#Non virgin girlfriend

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scarlet raptor
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Well

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Your thoughts are understandable

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And how you feel is understandable

mighty cloud
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That is a massive red flag, if it disgustes you to look at her, its time to break up

burnt brook
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And thinks like me and she understands that she made a mistake

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Personally I know she messed up and regrets but I don’t know how to look at her the same knowing all of this

scarlet raptor
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She had sex with him tho?

burnt brook
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She was 16

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Ya

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The guy basically groomed her

mighty cloud
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so she didnt want it?

burnt brook
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She regrets it now

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But at the time she understood it but did mental gymnastics to justify that it was normal

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I don’t know the details

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The thing was she was 16 and he was 20 so I’m assume he said some things to make her be fine with it

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Looking back she’s not so happy about it and apologized to me

full wagon
burnt brook
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Nope its legal

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I checked

mighty cloud
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how?

burnt brook
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5 year gap law

mighty cloud
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a adult grooming a minor is okay?

burnt brook
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I don’t want to reveal which state but the state law said it was okay

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Legally yes?

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I’m shocked too

full wagon
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No

mighty cloud
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that is

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uhhh

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scary

full wagon
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The law sucks

burnt brook
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The age of consent in her state is 16

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It’s fucked

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Like it’s 100% the 20 yr olds fault and he deserves everything bad

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And her parents trusted her

full wagon
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Yep he knew what he was doing

burnt brook
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And non of her friend said anything

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Ya

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I agree

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I still can’t get over it tho

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The fact it happened to her

mighty cloud
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tbh

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i think you shouldput this behind you and her because she didnt want it, and it wasnt her faulth

burnt brook
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Ya I agree

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I’m trying to

mighty cloud
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sorry i cant type for shit

burnt brook
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But it’s just I have these thoughts in my own head

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And knowing that it happened

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And it’s pictured

shadow yew
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hey man, can i join in?

burnt brook
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Yup

shadow yew
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same situation as i had

burnt brook
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No problem man

shadow yew
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my current girlfriend lost her virginity to an older guy, and it disgusted me

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it still dpes

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does*

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im not disgusted at her... im disgusted at the fact that ill never be her first

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have you talked to her about it?

burnt brook
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Same

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About how I feel?

shadow yew
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uh huh

burnt brook
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No

scarlet raptor
scarlet raptor
burnt brook
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I don’t want to make her feel worse than she already does

scarlet raptor
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I had an ex girlfriend who well

shadow yew
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i know i know

scarlet raptor
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She wanted to get purposely ||raped||

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My ex gf did

burnt brook
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Can we get on a Vc!

shadow yew
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but it really helps to hear her say that it was a mistake and that she did it out of lust

burnt brook
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?

mighty cloud
shadow yew
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idk if i can talk about this out loud LOL

scarlet raptor
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Yeah me neither

burnt brook
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No problem

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It’s just

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Idk

mighty cloud
scarlet raptor
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My mom would be like: "what the hell uou talking about?"

burnt brook
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She said she regrets it

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A lot

shadow yew
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but it still hurts...

burnt brook
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And apologized to me

shadow yew
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my girlfriend was groomed

burnt brook
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Yup

shadow yew
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she never said yes to any of it, and yet, they ended up doing it like 5 times

burnt brook
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She apologized to me that I won’t be her first and etc..

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That’s similar?

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She at first went along but then physically didn’t want to but mentally justified it

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Part of it is on her

mighty cloud
burnt brook
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But the older guy was in control

shadow yew
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she told me

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word for word

mighty cloud
shadow yew
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"i let my hormones get the best of me and i was curious, so i just kind of went along with whatever he wanted"

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she did want it at first, but she was still questioning it

burnt brook
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💀

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But anyways

shadow yew
burnt brook
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Jordan it’s similar to my situation

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How did you get over it

shadow yew
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every second he wanted to do stuff

shadow yew
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i just accepted it

burnt brook
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Hahahahaha

shadow yew
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it takes a lot

burnt brook
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How do you accept

shadow yew
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we'vwe been togetjer almost a year and i still complain about it

burnt brook
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Because for the last 2 days it’s been killing ke

scarlet raptor
shadow yew
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she was young

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so its really not

burnt brook
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And she is wife material

shadow yew
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mid puberty

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for her

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dafumbler what can i call you

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besides dafumbler

scarlet raptor
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Ohhh

burnt brook
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Call me Dan

shadow yew
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hi dan

burnt brook
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Ya

scarlet raptor
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Hey Dan

shadow yew
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okay, so i know exactly how you feel.

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if she's really wife material

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waiot..

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let me ask

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have you had any sexual experiences before her?

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doesnt have to be sex

burnt brook
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We just started dated and I had to leave back home during college

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So no

shadow yew
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well like

burnt brook
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Oh

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Before her

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Sorry

shadow yew
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with any other girls

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you're good

burnt brook
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Ya a little

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No sex with anyone else

shadow yew
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it takes a TON of understanding

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i had a girlfriend before her

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i understood her, because if me and my ex had the chance

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it would've happened

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and then you would

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have been in like... the same situation as her

burnt brook
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Wdym?

shadow yew
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before me and my girlfriend got together, i would've also had sex with somebody else

burnt brook
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Ya

shadow yew
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and i understand that she had the same feelings as me when it comes to hormone balance and everything

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so she did it because she had the chance

burnt brook
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Oh

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I see

shadow yew
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you have to be really understanding, no matter how bad it hurts

burnt brook
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She did it because of hormones

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I understand

shadow yew
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she felt

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you know

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like

burnt brook
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But it’s stupid

shadow yew
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she gets the same feeling that you get

burnt brook
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And brain dead

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Ya

shadow yew
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what is?

burnt brook
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The action

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Because at the time she felt it wasn’t right to be with a 20 year old

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She stated that

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And she “feel awarked when telling her bfs age”

shadow yew
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my girlfriend said it didnt feel right to be happening as early as it did because it was out of lust

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let me give you some hope

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if you really love her and she really loves you, then you'll be able to give her a completely new feeling. she may have had sex before you... but that doesn't mean it was out of love.
what really got me over it, is that she's never made love. if you say she's wifey material, then you should always make love instead of having sex. you can be the guy that she doesn't regret doing it with

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that's what made the pain fade away for me

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that we still have the opportunity to make love instead of having sex

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it

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will be her first time still

burnt brook
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Good way to think about it

shadow yew
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if she really regrets doing it with the other guy

burnt brook
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Thank you

shadow yew
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plus, its just better to do it out of love instead of lust

burnt brook
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No what ur saying is complete true

shadow yew
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you'll regret it no matter what if its lust

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you'll be happy with it afterwards if it was out of love

burnt brook
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Makes sense

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Ya

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I still am not sure if I’m able to deal with the thought my entire life

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Ik I sounds like I’m looking for a reason to break up

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But

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I don’t want to

shadow yew
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you have to understand her

burnt brook
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Okay

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But now I’m think of her as a whore

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For doing it out of list

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But it makes sense why she did what she did

shadow yew
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if she was a whore then it would've been with multiple people

burnt brook
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Good point

shadow yew
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if she's only done it with her ex, then at least she's loyal and doesn't do it with multiple people

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that's not something a whore would do

burnt brook
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Can I talk to you in private DMs?

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There’s more to the story

shadow yew
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go ahead