#I am lonely but I can't stand people. I am single but I can't stand relationships. Please help.

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marble locust
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Meditation could help out with letting people excercise their autonomy and by neuroplasticity you can rewire your painful insucure/stressful responses associated with them, but other then that, please talk to a proffesional this sounds like a next level of mental ilness, you defintely experienced a terrible past or bad parents.

analog wind
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Accept that no one will put their life on hold for you and everyone has their own stuff going on. Until then dating is pointless

marble locust
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especially his sense of self

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which was undeveloped or deformed in his past

analog wind
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I know it just seems like he wants someone miserable that he can manipulate

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Idk that’s what I see

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Have I spoken to u before?

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I feel like I have I’m getting deja vu

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I swear I spoke to someone a month ago with the same issue

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So strange

marble locust
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there are always reasons why your personality didnt develop or your attachment issues are too severe

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depends on where they are 🤷‍♂️

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mabye a genetical proclivity towa

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ye m writing that rn xD

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i mean

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what you are experiencing is something on the lines of personality disorder

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which is generally developmental

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but it can be transgenerational

analog wind
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Bpd?

marble locust
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lemme ask u this

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how much friends did you have in your childhood? did you went o kindergarden? did you parents pay attention to u?

marble locust
analog wind
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I’m bipolar but I don’t have the same experience as this person

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Maybe that’s why I can’t relate

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Idk how that stuff works

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My mom is bipolar and I got it from her

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I do some of the same stuff she does when she has an episode

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That’s called tunnel vision

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And that’s also like a sense of euphoria commonly felt in the honeymoon stage of relationships

marble locust
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i wasnt diagnosing she was asking if bpd is genetical or nah

analog wind
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WAIT I REMEMBER U

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this guy thinks he has aspd

marble locust
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then idk mate, it would be best if you discussed it with a proffesional

analog wind
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I remember you BABBAHAHAHAHA

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Ur the guy who thinks everything is deeper than it actually is

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💀

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Good luck w this one @marble locust u won’t get anywhere I promise I spent a week talking to them I think this person is a troll fr

marble locust
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that quote can be easily overused to justify anything 🤷‍♂️

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but you better find some structure in your subjective interpretations

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if r gonna meet some rigid psychiatrist, and u will present him with r passages, hes gonna give u some random diagnosis just to get rid of u xD

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some psychiatrists tend to be corrupt, bcs they are doctos, make sure u will go to a clinical psychologist, they have actualy psychotheraputic training and can use an integrative approach instead of sticking to one modul

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and meds prob wont help u anyways

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yes and a big one

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counselor cannot diagnose

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and is always used only for orientation and some planning

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in serious cases its kinda useless

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psychotherapy is a long term endeavor

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and focuses on improving different factors

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techniques etc

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in my opinion yes

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if it renders u unable to have normal relationships

marble locust
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dont go into a relationship when you clearly arent ready for one

marble locust
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it means not having issues that will render the relationship impossible

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and destroy it long term anyways

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u wont think yourself out of your shortcomings and attachment issues