I haven’t had any connection with a woman in my life due to a bunch of extremely traumatic experiences with women in high school. does this make me a bad person?
#Is it bad that I’m 23 and never had a single friend or any kind of connection with a woman?
lament horizon
narrow blaze
Not at all. Look.. age does not matter when your trying to heal from something traumatizing whatever that maybe. It's when YOU are ready to make those types of connections. Might even come off as a surprise to yourself things have a funny way of working out like that. It's tough to hear this but at 23 you have plenty of time don't worry about your age.
lament horizon
I missed out on it as a kid and those years are critical for building understanding of friendships and relationships. There is absolutely no hope for me
narrow blaze
It seems that way now. I don't have a lot to go on saying this besides your comments but it seems you are focused on the past. It's ok to dwell on things that happened or didn't happen in the past learn from it, grow from it. But you always have to remind yourself of the "now" and future. You can't change what happen or didn't happen back when but what you can do is work on yourself now and have your future self be in a better place.
narrow blaze
Believe me, no one will care about experience and if they did thay my friend is whats the red flag.. When you find the right someone none of that will matter for the both of you. Have confidence in yourself to do great things. Take this for example you are already taking steps by being here and communicating, right? Yes i know with randoms but you know how great of an accomplishment that already is? You're out here talking to people. You're on your way friend just have trust in yourself you got this
lament horizon
Believe me, no one will care about experience and if they did thay my friend is ...
are you sure? i feel like some people might look at me as sexist or something