#i got in a fight at school

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chilly epoch
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i had a fight with my ex friend she said she didnt want to be my friend anymore and said me and my bestie are mean and ignoring people and running away from our problems she doesnt know our part of the story and doesnt listen to me everytime i talk she talks over me interups me i might be in the wrong but shes also being mean and pisses me off and idc if im not her friend anymore what hurts me is she told some of my friends and not me and my bestie first and they dont listen to our part of the story like they hear what my ex friend says and judges us like i need help shes in my class and i dont want to face her at all

west vigil
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but if she refuses to communicate, there isnt much you can do

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maybe ask some ppl to tell her r part of the story

chilly epoch
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she would make up smth and go against my words bc i told her i wanted to change the last time i fought with her and then she said maybe try being nicer and today she said "since you want to change how abt try being more nicer" like cmon shes using my sadness in the fight and once i cried she didnt care like i was invisable

chilly epoch
west vigil
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only thing u can rly do is just ask her for a talk

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and try to explain your problems

chilly epoch
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got talked over

west vigil
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then probably just let go tbh

chilly epoch
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being in the wrong

west vigil
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sadly

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try to learn from the mistakes you may have made

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or just wait if shes gonna cool down

chilly epoch
# west vigil sadly

yeah she says me and my bff are wrong and she doesnt see the way she acts and she acctually wanted to tell me all of this in our graduation

west vigil
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or just abandon u

chilly epoch
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but im glad my other friend stoped her

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i dont want to be angry on my graduation honestly

west vigil
chilly epoch
# west vigil or just abandon u

i have anger issues and im sensitive and an introvert so like i wouldnt care if she abandones me i hate her and didnt want to be her friend but didnt want to tell her bc i didnt want to break her heart

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all my friends say im nice

west vigil
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if u dont like her why did u pretend?

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just leave

chilly epoch
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its just mean

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and i dont want to be that type of person

west vigil
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dragging it for way to long will result in breaking it anyways

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its useless

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but it alredy happend ig

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so doesnt matter now

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but try to be honest in the future

chilly epoch
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yeah

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im always honest and i tell people who i trust my problems and get advise

west vigil
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thats nice but

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yk

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only an aspect to rself

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having boundaries and saying know is imporant too

chilly epoch
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but i dont want to say the truth all the time

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they would use it and use me

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or blackmail me

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i dont want that

west vigil
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then it isnt the truth

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thats determined by emotions

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but

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if you arent angry/agitated

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and they use it against u

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they are bad ppl

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or r immature and get triggered by something unnecesary

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🤷‍♂️

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depends

chilly epoch
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i usually stutter when im angry when theres smth true i allways wanna say it but i stutter even my bestie

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people hate me for my anger issues and sensitivity

west vigil
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did you experience a bad past?

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trauma related?

chilly epoch
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maybe when i was little it was fine my mum said i was an angel but when i came to my home country i changed my mum gets mad at me for the simplest reasons and screams for nothing but no trama i just need someone to talk to bc i feel lonely sometimes

west vigil
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emotional dysregulation goes hand in hand with trauma

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so depends

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stress long term makes u very agitated to

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and women have naturally higher neuroticism

chilly epoch
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so technically im spoiled and hated at the same time i stress abt my grades bc once i got 97 for my final grades and my mum got mad

west vigil
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do u supress yourself?

chilly epoch
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im sure i got less this year i messed up alot

west vigil
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when u were little

chilly epoch
west vigil
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supress your anger when you were little, and having noone to talk to about it

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stress => anger

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a lot of the times

chilly epoch
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noo i was really little so i dont think so

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i came back to my home country when i was 9 or smth

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like when i was in grade 3

west vigil
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oki oki

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do u excercise/mediate?

chilly epoch
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nope non

west vigil
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that can help with anger issues and emotional regulation a ton

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as well as diet and sleep schedule

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especially vipassana has very nice effects regarding anger

chilly epoch
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i tried didnt work and i dont really do diets at this age

west vigil
chilly epoch
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like i tried meditating didnt work out for me and i cant excercise alot bc i dont go to the gym and i dont have equipment

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my sleep schedule is from 9 or 10pm to 6 or 5am

west vigil
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is psychotherapy a viable option for u?

chilly epoch
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not old enough

west vigil
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wdym

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xD

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there is age limit in r contry?

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or r parents wont let u?

chilly epoch
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parents

west vigil
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oh oki

chilly epoch
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i dont want to tell them my problems so it would be harder anyway they would ask too many questions

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and wont help

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then ground me

west vigil
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or do u assume

chilly epoch
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no assume bc they took away my phone and they get irritated when i tell them the truth like when i said smth my mum started crying

west vigil
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what was "the truth"?

chilly epoch
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that i can study by my self and that i dont need her to help me study for math so we dont fight and so i can show her i can get good marks then she says that i hate her and stuff

west vigil
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damn

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pretty sad tbh

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such immaturity from her side

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taking this personally

chilly epoch
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yeah but please dont say my mums immature even if its true shes still my mum and i love her either way

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but is there any other way that could help my anger issues tone down a bit and the fact that i want to cry all of a sudden when nothing happens

chilly epoch
west vigil
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some ppl just experience it later

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some sooner

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anyways gn, hope ull sort this out or gonna feel better without her

chilly epoch