#having a male partner and the misogyny bs that comes with it

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magic sky
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Men do suck don't they

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They always treat women as some kind of prize to be won over and get butthurt so they pretend to be "alpha" and boss away your bf

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I hate those people

placid wharf
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Yup.

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I just hate not being seen as an equal human. That's what pisses me off

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By the same people that lowkey worshipped me before, too.

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Cleary just because they thought they had a chance with the "young hot chick in town" or whatever

magic sky
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Love to insult those people when it happens, "fuck off you limp dicked bastard", you know? Granted be careful these days because men can be over the top butthurt and cross lines

placid wharf
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I don't even wanna give them my energy. I just wish they wouldn't be fake with me

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Like don't be hella nice to me just to get in my pants. I don't have time to be thinking I have a friend; that'll be gone the second I have a partner

magic sky
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Ah the accursed fuckzone

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Been there too, guys can be absolute hyenas over it

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Might be a decent idea to try and make friends while having a bf, while setting clear boundaries that you're entirely off the market, and people should stop fantasizing like they're the "strong libido guy" in a cuckold fetish phub video

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(Dunno how many filters I just dodged with that one sentence sweats)

placid wharf
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That's also what makes it so strange. It's like everyone's just watching

placid wharf
magic sky
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It probably is, and it sucks especially in a small town

placid wharf
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Yeah. It's nice a lot of the times, but it gets real weird real fast

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Like... reeeeal weird lmao

magic sky
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Tell me about it

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Seeing the same people day in day out who you know must be super awkward if you know they're part of the people who were hounding over you while you're single

placid wharf
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Yeah. Also just the absurd dynamics

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Like

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My best friend S is in love with my boyfriend H, and has been for years. But my boyfriend H wanted to be with me, and I ended up leaving him and being with someone else, C, who was into both me and S, but hates H. I dated C for a while, and C got extremely abusive. Then this girl O and ther girlfriend T ended up getting me out of that relationship, and I started hanging out with H again. But I developed feelings for O, and her girlfriend now feels neglected because O definitely has mad feelings for me. And I think T likes H, too, but S is still in love with him. And now I'm dating H again, and there's weird tension between H and O, who I still like. And T still feels neglected, and S can't even be around me and H because it stings. meanwhile C, my now ex, is regularly stalking me, O, T, and H because we all live together now and C wants revenge

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Absolutely unhinged

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And that's what it's like being in a small town

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Full of mentally unstable lonely people

magic sky
placid wharf
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Yup

magic sky
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This is more complicated than my HS relationship web

placid wharf
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Same

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A bunch of bs

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Oh yeah

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And to complicate it even further, I've also had feelings for S for months and haven't told her

magic sky
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And I'm sorry to hear that, now I don't know what to say because I remember telling myself 5 years ago that I will 100% step out of relationship drama in my HS because its that complicated

placid wharf
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Because that would make everything even more complicated

magic sky
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But if you really like S, why stay with H?

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There was this quote I saw, forgot where I saw it

placid wharf
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Honestly I don't think me and S would work out, and it's more of a crush

magic sky
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Something about "if you have to choose between two people, choose the one that comes later because you wouldn't be choosing at all in the first place if you're committed to the first person"

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Not guilting/shaming you into anything of course

placid wharf
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I dunno about that. I think it's healthy to have feelings for multiple people, especially when things change so abruptly

magic sky
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But at the same time it just feels painful to me to bottle my feelings for another person while dating someone already

placid wharf
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Like, it's not like I'm actively choosing between them anymore. It's just that overtime, I have had feelings for these people at some people

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Point*

placid wharf
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I don't think I'd be comfortable dating O since she already has a girlfriend

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Me and H also have a history together

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We lived with each other for months, all alone

magic sky
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That T doesn't deserve imo because T's being completely neglected here

placid wharf
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In a hole

magic sky
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A literal hole?

placid wharf
placid wharf
magic sky
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That's a new one

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And that was something I'm thinking about as well

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With something this complicated, I'm surprised all 5 of you don't go poly already

placid wharf
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Me and H are monogamous, and aren't into T

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That would just make her feel even more neglected probably

magic sky
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If I can give T a head pat I would

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:/

placid wharf
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H has kissed O, and I've also kissed O, but T is just a really good friend to me

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Yeah she's great I love her

magic sky
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I thought H and O disliked each other

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Surprised that they kissed

placid wharf
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Love hate

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They're very good friends and also have come close to murdering each other.. like actually

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H, O, and T were all friends long before I came along

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I feel I kinda ruined things honestly

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I didn't mean to, that's for sure

magic sky
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Nah its not your fault

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Can't control feelings and stuff

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I also feel like I'm somewhat passed around over the years as well and eventually drifted to my partner

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And everyone kind of knows who I've been involved/sleeping with

placid wharf
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Yeah, it sucks honestly

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At least in my experience

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Thanks for chatting with me about this btw

magic sky
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Yeah you're welcome

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Everyone's dating histories have their own complications don't they

placid wharf
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I know it's all petty drama, but to consistently be in it, in one household that's literally 5 ft by 12 ft

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Is a lot lmao

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Every day

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All day

magic sky
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It is, I'd go nuts and just go fwb with anyone I like if I'm subject to being tormented with petty drama like this all the time

placid wharf
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I've definitely considered it

magic sky
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At least there won't be complaints over who I belong to

placid wharf
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Yeah

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I only officially got with H a few days ago

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And that's just because it was so in the air on whether or not this was gonna be a thing again

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And I like him a lot, yknow. You can't just live in a 5 ft by 6 ft by 4 ft hole completely isolated with someone for the entire winter

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Hiding from the cops

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Hungry and cold most of the time, and just making music and cuddling all day and night every day

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All winter

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And not have feelings lmao

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I woulda gone NUTS if I had to do that alone

magic sky
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Oh yeah I would too

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Would probably have tons of mental health issues if I was doing that alone

placid wharf
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Samee

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I already do. Thats why I was in that situation to begin w lmao

magic sky
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Understandable