I need tips Two stop ||self harm||

[civic matrix]

||So recently I started doing sh. I know I need to stop. But no matter how hard I try I'm going right back into it. Does anyone any tips to quit and stay clean. Also how do I make sure my scars don't get infected.||

[plain hatch]

I dont know how helpful this will be, but when i was doing it and my girlfriend started noticing it too, she said i should wear her hair tie on my wrist and snap it if i have the urge. I still do it today and it can really distracts from all the other things going on. Maybe you can try it too?

[civic matrix]

Ok.

[civic matrix]

I will try that. But how do I make sure the cuts I have nks don't get infected

[plain hatch]

Honestly i think my best advice for you would be just to go to the hospital its the quickest and safest option

May i ask how old you are?

[plain hatch]

Okay so i think you should talk to someone you trust very much and have them bring you to the hospital. I promise you will be helped not only with your wounds but also with your mental health

[civic matrix]

Wont I be sent to a mental hospital

[plain hatch]

That doesnt have to be a "bad" option

Also if you have made bad experiences you should know that not every place is the same and its worth giving some a chance

[civic matrix]

Then my parents would know and they can't know

[plain hatch]

Why cant they?

[civic matrix]

Bc there abusive and narcissistic.

And idk how they would react

[plain hatch]

Have you tried calling any hotline for those kind of problems?

[civic matrix]

Wdym

[plain hatch]

Where are you from?

[civic matrix]

The us.

[civic matrix]

Why

[charred mesa]

Could I try to help or no

[civic matrix]

Yes pls

[charred mesa]

Ok you say you parents are abusive do you mind sharing how their abusive you don't have to answer

[civic matrix]

All I will say is physically

[charred mesa]

Ok have you called the police

[civic matrix]

Hell no. They do it rarely. But u still don't know what will set them off

[charred mesa]

Maybe try calling them

It might help

[civic matrix]

Idk. That's the least of my worries. I want to get better first

[charred mesa]

Well you said your 15 that means you could call child protective services which would help you find a better family and get a better life

[civic matrix]

I could but that's a process and it's not even garenteed

[charred mesa]

They would help you

[civic matrix]

I will think about it.

[charred mesa]

Please do

[civic matrix]

How do you know this anyway?

[charred mesa]

Reasons

[civic matrix]

U don't have to awnser. But have u gone through this?

[charred mesa]

No

But I watch YouTubers who have had it happen to them they needed cps

[civic matrix]

Oh ok

[charred mesa]

There maybe other reasons but

[agile rune]

You should try keeping the thing you use to self harm somewhere else and then just distract yourself by doing other things you wanna do.

And then just keep doing that again.

Thats how you stop self harming.

@civic matrix

[civic matrix]

Ok

[agile rune]

You wanna talk to me or something?
You seem like you could use some help
Your status and profile picture says it all

Tell me what happened and I could help you

@civic matrix

[civic matrix]

I got it. For right now. If it gets worse I will reach out.

[agile rune]

You can just tell me what happened

[civic matrix]

I liked somone and they really broke my heart.

[agile rune]

How?

We can take this to DMs if you want

[remote grotto]

I have some tips: First off all accept the thing u doin is normal.Every man experiences this att the teen stage

nvm dont read anything i said

i misunderstood

sorry sorry

[remote grotto]

Have you recovered now

[remote grotto]

from sh

[agile rune]

i am simply just warning you
dont do any further business with her
she isnt a good person

[remote grotto]

ohh

[primal moth]

You're applying too much justice and not enough mercy upon yourself.

[remote grotto]

didnt understand

can u use simple term

[primal moth]

They are self deprecating excessively, that's not good, or useful.

[civic matrix]

I'm trying to.

[agile rune]

stop attention seeking you piece of crap

[civic matrix]

<@&854409594063683595>

Tysm!

[stiff yew]

Hi, you can check this out since this can also help a lot
#staff-recommend message

[civic matrix]

Tysm! I didn't know this existed

[stiff yew]

Np!😇

[stiff yew]

I understand || self harm || is a coping mechanism and it’s hard to stop once you get used to do it, but please consider learning harm reduction, along with trying out safer and healthier copying skills.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1okE-mxrxUT6MEogtW5xDPOgP_cL8GotibbxfwIeYGiU/edit

(Also this too...forgot to add😅)

[civic matrix]

It really is hard once I stop

[ripe ember]

the only way to get rid of a habit is to replace it

you can distract yourself by playing videogames or getting lost in a book

[civic matrix]

<@&854409594063683595>

?

[agile rune]

<@&839209649005527111>

^

[leaden temple]

They have been muted

[stiff yew]

why not banned-

[leaden temple]

The ban will need to be processed first

So for the time being they have been muted

[agile rune]

Thank you

[stiff yew]

oh actually I mean they literally told the person to uhh yk what..so I dont think we need people like that here-

but yall do u ig

[agile rune]

Ban probably needs to go through higher ups

And maybe they don't have permissions not sure

[stiff yew]

fair enough

[leaden temple]

If this is what you believe please open a ticket and let members of staff handle it please, typing this here will causes arguments

I need tips Two stop ||self harm||

@civic matrix I changed the title to make sure it isn't making it seem like you are asking for advice on||self harm||

[civic matrix]

Oh ok.

[abstract raven]

Wash them with soap and water and put bandages

If they are open

[civic matrix]

Noted

[quartz adder]

Like a certain type of soap or any soap?

[abstract raven]

Any soap should help

[leaden temple]

antibacterial soap would be preferred loved

[civic matrix]

Do u have to wash them if they did not break skin?

[leaden temple]

because of you using a sharp object youmight as well be safe by washing them incase the object has got bacteria on them

[civic matrix]

Ok. Thanks

[abstract raven]

You should