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neon helm
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this very chat is how my life got turned upside down. this is where i met the person that destroyed me, got me to believe they loved me for a whole month then dropped the "i have a girlfriend". now i can not love anyone anymore. not even my current boyfriend that my ex convinced me to get with. nothing helps me anymore. i feel so alone and broken. and it kills me to see the "happy anniversary" status on his acct. i cant take it anymore. i just want something like he has with his gf. i wanna love someone. i wanna be obsessed with someone to the point where i cant live without them. i want them to be my oxygen. i just ||dont wanna be here|| at all. how do i move on? how do i keep myself alive? how do i be happy? i cant feel anything but pain

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someone help me

bleak tundra
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just stop getting emotionally involved when putting yourself into relationships

rapid surge
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And, some more advice: Remove negative people from your life.

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Why do you need people you hate in your life?

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Cut contact. Life happily. At least you still have a working Google account.

neon helm
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i hate most people

rapid surge
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Then, avoid seeing those people. If it's unavoidable, endure meeting them until it is.

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If you have family, spend time with them. It'll make you feel better.

neon helm
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my family abuses me

rapid surge
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I know love is a feeling that's hard to resist. But if you've only had bad experiences form loving people, then try again later. Meet better people.

bleak tundra
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what do you mean

rapid surge
neon helm
rapid surge
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Verbal abuse, ignore them.

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You could try taking it to court, if you can. You have rights, you may be their child but they have no right to abuse you, not even verbally.

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How old are you, firstly?

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I'm 15.

neon helm
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im almost 17

rapid surge
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Be happy people want to help you even in 5 minutes. I posted my issues 9 hours ago and ||nobody gives 2 shits||

neon helm
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im sorry

wintry crater
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that's an awful situation, with that person convincing you about their love and then saying it's not real. I've had that happen to me a lot with girls I fell for. I think it's really difficult for people who get very emotionally attached to find an equal partner. most people don't want to put that much effort into relationships and or have trust issues like me

rapid surge
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Not your fault. People just don't like me it seems.

wintry crater
neon helm
rapid surge
neon helm
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i just wish he loved me back

rapid surge
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I know it's hard to give up on somebody you love, but if he did sum bad to you, you'll not want him in your life in my opinion.

neon helm
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maybe i should go on my other account so i dont see him in my chats.... will that make it better?

rapid surge
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If it makes you feel better by not seeing him, then yes.

wintry crater
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if someone isn't willing to put in the care and effort to make you feel right, it's not worth it at all. it's just going to be a drain on your mental health no matter how much you want it to work

rapid surge
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That's what I'm saying man. Isaac spitting big facts.

neon helm
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idk how to move on

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i love him so much

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hes the only person i have the ability to love rn

bleak tundra
wintry crater
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it takes time to get over something like that. it's not pretty. I try to distance myself from things that make me remember the person

rapid surge
# neon helm idk how to move on

If he didn't put in the effort to love you, then I think it's best you just don't give him attention, forget about him, do ||shit|| that makes you feel happy.

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As I said, remove negative people from your life. Meet new people, make better friends you can be honest to.

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Somebody you can trust.

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That's the way to go.

neon helm
rapid surge
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Well, what do you like doing in your spare time?

neon helm
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he banned me from speaking to him

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until the 10th

rapid surge
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Yeah, throw away memories of your ex'es.

neon helm
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he told me if i text him, he will ||sh||

wintry crater
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you should respect his boundaries then and move on

neon helm
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its so hard

rapid surge
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We know. I've been through it myself though.

wintry crater
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that's a big red flag that means you aren't working out together

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I know it hurts bad but its best to find other things and work for self love

neon helm
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ive always hated myself

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that wont change

wintry crater
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it can change

neon helm
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it wont

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cuz i dont love anything about me

wintry crater
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well, I love that you care so much. even though it hurts

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and I love you cause you've made it through so much

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gotta keep going

neon helm
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im so scared

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that i cant hold on any longer

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every compliment people gives me makes me wanna ||sh||

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im just

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its so pathetic

bleak tundra
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it really is

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doesn't it want to make you move on even stronger?

wintry crater
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you aren't pathetic

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we're here to talk if it helps

neon helm
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i dont really wanna live anymore guys

ornate pivot
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What ever you do dont do it

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You have a purpose and you may not know what it is

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But you do

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Don’t stop till the coffin closes

neon helm
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ive already taken the pills

languid harness
languid harness
# neon helm i dont really wanna live anymore guys

As hard as it may be to keep living like this, I promise you there's a way out that isn't suicide. When I read what you typed, I have gone through and am still going through something very similar to you. Don't give up hope, because trust me, I didn't and I am getting better.

neon helm
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he just blocked me

tough thunder
neon helm
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idk

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it hurts so much

tough thunder
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It seems like you are going through relationship issues is that correct

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The way I dealt with it is very hard and I was your age too, I couldn’t go to school without breaking down and eventually like you will get tired of being sad you will stop crying. It took me about 2 weeks to finally just get up and actually do something but it takes time, you will be able to handle life without him but it will take a lot of time and he seems very manipulative because it’s not okay to block your partner and threaten them

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You’ll eventually realize that you don’t need him to be happy. Crying and taking your emotions out is the best thing to do right now, just don’t keep it all in

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I felt like giving up the same as you but it gets way better trust me

neon helm
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9 months to be happy

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and we werent together

tough thunder
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Is there any specific problem you two have been having?

neon helm
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im in love with him

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he has a gf

tough thunder
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How fast did that happen??

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In a month?

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He lead you on for that long

neon helm
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yep

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i fell in love

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so hard

tough thunder
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He isn’t worth it, if you know he would be texting a girl like that while having a girlfriend that’s not someone you want. He was texting you making you believed that he loves you while he were in a relationship. You don’t want him because he could do the same thing to you

neon helm
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i know

tough thunder
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You are just deeply in love then ):

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What do you like to do in your free time

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Don’t stay in bed all day ):

neon helm
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idk

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