Look, you really don't need very much conversion skills with women, they like listening to themselves talk for the most part. How attractive are you and how much money do you make?
#Feeling hopeless
nimble zodiac
nimble zodiac
You need to make better money but that still shouldn't stop you if you're attractive. You're probably just not pursuing enough women
slender token
inertiacreep is offering some funky advice... from what I know, all you need to do is visibly and verbally show yourself to be a capable human being in society. Think in terms of, "If I needed to care for a kid, what skills would I need?" and build yourself from there
Mainly patience and good temperment, but also good communication skills.
Romantic gold is when you can help her solve her own problems in a logical and direct way
Side note, what you make doesn't matter as much as what you do. If a girl is telling her friends that her boyfriend does x or y, it's more attractive to say "My boyfriend is a firefighter!" than to say "My boyfriend works at McDonald's"
nimble zodiac
inertiacreep is offering some funky advice... from what I know, all you need to ...
Funky advice? That's a lie. All I said was he needs to pursue more women..... this is literally 100% accurate. He said he's attractive. It's not hard to get a girlfriend if you pursue women and are attractive...
crimson crater
Social anxiety is something that can be worked against in many ways, if you feel like that is what is holding you back from making connections and finding a partner (there is so much self-help material out there, I'm sure you would find something that works for you!). Regarding the feeling that you might mess things up, I think everyone has that to a degree. Nobody wants to be laughed at or ridiculed. It's a kind of fear that tries to protect us from being hurt, but ends up hurting us even more by preventing us to make connections. Maybe it's helpful to try and become more accepting of the fact that you're not perfect (like everybody else) and that everyone makes mistakes. Most of the time people won't even notice all the things you notice and think might be going wrong. And if they for some reason actually do make fun of you or do the thing you fear most, they're not worth your time anyway. 🙂 That also goes for ghosting - if somebody ghosts you, it's on them and helps you filter out those who are not worth looking into further. Also, please don't think you are running out of time, you're so young! 😄 Because with that thought you might be at risk to jump into a relationship with the first person that shows interest and end up even more miserable than if you were single. Been there. Know your self worth and what you expect from a partner. And then don't be shy to show your qualities! If it's not talking skills, I'm sure you have others! Such as listening skills, being reliable, accountable, trustworthy, cuddly, maybe you have a hobby you can connect over...
And, give yourself time to get comfortable with the people you start conversations with, it's usually a bit awkward at first, but then becomes more natural and you can open up, especially if the person you're talking to is more at your wavelength anyway (that's a good sign!). Money and looks, in my opinion, are not that important. But if they are for you and you put these values out there, then you will surely attract people who think similarly. Just know your values and what you're looking for, don't bend yourself for anyone 🙂
Sorry for the rambling, hope some things are helpful.
Good luck!
slender token
Do you have any thoughts on the advice we've offered so far, @slender sonnet?
whole sky
You need to make better money but that still shouldn't stop you if you're attrac...
We don’t care about the money or if he’s attractive. If he makes us laugh and feel like we mean something then that works
nimble zodiac
We don’t care about the money or if he’s attractive. If he makes us laugh and fe...
Women don't even know what they want. He's the one who has to pay for the date for every girl he asks out so he needs to think about making better money.
whole sky
Women don't even know what they want. He's the one who has to pay for the date f...
Ig but you should be able to split the bill? Why would he pay for me.
nimble zodiac
Ig but you should be able to split the bill? Why would he pay for me.
Wake up. This is how blind you are to how much competition men face because as a girl, all you do is pick. You have no idea what this guy has to do to get this girlfriend he's struggling to get.
slender sonnet