being not attractive makes you worthless

[indigo grail]

i just read the comments on a video of an attractive man, seeing how all the girls fawning over him because of his look makes me think that if you're not attractive don’t even try to find love because even if you find someone who's willing to be with you they're only with you because they can't pull someone more attractive.

it's the harsh truth that’s life we gotta accept it.

[polar tinsel]

what's wrong with finding someone on the same looks level as you?

[indigo grail]

i did and she left me when someone more attractive gave her attention he cheated on her and she tried to get back with me i blocked her.

that’s when i realised that girls only settle but once they get a better option they're gone.

[polar tinsel]

you can find someone new

if you're really worried about them leaving you could work on yourself, go gym, get rich

and so they won't have better options

[polar tinsel]

Also I think you can find girls that won't leave no matter the options they're given

some girls have morals

[indigo grail]

they are incredibly rare my friend.

[polar tinsel]

yea I mean idk

[proper nest]

Nope, just because one apple is rotten doesn't mean all apples taste bad

[proper nest]

of course, a lot of people prefer attractiveness

but, there's always a person for a person

you'll find your person soon

[ebon inlet]

being attractive is not the only thing

[polar tinsel]

how are you defining true love

[mental prairie]

Truth is, whether we like it or not, there is a cliff, where at the top if your on it, you don't need to worry about finding love. And if your below that cliff, its just a pit of struggling.

I always get told "Looks attract, personality keeps", and people will always say personality comes first, and then looks after. It's hardly true though. I've seen countless people get heartbroken over the most obvious douche guy, but he's attractive so they stay.

Its honestly a sad reality but, Looks Attract will always be true, and you cant get to know the personality without being attracted through the looks.

[polar tinsel]

I mean it depends how you compare it

its sad if you compare the best

but happy if you compare to the worst

[mental prairie]

But nobody compares themself to the worst looking people

And if you are

then your simply more attractive then the rest

Also not a mindset i'd like to adopt

"itleast im more attractive than that guy"

lmao

[polar tinsel]

I mean

better than comparing to those that are better and being sad

but just don't compare

[mental prairie]

easier said then done

comparison is the thief of joy

and we wont know how to grow if we dont compare

[polar tinsel]

hmm yea

gratitude is a rare thing these days

internet did not help

[mental prairie]

its more just beauty standards

beauty privilege will make the next person feel like they are worthless

I've seen people in careers like sales do better cause they are more attractive

seen people get better jobs,internships, etc

born with stats

cant even compete 💀

[polar tinsel]

yea idk its hard for me to say cause everyone thinks I'm good looking

[mental prairie]

LMAOO

yeah good shit man

[polar tinsel]

someone told me I should work in sales

like a few weeks ago

[mental prairie]

Yeah do it

[polar tinsel]

but tbh I want to be a movie star

[mental prairie]

i mean if your good looking work in sales or like do something where people have to look at you for long periods of time

Therapist can help too

[polar tinsel]

I mean I've walked by random groups of girls and they've said "did you see that guy, he's so hot"

I don't know how common that is tho

[polar tinsel]

makes sense

[mental prairie]

gg

won at life

[polar tinsel]

I mean its rng

its kinda bs

[mental prairie]

True

isnt it

everything rng

If you go deep into that rabbithole

you'll go insane

dont recommend it though

[polar tinsel]

I mean I don't believe in free will

[mental prairie]

I mean, its rng you aren't born with adhd, or born with adhd

Apply that to any other mental illness

[polar tinsel]

In my mind fundamentally we are just observers to our own life

[mental prairie]

and you'll find yourself lucky

[polar tinsel]

and you just have to be lucky and be in a human with a good life

[mental prairie]

Yeah

I consider myself grateful

i can get upset with someone, but i never hold grudges like

i usually am pretty easy going

[polar tinsel]

I should be grateful

[mental prairie]

But i see people who get mad at the smallest things

Im grateful that im not like that

im grateful that my rng got me

none of those traits

lol

[polar tinsel]

but my life kinda sucks tho

so hard to be grateful

[mental prairie]

well everyone has

a few things going for them

they just dont focus on it, cause negative things are in focus more

[polar tinsel]

yea

I mean I was born smart, rich and good looking

but I still managed to mess it up

[mental prairie]

oh your the opposite

of me

i was born, ugly, stupid, and not really poor though

but middle class

I say im stupid but

I consider myself a genius

self-proclaimed

[polar tinsel]

hmm

[mental prairie]

But im probably an idiot

[polar tinsel]

I mean I studied at Oxford

which has some credibility

[mental prairie]

Can't beat that

Funny how credientals will always get you more credibility then someone who might've studied more than you

I think about to a funny political debate

where a guy was a

[polar tinsel]

oh right

yea I didn't even study to get there

[mental prairie]

Gynecologist

[polar tinsel]

I just understand maths very quickly

[mental prairie]

and he was debating about abortions

and the woman said

"Your a man you cant talk about the issues of abortions"

😂

Amazing

[polar tinsel]

I mean

idc about abortions tbh

[mental prairie]

Eh

I do

i debate them alot

depending on my mood

[polar tinsel]

if the woman doesn't want the child, its probably not going to have a good life

and clearly the woman doesn't want it, so its good for them

abortions are good for everyone

[mental prairie]

Not really

The idea that you should get rid of something because it won't have a good life

you can apply that to a living 4 year old

[polar tinsel]

we kill sheep and animals all the time

[mental prairie]

Yeah because of biases

imo

[polar tinsel]

the only reason we treat humans differently is because of our own ego

we want to think we're special

[mental prairie]

Thats why i said Bias

[polar tinsel]

its not rational

[mental prairie]

Of course its not

but its what

our

"duty" is

If you were a big

pig*

you would preserve other pigs

That's the duty of a pig

And your a human, so you should preserve the human race

[polar tinsel]

human race is doing fine

we've already won

[mental prairie]

Not really

[polar tinsel]

and its not even close

[mental prairie]

I've considered us

on a ticking time bomb

[polar tinsel]

we still clearly rule the world

there's no other mammal even close to touching us

[mental prairie]

Yet

lol

[polar tinsel]

we are just too much smarter

[mental prairie]

Eventually

[polar tinsel]

what can they do against guns

[mental prairie]

a faster, smarter creature might appear

Or

fungi

that can be our doom too

[polar tinsel]

its unlikely to just suddenly appear

I'd more worried about AI

[mental prairie]

Im not

worried about ai too much

I just think it needs to be regulated

[polar tinsel]

I mean

maybe computers are already conscious

[twin isle]

You're halfway to the truth, but you're also dripping with jealousy. In my own experience, attraction for both girls and boys is heavily based on the visible health of the individual. If you are visibly unhealthy but are sharp and witty, you eventually hit a social cap but you're certainly not out of the running when it comes to romance

[orchid plover]

what is happening here?

[twin isle]

It just happens to be that the girls feeling attracted towards you will also not be terribly healthy. It's like the monkey king from Jungle Book; "I reached the top and had to stop, and that's what's bothering me."

If you want the "39 22 38" girls, first off I think your priorities are a bit scuffed, and secondly you'll have to start hitting the gym. You need to show your ability to commit to things that might not be fun, but are absolutely necessary

[twin isle]

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[orchid plover]

Oh

alr thanks

[twin isle]

oh hang on, what? What tf is going on with the conversation here?

[orchid plover]

thats what am saying

they are talking about ai

[twin isle]

Sort of. Looks attract everyone, and you need to be able to keep the bad ones out.

[polar tinsel]

you could say this about money

but about looks I don't think so

no

you fall in love with a girl based on how she looks

its biological

I mean maybe if you're pansexual or smth idk

why would people chase something if it doesn't feel better

as far as I'm concerned love is just a feeling

ofc if you want to define real love as putting in maximum effort always

but I'm not a fan of the definition

I don't think true love is a real thing

I think its a fantasy

I mean you can find a partner that will be with you for always

but there are a bunch of factors at play which are making that happen

are there many girls you could have true love with?

not all at once

but are there many that exist potentially