My girlfriend ||hit|| me

[eternal grove]

agreed. but it's just weird why you would pick your female friends over your own girlfriend. she obviously wants you to love her over your female friends. I would say find a girlfriend who you think is more important than your female friends or just clear things out with your current girlfriend that you wouldn't cheat her nor disrespect her over your female friends. hitting is bad but your reply to her by picking your female friends over her was more bad tbh.

[humble moon]

The reason why I picked my friends is because we've been friends for much longer than I've been dating my girlfriend. I have a lot more history with them. And my girlfriend shouldn't be worried about them because they're both lesbians.

[short vale]

But if u love her why do u have female friends, also if this abusive behaviour keeps on, u may consider breaking up, however hurting intentionally by talking to female friends isn't nice afterall

Does she talk to any other person?

What if she left everyone for u

But u give no shi

Now put urself in her place

So u both need to work out together

[short vale]

Then why would u pick them

Man if u are not able to prioritize her over ur friends then why r u in a relationship

Its all about efforts

Because u only told what she did and idk if she has anyone or not

Probably u provoked? Or maybe not but that doesnt give any excuse for invalidating her over some mere friends of urs

She could have left u

[feral axle]

Yeah that is so selfish

[short vale]

If u dont get it then relationship isnt for u

Stay with ur friends atleast it will not invalidate her

And she will not hesitate in future relationships

U got physically hurt she got mentally scarred

💀

[feral axle]

We got a fax spitter

[short vale]

I mean man

I left my friends for my girl because they are shi for me

If i cant keep one person happy

Shi can i give to others

[humble moon]

So I'm being told I deserved to be hit because I chose my friends, who I've been friends with for years, over a girl I've been dating for two months. She wanted me to leave my friends.

I do enjoy being with my girlfriend, but I don't feel the honeymoon phase yet

[daring chasm]

what led to her being so jealous? was she just like that or did you do something? not to accuse you or anything

[humble moon]

She was just like that, and whenever I've asked why she wouldn't tell me

[daring chasm]

maybe it was because of a previous relationship but you seriously need to set boundaries. i dont get the whole "no friends of the opposite gender if you're dating" thing it just sounds insecure.

you need to tell her that you dont like being hit and hitting others is not the solution. and were you and your female friends even close or meet a lot? if no then she's overreacting a lot. if yes then i have to be honest you need to try to tone it down a little. you can still meet them once a few weeks.

[humble moon]

I'm just confused why people are saying that I provoked her into hitting me because I decided not to give up my best friends in order to be with her

[daring chasm]

honestly its better to say the truth on how you feel rather then lie to her and choose her. it hurts a lot more when you find out your bf has lied to you.

but we need more information. theres too little info. can you maybe specify what led to this

[humble moon]

I hang out with my girlfriend about 4 times a week, and my friends... 1-2 times

[daring chasm]

1-2 a week?

[humble moon]

Yeah, we mainly go to sporting events together

One of them is a lesbian and the other is in a relationship

And I've tried having my gf meet them, but she declines every time

[daring chasm]

thats pretty normal? i dont get why shes so jealous

did you tell her when you're going out with your friends?

[humble moon]

Yeah, I always do

Because she asks me multiple times a day where I am even when I tell her

[daring chasm]

im sorry but i really dont see whats the problem here. it just sounds like she's very jealous ? and i dont get why people is justifying it. hitting isnt okay in any way.

[daring chasm]

have you talked to other people about this ? like your friends or family

[humble moon]

Idk why people are justifying it either

[humble moon]

I haven't yet

[daring chasm]

you should. maybe that will help you a lot more.

[daring chasm]

also by hit what level of hurt was it? was it just light punching or full on hitting you

[humble moon]

Full on, like I have bruises and my glasses were bent

[daring chasm]

thats actually fucking crazy call the cops and file a battery case

have you talked to her after this?

[humble moon]

She's apologized to me, but idk what to do

[daring chasm]

over text? or over the phone? and how did she apologize? was the apology ass

[humble moon]

Over text and very halfhearted

[daring chasm]

shes crazy dont accept her back, but it is still your choice to date her back or not.

[humble moon]

Idk why people are saying it's justified because of my choice

Ultimatums aren't healthy no matter what

[short vale]

Oh that's better

[short vale]

Who is justifying hitting

All that is being justified is talking to her and sorting it out

Assuring about it

[short vale]

Yeah they arent

U never specified level of hitting

Then why u just not break up

Good for both of u

[daring chasm]

not you but someone said "hitting is bad but your reply to her by picking your female friends over her was more bad tbh."

[short vale]

Rather not risk mental or physical health

[short vale]

That is fine as long as hitting was normal

Even friends do hit

[daring chasm]

? hitting is normal

[short vale]

Idk if u never fought with friends

[short vale]

Depends if its done in playful way or abusive

In this case its abusive

[daring chasm]

yeah there's a clear difference between play fighting where both of you are fine with it then actual fighting where you didnt even do anything wrong

[short vale]

And so he should consider talking or leavijg her

[daring chasm]

it's only abusive because he got bruises? what point are you trying to make here ? not to argue but im gen curious

[short vale]

None of the two was pure tbh

U say it not in a provoking way while asking why is it so that she dont want his friends

[short vale]

Well u can use some common sense if its gen q

Idk he got bruises or not

But she was toxic

The two should confront and sort it out from root

If it doesnt work

Should separate

Shouldnt risk health

That is my point

[daring chasm]

there's also mental abuse? if shes being this jealous/angry over basically nothing, this is mental abuse

[short vale]

And i am not in shape to argue

[short vale]

She got mentally abused

Probably got reminded of some traumatic event

And so she physically abused

[daring chasm]

because op has boundaries?

[short vale]

So both are wrong

He had to say it in a normal way

[daring chasm]

this. this is justifying

[short vale]

If u are here to argue or defend him, do it

[daring chasm]

yeah i mean i am defending him because he did nothing wrong ?

[short vale]

I am not justifying anyone but i or you dont know if op is really so nice of a person

[daring chasm]

i seriously dont want to argue . think what you like but at the end of the day abuse is still not okay

[short vale]

Im taking both in account

[short vale]

U dont know

U dont know anyone in person

[daring chasm]

how do you know that op is not innocent then?

[short vale]

Based off my experience i am saying what can be truth

[daring chasm]

do you also know him in person?

[short vale]

And i am giving opinion

I specified in my first message

Thereby i am out of this convo

If he wants to sort it out, should confront

Toxicity is threatening

For both

How do u know if she has only him?

Then she would expect him to be with her

Dont ping me in this thread any further.

If u dont want to hear two sided consideration

[humble moon]

What could I have done differently

[daring chasm]

Communicate. You should have talked to her about her jealousy and explain to her.