people change so fast

[devout rover]

long story short, been best friends with a guy for a year, during which we have amazing times and he tells me he doesn’t ever wanna lose me, that he’ll never find someone as amazing as me etc. Few months after he gets a gf ( she’s extremely toxic and possessive) and hes changed now. I bring up this issue and my concerns, and he and i both get upset, saying things we don’t mean or harshly. I apologize for what I did wrong, and after weeks of trying to talk to him so we could repair our friendship, i try again today, and he says “sorry forgot to reply, here’s my answer” and proceeds to block me.
I hate how he’s changed so much and so fast. I hate him and his gf, and I hope they both become miserable so he realizes what hes done

[paper zephyr]

if he finds himself friendless after the breakup then he should learn from his experience

but this is kind of universal to a degree, love is always higher then friendship, doesnt matter how long u been together, the person will always prioritize the partner, but cutting off people is never a good option if there arent good reasons for it

[devout rover]

he’ll probably be, my other friend is considering leaving too

[devout rover]

thing is she’s so bad and toxic and i tried to warn him as his friend, and she’s hurt him so many times, so it hurts seeing that he’s become toxic too and can cut off people close to him so easily now

[paper zephyr]

either he will learn from it, or he will get hurt so many times by his actions that he will learn eventually, a lot of the times u cant change people

[devout rover]

yeah :( i just wish he would have told me instead of just blocking me

and i wish i could have been here to help him grow

bc he’s used to toxic relationships he sabotages the healthy ones

and it’s sad bc i wanted to help him as his friend

and he blocked me yk

[paper zephyr]

yeah that makes sense, if he had bad relationships in the past he will seek them in the future because its normal to him

[paper zephyr]

not really, most of self improvement has to be done alone tbh, u can truly support others only if they are on the same page or want to be there

if they dont want to, there is nothing u can do

[devout rover]

it’s just so sad

[devout rover]

his words never followed his actions, he’d say “tell me what i can do to improve and to not hurt you anymore”, then i’d tell him but nothing ever changed

so ig only part of him wanted to improve

[paper zephyr]

yea

[devout rover]

😪

im just sad for him and angry, at both him and i

sad because he doesn’t realize what he’s doing and will suffer the consequences

angry at myself for giving a toxic person so many chances and loving blindly

[paper zephyr]

thats just life, u learn most by suffering, thats how conditioning works in a lot of areas

[devout rover]

:(( yeah

he’ll learn on his own

but he’ll probably have no one to talk to at that point

and i wanted to be the one he would turn to

but ig not

:/

thank u btw

[paper zephyr]

if you try to give to much, people can stop caring

[paper zephyr]

and thats the point where he has to realize where is actions can lead

and regardless, happy ending is not the norm most of the time

[devout rover]

that’s a crazy concept

[devout rover]

true

[devout rover]

:(

[earnest dew]

well yea people do change,my old friend after 1 month not seeing echother she made new friend and left me.Itryed to talk to her to hang out but every time she ancwers whit ,,im busy i cant maybe next time" while on instagram later see her whit her friend group going out

after that i stoped to hang out whit her