#I’m confused about myself

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nova scaffold
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I’m confused about myself

ivory otter
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DId you cheat on her first or she cheated on you first?

topaz zephyr
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Hi

nova scaffold
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I just feel like shit bc I don’t know why I would ever want someone to feel as bad as I did in my first relationship. I feel so much regret. And I don’t know how to work on it.

ivory otter
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Yeah, I'm sorry to say this but it's really bad. It's not your fault on the first relationship and if she cheated on you that means she ditched you and she's not your perfect match. In terms of the second one, that is your fault to cheat your new partner. So if I were you, I will go apologize to the girl whom you cheated and try to make amends with her. Also, maybe give her some time alone. If she still doesn't want to forgive you, then you might as well find another relationship.

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You must be very careful. You musn't let other people say " once a cheater, always acheater" to you.

nova scaffold
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She already knows, that’s not the problem. I told her immediately after everything happened

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I just feel like I’m a bad person in general I feel like I’m very mean and I don’t know how to work on that

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I just think ppl around me deserve a better person in their lives

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I could absolutely not keep a secret like that. I felt bad right after it happened.

ivory otter
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When you say "mean" do you mean your personality?

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as in how you treat her?

nova scaffold
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Mean as in, I don’t see a lot of postive things in general not just my relationships. I feel like im very negatieve and I want to be a better person, I want people to connect with me and I want ppl to feel safe w me.

ivory otter
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Ok, if that's the case, try taking care of yourself first, such as:

  1. Meet new people
  2. Find a hobby that your very passion or good at.
  3. Go to gym.
  4. Yoga.
  5. Take classes like art class, baking class, etc
  6. Go travelling.
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Do that before you start a relationship with someone

nova scaffold
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Do u have any tips for like internalized healing, like idk mentally? Less of activities more of mindset?

ivory otter
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Have a journal/diary

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listen to music\

nova scaffold
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It’s just so hard for me to write down my feelings, it’s such a big struggle I have to work on

ivory otter
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I'm sorry but that's the only thing I could think off

nova scaffold
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Thank you