#there is this girl... and I need advice

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Ok so about in May this year I met a girl online. We seemed to get along pretty well playing together almost every day and eventually giving each other our number. It was about August when I started liking her more and more. I did not tell her anything but I kinda did. A few weeks later she started having less and less time for me and started slowly drifting away from me. This went so far that she started ignoring me. I tried for a good month. Asking how she is every third day or so. Only getting back maybe a short answer. I slowly excepted that she maybe met other people because I mean that's life and maybe I'm just too boring. We did not talk again until 2 weeks ago when I decided to text her again. In that time I thought a lot about her. She was always on my mind. I asked if maybe yk we could hang out again and play some games but she seemed weirdly uninterested but never gave a reason for it. She never told me why. It was until last week that she suddenly send me a long text telling me about a boy she met and he is now controlling her badly and exaggerates everything. He told her to not text me or play with me so that explains that part. She also told me how much she hated her self not being able to text me made her cry several times. She loved me before she said. I was honestly happy about that message. It meant it wasn't me who was boring or smth. It was her situation that caused this better said that boy. Now for the current time. We are texting us every day but she is still together with him. She wants to break up because she knows he is not good for her but she can't just not love someone instantly. I give her support where I can. Give her compliments and just being nice how I always was to her. Now I think I'm starting to love her. Idk why and how. It's just her character that seems to be smiling at me every time we text.

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I don't know what to do. I don't wanna text her too much. I don't wanna be annoying or seem desperate. I can't tell her that I like her a lot. She is already stressed out by her bf. I need advice on what I should do. Whatever it is... my goal is just not loosing her and making her happy.

verbal knot
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I’m in a somewhat similar situation as you and I don’t know how bad this is affecting you but I’d recommend giving her space. If she loves another guy then it might be good to distance yourself so you don’t end up getting hurt

flat mantle
verbal knot
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I get it

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Either way good luck, hopefully things turn out well for you and her