lost a 3+years of friendship in secends

[violet hill]

I could not be the same person after even if the situation is fixed but just to clarify I'm used to losing people but mostly all cases was different or just simply wasn't as close of a relationship
But being said that I'm close to her and giving me present and offer help literally days before blocking me was something.. I don't know how can I trust people or get of self doubts after
Her being in my friendlist alone was something to me .. she influenced me on many levels and she was different by her knowledge and empathy bec of working in culture for over a decade
I need to reach her out again even if she decided to end it but I want it to be ending on good manners.. but of course I value her and wish we get back as soon as possible.. I'm literally frozen since that happened

[violet hill]

Guys?

[burnt ferry]

You need to clarify more, what exactly happened?

[violet hill]

Wasn't much .. we used to vent and share our struggles , I was sharing my new shoes I got and some other struggles and got blocked out of nowhere .. there were some comments on from her that she wants me to have no expectations or unhealthy attachment , or that she will engage when she feels up to and won't let me pressure her or guilt her.
From that I concluded I might did overwhelmed her

But I was thinking to reach out to her and apologize

[simple ermine]

Keep it short and simple. Apologize for "giving her that impression", and tell her that she can take as much time as she wants and you'll keep your distance until she gives the okay.

Of course, we all know that she's right about unhealthy attachment. You're definitely crushing on this girl. Important thing to get this relationship back and maintain it from there is to be less clingy. Show that you have a life outside of her, that you're busy with passion projects and the sort

[violet hill]

Beautiful answer but just to clarify:It's a friendship of respect I don't crush on her .. she meant in form of venting or something

I guess

Or me saying I love to share with her

[warm raptor]

what I would do is give her a break, forget about it and then try to fix it