im literally on the edge rn. me and my best friend of 10 years have been fighting daily. she only cares about proving that she's right, she doesn't care what other people say. at least that's how i see it when i get annoyed by it. when i tell her she was wrong, she yells at me for always 'attacking' her when she says something. im in a trio with her and the third friend will not want to leave her.
my grades have started dropping this year. i feel like i can't do shit right at school. i completely lost my motivation and i can't get myself to study, to which of course my friend has something to say. she knows i have mental health problems and started laughing when she asked me if im still suicidal, thinking it was some sort of joke. i cannot trust her with anything like this to this day. i don't really have any other friends i could turn to to get away from her. can someone please tell me how to deal with her
#i hate the situation im in
summer hawk
crude sable
I might not get your friendship with her completely however from what you’ve said, i’d say that even if they’re your best”best friend” they wouldn’t be selfish enough to be inconsiderate by doing those things, just like how she’s too stubborn and egotistical to prove that she’s right. And she’s choosing to do that over your friendship. I don’t think that a true friend would even think about smiling yet alone laughing when it comes to your mental health issues because it’s a deep matter
Do you have the same classes as her perhaps?
One thing that i know for sure that it’s obvious that you should distance yourself instead of being in that circle, and until you find a new circle to be around with that can make you improve yourself instead of dragging you down, it’s totally fine to be on your own
Might feel or sound off because it’s not easy to be on your own however sometimes, it’s better to be alone and able to take care of yourself instead of being around “friends” who’d drag you down
summer hawk
Do you have the same classes as her perhaps?
we're classmates. i just don't want to leave because i really think i can make things work out
crude sable
No offense and sorry if it might sound harsh
Are you completely sure that you want to make things work with someone who’s making you down a deep hole
You know and realize that what she said or did, or how she treated you was quite wrong
You realized that yourself
Do you want to have someone like that in your life?
summer hawk
i just feel like she was acting like that because of how i react
she hasn't always been like this
and it's my last year with her
crude sable
No matter how you react, a true friend wouldn’t change 180 degrees just because of that
You said it yourself all those things that happened
It’s clear as day that she’s not who you think she is
A true friend would help and support you, make you be a better person
Instead, her actions are the opposite
summer hawk
yeah i guess you're right
umbral wave
lesson learned, never play in trios ever again
crude sable
No matter what happens, you should keep in mind that putting yourself first is the right thing to do, even if that means that you have to remove yourself from a toxic situation
summer hawk
alright I'll try