#looking for insight on PTSD

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sinful basin
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Can anyone with PTSD help me better my relationship. My husband has PTSD from a really bad accident where a friend died he was also raped by his dad when he was younger. Then raised by foster parents who were very racist to him. He is very introverted and has admitted that he can be very spiteful and has mentioned how much of an asshole he's been before. Even his friends have told me how he used to be. They also tell me how much I've helped him. My husband also admits he wishes he can do a better job at being my partner. I've lived with him for enough time to notice how he behaves during arguments or a mistake i would make. He's not abusive or bullies me about my mistakes but i learned to let him air out his anger towards me and then i ask him some questions and then he calms down and has a better outlook on the situation. If i try to critique his actions when he is super emotional about something he will say "Oh I'M ..." and i just ask if he's saying that out of spite and he realizes what he did doesn't admit to it but just goes away so he can cool down lol. I'm really looking for some insight because he doesn't like to open up since it's hard for him to process things.

verbal edge
sinful basin
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Just how to deal with the anger that comes with it

verbal edge
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The method you've shown is good. A great vent is games, jokes and walks

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Try to get him to start taking walks whenever he feels it coming on and such

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It helps clear your mind.

distant bluff
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@sinful basin how mych time u two have been together

sinful basin
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We've known each other for almost three years now

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But we married last year

distant bluff
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Then it will slowly be better with time, make him work on his hobbies

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Make him build them

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Find common interests

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As time passes he will heal himself

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If its ptsd and since u r a good partner

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Besides u can try talking to a therapist about proper method of curing quickly

sinful basin
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I see it happen very slowly I just sometimes wish it would happen faster 😅

verbal edge
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That isn't the kind of trauma you heal from.
You find ways to vent it, as stated, walks, the way she already handles it are great methods. Please don't put these ideas in her head that it's curable.

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Whilst it will improve,it will never go away.

distant bluff
sinful basin
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That's not what he's saying

distant bluff
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But why r u attacking me lol

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U didnt get my point

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He needs to be vent out

sinful basin
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Lol i have mental illness too and i manage

distant bluff
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But being kept engaged

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Will help him heal

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My partner has ptsd

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Major depression

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Many issues

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They wont go away i know

sinful basin
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It isn't curable but from what i feel today I don't really experience it too much

distant bluff
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But the rate has decreased pretty much

verbal edge
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My apologies, I misunderstood

distant bluff
verbal edge
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I thought you were trying to say it goes away or something, I tend to misinterpret, my bad

distant bluff
distant bluff
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My english isnt good so yeah

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U just tend to slowly forget things

sinful basin
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Yeah texting doesn't always get the right message through lol

distant bluff
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And get better as u be with right person

sinful basin
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I feel that well thanks for the advice it really helped me and it got my mood up

distant bluff
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Socializing may not work very well as he is introvert

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But going out

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Walking and planning for things

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There are many ways to handle

verbal edge
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The best method to things like this is distraction instead of confrontation

distant bluff
sinful basin
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Ah ok right now he's on medication that makes his legs hurt so we're waiting for the day he doesn't need the meds anymore

distant bluff
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Distraction will make them forget

distant bluff
verbal edge
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Whilst talking is absolutely necessary, distraction will cool them off so they think straight.

distant bluff
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Well wish u very best and he will surely be better

verbal edge
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I speak from personal experience as I have a condition very similar to ptsd. I distract myself to help think straight.

sinful basin
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He knows to distract himself but i am realizing that he needs me to calm him down which requires me to keep a leveled head whenever he is angry

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Just to remind him to go do something

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But you guys have great advice

verbal edge