
but kinda similar
the reason i tell you is because
eventually the attention gets lifted
just enough for you to start sneaking stuff
slim talon
I think I'll try to talk to his mom at some point
Sneaking doesn't really do anything and they eventually find out
raven osprey
yeah thats what i was saying with like
getting apps that arent specifically for talking and talking on those
raven osprey
Sneaking doesn't really do anything and they eventually find out
my mom only found out i talk to people online like 5 years after i got discord for the first time
and that was because i met up with a friend irl
slim talon
Woah
raven osprey
how come lmao
oh no he wasnt the one i met i still actually havent met him
but we call like every day and we trust eachother the most
we have video called and he has my number etc
slim talon
I don't really have the power to match how active I am in talking online than irl so totally get it ngl
raven osprey
we somehow only video called like a month ago but weve called since like a few months into knowing him
i only video call like 3 people but thats just bc people dont answer the phone
thats understandable
slim talon
Understandable
raven osprey
i used to be the same
but idk ive kinda gotten used to it cuz like most of the online friends i have now ive either met irl or know theyre real cuz ive mailed them stuff
i am not idly in public discords anymore this is like the only one im in
or i mean this is the only server im in cuz i talk to everyone in dms
i went through the chronically online phase and took part in server wars and all lmaoo
met some very bad people so i try to stay out of public spaces online
yeah lol
also sorry @slim talon for getting off topic
slim talon
It's fine dw
I'm just thinking whether or not I'll talk to his mom cause she doesn't really like a lot of people
raven osprey
all i can think of for solid solutions is
raven osprey
I'm just thinking whether or not I'll talk to his mom cause she doesn't really l...
i wouldnt unless you want to prove youre a real person
slim talon
i wouldnt unless you want to prove youre a real person
I think she knows
He shows pictures of me sometimes
She's kinda biased probably cause I'm not from their country
Kinda racist ig
raven osprey
the first friend i met in person i had to prove to his parents that i wasnt the serial killer lmao
like they knew we talked and such but meeting was iffy so i like sent a video like "hi ___'s parents this is (me) im real here is my kindergarten yearbook picture and learners permit" and they were ok with it
slim talon
Yeah...
raven osprey
his dad came with him and my dad and his hung out for a bit
slim talon
I think it's mostly about his education though
She's really strict about thay
But he made it clear he doesn't want me to stop talking to him
raven osprey
yeah i hate parents like that
my parents kinda gave up on pressuring me to do good in school cuz my mental health deteriorated to a point where my non mental health believing mom started to think like "ok maybe this isn't good"
slim talon
yeah i hate parents like that
my parents kinda gave up on pressuring me to do go...
I don't think his mom is like that though
She focuses mainly on education
raven osprey
the last time i got straight a's was sophomore year of highschool cuz the last week of that semester i basically went to school with the flu for a week to get my grades up
crashed the next week and didn't go to school for that week
got my first D the next semester cuz i was like "why do i do this"
failed my first class the semester after
raven osprey
She focuses mainly on education
nono i get that
i also have a family friend whose wife like
pressures their son into doing all this prestigious stuff to the point of him crying in front of everyone because he got a c on a homework assignment
he is 13 and she makes him go to bed at 9 on a saturday in july
slim talon
nono i get that
i also have a family friend whose wife like
pressures their son...
I never met someone who's parents is pushing into education but to the point he cried?
raven osprey
ikr
raven osprey
in college i am ecstatic to get c's
d's pass but most degrees don't accept credits if you get below a c
this is non existent in college unless you study 24/7
and even then there is still people who do that but get c's
i personally
do not study
lmao
slim talon
I heard how bad college was but also how casual some professors are
raven osprey
well i kinda study but just like
people study for a month for an exam -> i tag along to a study group the friday before an exam -> get the same grade as the people i "studied" with
evidently id probably get better grades if i actually put in the same amount of effort they did but it is very hard given my mental health situation and past stuff with forcing myself to get good grades
i did get into a senior level class last semester in which i was getting like
the second highest grades in the class just cuz the class is literally my specialty
but other than that its all just
not a scam but like
as bad and not as bad as people say it is
at the same time
slim talon
Do you recommend taking morning classes in college though?
raven osprey
like you will probably not get the grades you want
never take long classes if you have the option not to and spread it out over the week
it is better to have 5 days of classes that you're done with by noon than having 2 days off a week but 7 hours of straight classes for 3 days a week
raven osprey
Do you recommend taking morning classes in college though?
yeah i was just about to say lmao
and you usually have the option of how early you want your morning to be
like my morning classes can be as early as 7 or as early as 11
(i usually go with 10 so i can have 3 morning classes and be done by 1)
it helps to have a car/bike/electric scooter or something
i have the third option lmao
slim talon
aight
raven osprey
like theres a lot of people on campus but your world will be surprisingly small
like i constantly find out my friends from random groups know eachother etc
alr gn lol
raven osprey
@slim talon you wanna keep talking college expectations or the original thing
i think we may have covered everything with the original issue tho
lmao
im sure your situation will end up fine tho
slim talon
not sure but ill try to fix things with his mom
raven osprey
i personally would be freaking out about not being able to talk to the person and whether or not they'll come back but thats just cuz i have ocd induced anxiety
slim talon
It's probably the same with me but its just mostly if he'll even remember me once his mom doesn't really want me around
raven osprey
how long have you known eachother again
slim talon
almost a year
raven osprey
yeah i dont think he'll forget you
slim talon
Hopefully not
i think i just think like it cause no one really lasted a year with me unless its my irl friends
with everyone in general not just rs
raven osprey
if it makes you feel better i still think about the girl i talked to on discord in 8th grade
biggest mistake of my life was introducing her to my best friend
she confessed to me first
i was hesitant to progress too far with her cuz like i said before (or in another thread i dont remember) i didnt want to miss out on a physical relationship going into highschool and i didnt know if my parents would approve of it anyway
highschool relationship never came and my dad ended up being okay with long distances so i realistically couldve stayed with her
but so she was like a first generation german from texas and my best friend kept making nazi jokes so she left
i still get on him for that
raven osprey
yeah he's very apologetic for it
but it's been 6 years so yknow
i've known him longer than i knew her for at this point
but i wouldve liked to see that one through
slim talon
Thanls for talking with me btw
raven osprey
ofc
slim talon
im gonna try just talking to his mom at night incase though
hopefully she changes her mind
raven osprey
i wouldnt reach out
which is the hard part
the best way to build trust with long distance parents is like
you call him and he introduces you
or you send proof through him
slim talon
i wouldnt reach out
with his mom or him?
raven osprey
mom
if you go through the parent/guardian (i only say guardian cuz ive talked to a few girls at this point who live with their grandparents) then theres always the chance that theyre like "dont talk to me or my son ever again" (i thankfully have never had this directly but i know they wouldn't have wanted me at their doorstep)
slim talon
ohhhhh
Yeah i would get that
I think its only his sisters thats fine with me rn
since he told me they were neutral
but i dont really wanna contact them either even if they dont really hate me
raven osprey
yeah i think a solid 80% of the time the like
silent forest theory applies to the internet
everyone is scared of everyone so no one puts themselves out their or trust in anyone but in the end theyre mostly just normal people
except for the few that send and do horrible things
which is a valid fear
and admittedly theres a lot more of that on discord cuz theres no real way to regulate who talks to who
but other than that like yknow
hearty fulcrum
¯_(ツ)_/¯
slim talon
yeah thats valid
asian families arent really as understanding as those in other countries
hearty fulcrum
^
slim talon
i think its best if i either talk to his friends about him so we could have a little bit of talk or ask his sister, which is unlikely
hearty fulcrum
very different mentality, if they want you to say away then stay away type of deal
hearty fulcrum
yeah I'm just describing in general
look im sure if you both still want to communicate and talk you will find an avenue
slim talon
Hopefully
He's the first genuine relationship that i had and i dont wanna lose him either
:/
hearty fulcrum
what have you tried? the treads kinda long so I hadn't had the chance to read it much
slim talon
I didn't think of trying to talk to his mom at all cause it seemed like she hated me but i tried reaching out to him in numerous stuff
like gmail and canva
but his mom had his phone locked out of the apps that he uses
hearty fulcrum
have you tried through like fb messenger or instagram
slim talon
he cant really download anything
hearty fulcrum
I see
slim talon
I think he has chrome on his laptop but i dont know if he has on his phone
hearty fulcrum
theres so many ways to chat with one another now it's mind blowing
slim talon
Yeah
he tried talking to me in gmail too but she found out
i checked the app that she uses on his phone and it checks on everything that he does
eager snow
have u considered talking to his mom once, it can help her realise how much u 2 love each other and can not just stop talking suddenly?
eager snow
dang
slim talon
have u considered talking to his mom once, it can help her realise how much u 2 ...
ye i dont think she does
eager snow
yh u guys can talk in video games aswel
slim talon
could work but he doesn't really have access as much anymore
raven osprey
all i can think of for solid solutions is
- mobile game with a friend option tha...
.
hearty fulcrum
what do you know does he have access too
eager snow
but ye his mom deleted it
oh dang
slim talon
what do you know does he have access too
I dont really know
hearty fulcrum
mm
slim talon
i just know he has access to the apps that was provided by iphone
like mail and stuff
but he said he doesnt receive my emails there either
eager snow
u can hide apps on ios right? can he download roblox and hide it from his apps?
hearty fulcrum
make an unlisted video and share the link so he's able to view it and just text through the comments
slim talon
make an unlisted video and share the link so he's able to view it and just text ...
That could work but his mom might quickly find out
slim talon
u can hide apps on ios right? can he download roblox and hide it from his apps?
He doesnt have access on google so he cant download anything
eager snow
Oh
slim talon
I would risk it
eager snow
are you willing to risk it
Yh its better then nothing
slim talon
but im not sure if he even has his phone
hearty fulcrum
mm
but he has his laptop
does he have steam?
you can use steam to message him too
and discord on chrome
eager snow
yh steam messages can work
raven osprey
the mom took the laptop
raven osprey
lmfao
slim talon
Does anyone like study in singapore bro
hearty fulcrum
lmfao
eager snow
bro steam is so hard to work with even after 5 years of use i forget where to find chats
hearty fulcrum
Just uhh
slim talon
i dont fricking know if they take the chrome book away though
raven osprey
ohhhh youre like waay overseas
slim talon
ye
raven osprey
i thought it was like a us canada thing
eager snow
i thought it was like a us canada thing
asia in canada?
eager snow
asian family dynamic
.
slim talon
What do like
raven osprey
there are asian people in canada and the us??
slim talon
chinese parents like
hearty fulcrum
honestly you can use Google voice to make a new phone number and call him using the fake number
hearty fulcrum
there are asian people in canada and the us??
hi we exist
eager snow
there are asian people in canada and the us??
my brains too lagy to think that far rn
raven osprey
chinese parents like
mainland chinese i got nothing for tho that is an entirely different world that i try to stay away from (i cannot date asian women they all remind me of my mom)
eager snow
chinese parents like
u can get a secondry phone number from any country in under like £2/month? try tbat?
hearty fulcrum
yeah just Google vpice
raven osprey
u can get a secondry phone number from any country in under like £2/month? try t...
no but like what about his end
eager snow
yh moms gonna find out one way or the other
slim talon
u can get a secondry phone number from any country in under like £2/month? try t...
gang i dont think he can even use anything atp
hearty fulcrum
nvm google voice doesn't work
slim talon
I just use his friends to talk to the dude
eager snow
ngl, one of my friends did that for a stright year. he used to text me stuff he wanted me to send his gf, i would ss it and send it to her and vise versa
slim talon
yh moms gonna find out one way or the other
im gonna be honest i dont rlly care as long as he still wants to talk to me
slim talon
ngl, one of my friends did that for a stright year. he used to text me stuff he ...
they still together?
raven osprey
the only thing i can think of at this point is just talking through games cuz all the stuff i used to talk to my dad while he was overseas were actual talking apps (viber, whatsapp, skype)
eager snow
Yep
hearty fulcrum
Just try the video idea until you can think of something better
slim talon
woah
eager snow
year later he talked to his mom about it and now they can chat freely
eager snow
just whatsapp with disappering messages?
raven osprey
yeah but the whatsapp app would show up
eager snow
yeah but the whatsapp app would show up
yh but messages would disapper so his mom won't know who hes talking to
slim talon
what apps are like built in iphone that people can message in
eager snow
just imessage then
slim talon
I saw the app and i think it gives like
very detailed on what he does
im cooked either way
eager snow
Oh
hearty fulcrum
hear me out
share the same i cloud
screenshot message
it will appear in images
slim talon
i thought of it giving him my google account so he can see my replies and stuff
does that work tho
eager snow
yep it can
hearty fulcrum
i thought of it giving him my google account so he can see my replies and stuff
yeah that works too
make a email to yourself and make sure he signs his messages with an initial so you know it's from him
and you can send attachments so
eager snow
if he does have access to google images, u can share a album with him and u guys can talk there thorugh photos
eager snow
yeah, maybe keep deleting images each day or week
slim talon
thats kinda a good idea ngl
I'll see if i can talk to him and we might figure out what to do
tyyy
hearty fulcrum
np, im wishing you the best in your relationship!!
raven osprey
if he does have access to google images, u can share a album with him and u guys...
mmmmmmm i didnt think of this one
eager snow
that wont really work with many kinds of people but 3 weeks in rough
hearty fulcrum
real
slim talon
I still haven't reached him yet
I feel like crying bro
I wanna call a friend but they're away
slim talon
It won't
But if it does
I'm not dating anyone ever again
I don't wanna experience feeling like this unless it's him
eager snow
I still haven't reached him yet
just wait, dont worry he might be worried too. Dont Assume anything until he answers you
slim talon
just wait, dont worry he might be worried too. Dont Assume anything until he ans...
I really hope hes okay though
idk but im sometimes paranoid
i dunno if he'll really forget about me after a while
eager snow
He wont, if you guys really love each other it would be impossible to forget.
eager snow
I really hope hes okay though
he probably is, its probably just like what u said, his mom has his phone
slim talon
He wont, if you guys really love each other it would be impossible to forget.
I hope he wont
We both promised about getting married to
:(
eager snow
Dw about it, just hope for the best.
hearty fulcrum
I'm not dating anyone ever again
you tell yourself this but one day your going to find someone