I'm lonely, and it's hurting me rn. idk how to deal with it.

[gaunt valley]

I feel like I need human contact constantly. I feel almost dependent on human interaction, to the point where I can't even do normal things by myself. I can't play video games, can't do hobbies, can't even lay down.

I feel like a wreak. I asked all my contacts if they want to hang out but none of them are up for it. And when I try to go out and socialize regularly, i feel like nobody is a good fit. I don't feel less lonely around most people.

[sturdy urchin]

Is making friends a challenge for you? Do you feek accomplished after successfully making a new friend?

[gaunt valley]

I do feel accomplished to a degree. Idk if I see it like a victory or something.
But it's nice to have a friend. What sucks is losing them when they lose interest in me, or so busy they leave.

[sturdy urchin]

Do you have any close friends? Because man im sorry but thats what friends are. Homies and friends are different

[gaunt valley]

I have close friends. But everyone's schedule is different, and they're usually spending time doing stuff I don't like doing.

[sturdy urchin]

what are your hobbies?

[gaunt valley]

Nothing right now. Depression hits hard, and I can't really take enjoyment in anything

[sturdy urchin]

im sorry that ur going through this man. Ever thought of joining any clubs that u used to enjoy? soccer club for example

[gaunt valley]

I joined a dnd club. But we only hang out every other week

[sturdy urchin]

And have you get to know anyone better from that club?

[gaunt valley]

Not really...

[sturdy urchin]

Do you only like to hangout irl or do you also like gaming with people? if yes u could join a server and play with them.

If u just wanna talk theres 10k people here to chat with u

[gaunt valley]

Hanging out irl

It feels weird to talk over discord

[sturdy urchin]

fair enough

Do u hate studying? if ur still in school by any chance

[gaunt valley]

I'm not in school atm

[sturdy urchin]

studying/working together is a good excuse to know someone

[sturdy urchin]

lucky

[gaunt valley]

I'm really not.

[sturdy urchin]

Hmmm 🤔

[gaunt valley]

I don't have a job either

[sturdy urchin]

to some people u r

[gaunt valley]

And now I'm just in my room doing nothing with my life

[sturdy urchin]

doesnt have to be a job. Set urself a goal and do it. During the process if ur willing to talk u will make new friends.

[gaunt valley]

I'm lonely as hell and pretty much trapped in my room all day every day

[sturdy urchin]

first step, walk out of your room

[gaunt valley]

I have no idea where to even begin with making goals.

[gaunt valley]

Now what?

[sturdy urchin]

you have any roomates? or u live with someone?

[gaunt valley]

Yeah my parents

[sturdy urchin]

They busy?

[gaunt valley]

No, but I don't particularly like talking to them

[sturdy urchin]

Ok. Have u ever think of getting a pet?

dog, cat, whatever something that can company u

[gaunt valley]

Pets aren't allowed to be in our apartments. Also, last time we had a dog I accidentally forgot about them for like a week man. I'm not a good pet owner

[sturdy urchin]

Not even small pets like hamsters?

[gaunt valley]

We had fish before. They literally ate each other because we didn't feed them

I used to have 2 hamsters when I was a little little kid. It ended worse than cannibalism

[sturdy urchin]

Hm, from your history of taking care of pets, this is a bit offensive but Do you think you are taking well care of yourself? like other than the situation ur in right now

[gaunt valley]

I don't even know what that means anymore.
I take showers, I eat as well as I can, I go the gym, and I try my hardest to get a good night's sleep every night.

[sturdy urchin]

great

if u can do that, then try and enjoy being alone. Not be lonely. Take a look of whats around

take a look of whats good about you

[gaunt valley]

How do I enjoy being alone? I'm sorry with the weird questions, but I genuinely don't know.

[sturdy urchin]

Ik the problem right now is u feel not enough company

[sturdy urchin]

yeah its hard

Do you think ur an extrovert or introvert?

[gaunt valley]

I have no idea

[sturdy urchin]

Honestly if u rlly hate being alone, you can join more clubs

but if u think thats exhausting then it means u do enjoy some spare time to be alone

[gaunt valley]

There aren't any where I am, it's a fucking ghost town that pretends to be a bustling city

[sturdy urchin]

sorry my stupid ass dont quite get what u mean. your city is quiet?

[gaunt valley]

There's nothing interesting

And there aren't any groups I can join

[sturdy urchin]

do u like music

walking down the park with headphones on is worth a try

[gaunt valley]

Yeah, but it doesn't change my mood. So listening to happy music while I'm sad just makes me sadder

[gaunt valley]

I tried it, it sucked

Walked for like an hour, and didn't feel like I was doing anything useful

[sturdy urchin]

physical activity is meant to light up ur mood, if walking doesnt work, maybe running, maybe soccer

[gaunt valley]

I hate running

[sturdy urchin]

clear ur mind when walking, dont think whether its useful or not

[gaunt valley]

A lot

[sturdy urchin]

eh, try whatever u want

[gaunt valley]

How do I do this?

[gaunt valley]

Whenever I hit the gym I don't feel better or like I have more energy

[sturdy urchin]

Dont have any intention when ur walking, dont go have a walk when u feel down. Walk whenever u feel like it

[sturdy urchin]

Well its scientifically proved, maybe its cause ur looking to get better and u get disappointed when u dont see the small changes

[gaunt valley]

I feel worse because I feel like I'm wasting my time. And I don't know how to stop myself from thinking yhat way

[sturdy urchin]

do you have anything to do?

If not ur not wasting ur time

[gaunt valley]

I used to go there when I was stressed, but now I don't since it never helped

[gaunt valley]

I could be looking for a job

[sturdy urchin]

if ur not in school or working, then itd time to enjoy life instead of stressing over anything. Ik my advices are sht holy but im just here to talk

[sturdy urchin]

Hm, any changes in the gym?

[sturdy urchin]

i think u should figure out what u like first before putting more pressure onto yourself.

at least give urself a motivation

[gaunt valley]

No

[sturdy urchin]

But having a job does get u to know more people

[gaunt valley]

How do I do this? I really think this is my biggest concern

[sturdy urchin]

maybe dont keep the gym as a route of the day or any discipline. Just do it when u feel like it

[gaunt valley]

I need to make it a routine, otherwise I won't go there at all

[sturdy urchin]

To me, its to improve myself to get everybody to fall inlove. Its silly and impossible ik, but it doesnt matter. If it fuel you, then its one

[gaunt valley]

That's my motivation too. But every day it seems less and less possible

[sturdy urchin]

Thats why u dont like it, ur basically forcing urself to. Imagine you hsd school everyday, then you'll hate it. But if you always had holidays you'll start missing school becauze u miss ur friends or maybe holiday is too boring

[gaunt valley]

So what should I do?

Because I'm never in the mood to go to the gym anymore

[sturdy urchin]

Eventually you will feel like it again if you used to like it, give ur body some rest, no more self-discipline for a period, just happiness

As long as no health conditions are occuring, for that period, happiness is everything

[gaunt valley]

I used to go the gym in highschool, that was 4 years ago. And I didn't go back because I wanted to do it, but because I wanted to lose weight.

[sturdy urchin]

i used to play piano when i was 6 and gave it at 7. Now im playing it again cause i feel like it

Its like 7 years now

[gaunt valley]

I'm 100 pounds overweight

I can't get heavier man

[sturdy urchin]

Change your diet plan.

If you had been going to gym and never changes then its ur diet

[gaunt valley]

I don't have control over that. I don't have money to shop, so I eat what my parents bring

[sturdy urchin]

Start from having less snacks (painful ik) and if impossible, choose the food that is contain the least salt and sugar on the dining table. Do homework out in ur room whether its a wall push up or an actual push up

be more active

change what u can change

[gaunt valley]

I go to the gym to be more active. My room is very depressing

[sturdy urchin]

Maybe try to have more of the colour green, scientific reports show that it relaxes people.

Have more elements that you like, maybe posters of ur fav group

[gaunt valley]

I don't have a favorite band or group

Also, I already have a lot of green in my room

[sturdy urchin]

Character, anything. Even a picture of urself to giggle at

[gaunt valley]

Depression

[sturdy urchin]

hm

[gaunt valley]

I don't enjoy anything rn

[sturdy urchin]

just forget about that for now. Imagine u were happy and everything was amazing, how wouldve that been?

[gaunt valley]

Because my mood changed, my perspective changed

[sturdy urchin]

I recommend u to seek medical advice if u actuallt think u have depression as im just a kid who have similar issues and is here to chat.

[gaunt valley]

Other than that, maybe have a gf. Maybe be more active in the community?

[sturdy urchin]

Mhm fair

What would that gf be like

[gaunt valley]

I have, it's been like 6 years, and they haven't been able to help me

[sturdy urchin]

cute? hot? caring?

[sturdy urchin]

find someone new if they aint helping u

[gaunt valley]

Someone nice and talkative. A little shy but in a cute way. Someone who loves me and loves to make me feel loved. Someone who texts me in the morning asking about what I dreamt about.

Someone who can make me feel happy.

[sturdy urchin]

sounds good. And what do you think your future gf will think about you?

humourous?

shy?

cool?

[gaunt valley]

How nice and caring I am. How much I'm there for her, and how funny I can be. Loves how I can be so spontaneous but also caring about other's feelings.

Someone who makes her feel happy every time she hears my voice.

That's how I felt with my past gfs

[sturdy urchin]

great, im sure ur gfs loved that. And ur future one will. If you can, thats ur goal and ur motivation is a new gf that is shy, caring and ask about ur dream

And how u want to change that is up to u, how long it take is also up to u

as long as u have a goal snd motivation , start doing it and look towards the future. You will attract people without even knowing

[gaunt valley]

I really really wish I knew how to find her.

I have no idea how to even get out there besides getting a job.

[sturdy urchin]

you dont, you improve yourself and time will push you two together

[gaunt valley]

Idk how to improve myself!

[sturdy urchin]

You can start writing a diary if u havent

[gaunt valley]

Idk how to live without someone like that.

[gaunt valley]

I have, but then I stopped doing it because it doesn't help. Also I just forget about it

[sturdy urchin]

You have to look up bro, its a prize and the process is tough

[gaunt valley]

I just need someone to guide me on how to live. I don't know how

[sturdy urchin]

hmmm yeah its reasonable

Have u ever looked at tutorial? or suggestions

[gaunt valley]

Tutorials like what?

[sturdy urchin]

on whatever u want -how to improve urself, how to rizz up a girl, how to get off your bed

[gaunt valley]

They all say stuff that doesn't apply to me. Like "going to the gym will improve your mood and energy"

[sturdy urchin]

Yo if u rlly want someone like that, even online strangers can do it, just not any physical activities

[sturdy urchin]

Try other things, ask chat gpt. Ask peoples experience from this server (not me i dont have any on gym)

[sturdy urchin]

not to sound strange but im willing to talk to u through texting everyday

just chats

i lonely too 🥲

[gaunt valley]

That would be nice

[sturdy urchin]

Yeah sure!

So wanna DM?

[gaunt valley]

Sure

[sturdy urchin]

alright

[rose eagle]

Can I?

[rose eagle]

Same

[sturdy urchin]

Yeah lol

[sturdy urchin]

wait u wanna Dm him or me

[rose eagle]

Both idk