That is never okay as a person who has gone through family trauma and is hopefully going to have kids in the future I would never do this to my kids. What I think she's doing is pushing her trauma and stuff on to you I'm not 100% sure I get somebody else's opinion on that but that's mine.
#Is my mom a manipulative person?
mystic seal
unkempt bolt
its kinda like the mom gets a child and forces/convinces them to become their therapist and then take their anger on someone else even when she wrong i dont like that type of beheiver tbh
mystic seal
If you ever need someone to talk to my dms are open
upper robin
Yeah, your mom is most likely is manipulative. And if not then at least not exactly being a good mom ether, kids shouldn’t have to be their parents therapist.
Please look up narcissistic abuse when you get the chance, you’d be surprised the things they can get away with
Without you even knowing,
your experiences are as valid and painful as everyone else’s.
Don’t forget it.
You are enough and deserve to have a life too.
I’m sorry to both of you, rooting for you from here even if we don’t know each other!
heady ingot
I think the worst part, is that everything i wrote wasnt even all of it
upper robin
There’s just so much isn’t there?
upper robin
Do you think they get it from your mother?
There’s also the possibility of similar people attracting each other
heady ingot
Sorry, i think i worded that a bit weird, she acts like that also to my dad and my sister
upper robin
Oh
heady ingot
Its not just me who has to witness it
upper robin
I see, yeah that’s not healthy
How does your dad act towards her? Can you describe it as sheepish?
heady ingot
Kind of, he tried to bring things to her attention and they constantly get into crazy verbal fights, where she screams and breaks and throws things at him while he tries to calm her. Eventually he just gives in and takes the blame and they like talk and calm down after a bit. I feel like he just gets tired of fighting
upper robin
How often does he do chores?
heady ingot
Rarely, he is the only provider for our house hold he works from 7 to 5 every day
He has his own business and works all alone
upper robin
Interesting
heady ingot
Shes never had a job since i’ve been alive, not that i really remember anyways
upper robin
I see
Again, sometimes trauma can be genetic
Recommend you do some research on such family dynamics and figure out ways to not lose your mind
It sounds hard but we’re rooting for ya!
heady ingot
Thank you so much, this is the first time i’ve ever had someone on my side (outside family)
quasi atlas
I see
Again, sometimes trauma can be genetic
Recommend you do some research on ...
trauma isnt really genetic, its mostly transgenerational, personal insufficieci and bad habits projected on children
unkempt bolt
Kind of, he tried to bring things to her attention and they constantly get into ...
but i dont think ur mom should scream and throw stuff at ur dad especially when hes the one that works from 7 to 5?? maybe she needs too seek medical help or go to a theripist to try and see what happened when she was little?
heady ingot
She has a therapist, she doesn’t really ever talk to them tho. And im pretty sure she’s delusional and has no clue shes doing any of these things
quasi atlas
so she can know what shes doing wrong
People who Are on the spectrum of dark triad Will never listen, And moreover, Will only punish you for even trying to speak about their faults.