[Warning] How to help someone with suicidal thoughts

[nova zealot]

Please can someone help me?

[wispy brook]

Long distance relationships are hard nonetheless, and her having suicidal thoughts surely doesn't help. Her depression might be caused by issues in her private life and not necessarily by your relationship. I don't know much about your dynamics or about your relationship but If I were you I would try to be with her as much as possibile and I'd try to talk to her about the situation, to see if you could help in any way possibile.

I'm not really good with this kind of stuff so maybe wait for someone else to reply.

[neon trout]

Totaly agree, talkt o her and make her feel loved. Because just having someone to talk to is a life saver. I have personally seeked help on this server and I got to speak to someone and that helped me. So just talk to her about it and make sure she doesn't feel scared to ask you for help. Therapy is also recommended but it might be hard to afford, but its always worth it if she is thinking of ||self harm|| since life is more valuble than money.

[nova zealot]

@neon trout @wispy brook okay thank you both guys, I'll do my best

[granite portal]

Yural, it's understandable that you feel concerned and worried about your partner. It can be difficult to help someone who is going through a difficult time, especially when you're not physically present with them. However, there are still things you can do to support her. Firstly, it's important to maintain an open and supportive communication with your partner. Listen to what she has to say and let her know that you're there for her. Offer emotional support and encouragement, but don't try to force her to talk about her feelings if she's not ready. Secondly, you can suggest some self-care activities that your partner might find helpful. Encourage her to engage in activities that bring her joy and relaxation, such as going for a walk, reading a book, or practicing a hobby she enjoys. You can also suggest seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling if she's interested in exploring those options.
Lastly, it's important for you to take care of yourself as well. Don't neglect your own needs and emotions while trying to support your partner. It's okay to take breaks and focus on yourself from time to time. Remember that there are no quick fixes to coping with what she is going through, but with time and patience, your partner can heal and move on from the experience.

[nova zealot]

Thank you for your words, they are really helpful.
Yes I listen to her, offer emotional support and encouragement and I suggested calling to a place where offer helps with this things but she's afraid to call it because she doesn't want to worry her parents. I didn't force her anymore but I gave her the resources to look up for professional help.
I will think about those self care activities thank you.

So about myself, I am kind of similar to her but I don't want to commit suicide at all, I mean, there are sometimes I feel depressed and with the same feelings of her, but I feel happy when I talk to her so it is like I can enjoy my life as long as I have someone to be with, so I am dependant sadly

[granite portal]

I am glad that you are listening to what she's feeling, and trying to find ways to help her. That's really important.

But I am also worried because you mention here that you are similarly dependent, and if your happiness and emotional wellbeing are solely tied up in this relationship, that's also not a great sign.

It's good to find happiness in other people, but it's also important to be able to be happy by yourself. Maybe you can explore how you can start to find some happiness without relying so much on other people?

[nova zealot]

Hmmm I mean, it is not like if I was happy dependant, it is like that I enjoy much talking with her and spending time with her, and of course I miss her when we don't talk.

But I have another friends who I play and talk by discord and voice. But when I am alone (like when I am working) I think on her of course

@granite portal

But I can't enjoy things by my own tho.
Like either if it is with her or my friends, I enjoy doing it, by example playing games or watching series

But I can't do it alone because I get bored

[neon trout]

Just rember to take care of yourself so you dont suffer from helping her. And tell your friend that she doesn't need to worry about her parents, THey might get worried but mine were just happy when i asked them for help since they had noticed alot of changes in my behavior

[stone gale]

if you still need help you can hit me up. i am way younger but in a similar situation.

just know, staying in the situation is what many people say is a "don't do" but i personally will stay with my love forever and help her. if you mean it, i can help.