#long distance relationship

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split wren
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Im in a Long distance relationship and its good when i get to talk to him. But my boyfriend is very busy in his life. He does not have time for me. And he has very strict parents so the only time he talks to me when he is away from them which is very less time like only 5mins. Its so suffocating. I dont wanna breakup with him. I wanna make it work but idk how. I dont give up and i text him everyday but day by day its getting sadder. I just need a lil closure so that i can feel better.

elder notch
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Touch grass

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Do you really see some pixels on a screen and go awww hes my beloved one

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Talk to real people

simple orbit
elder notch
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Im not a master i bark at stray cats and wistle to birds and crows

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Pick better masters

simple orbit
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no bro i respect u

elder notch
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I mean

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Why would you waste your time im such thing

simple orbit
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no no nothing funny here

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oh srry

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carry on

elder notch
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Theres so much dudes out there craving for a girl and she went to date someone from the internet

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Physical contact is essential in a relationship

manic wadi
thin grail
elder notch
manic wadi
elder notch
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Relationships are risky even the good ones dont always work out

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Being in a relationship is like a lotery

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You can get something good or get nothing

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Edating is like buying a lotery ticket to win a lotery ticket

manic wadi
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and?

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i had a long term relationship online and the emotions/attachment was very real

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the only thing why it didnt work out was bcs we werent compatible

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its not more risky then real life

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or less

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the important thing is to have experience in life

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but ppl bitch about being hurt

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so they rather choose comfort and stagnation

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instead of exploration

elder notch
elder notch
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You press a button and oh suddenly that person you love doesnt exist anymore

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Its better not to waste time

manic wadi
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you just have a bias

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and dealt with shallow ppl

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the respect + love clearly wasnt mutual

elder notch
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Im not a native speaker could explain what is a bias

elder notch
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How can you know

manic wadi
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bias = we all impose interpretative fantasies on the world, for example; a raped girl will always have a fear of men and assume the worts, in your situation, bcs you dealt with shit ppl online, you assume that its better to avoid romance online at all times

manic wadi
elder notch
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But its not the people its me

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Blaming my shit on others is not for me

manic wadi
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being honest with one self is a good excercise

elder notch
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Cant lie

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What i mean is that we shouldnt fall in love for pixels on a screen

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Its better to find someone real

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Or to dissasociate from people at all

manic wadi
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you can if the other person shares the same love and respect towards you

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its just that immature ppl dont take relationship seriously, and act retardet online

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and dont rly care about the outcomes

elder notch
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I cant take anything seriously if its on my screen

barren parrot
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@elder notch Worth noting your dating prospects in your local area can be extremely limited compared to online depending on where you are in the world

elder notch
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I know

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Just dont date

barren parrot
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So go volcel basically 🙄

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Way I see it, if you at least call each other from time to time then at that point I'd say it counts for something beyond just falling for pixels on a screen

elder notch
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Its not real

barren parrot
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and believe it or not this is how some people end up meeting irl

elder notch
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Like me

barren parrot
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(However slim the chances might be, admittedly)

elder notch
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Its better to avoid people and store hatred in your soul

barren parrot
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Cool, how's that working for you

manic wadi
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thats poison for the body lmao

elder notch
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I think

manic wadi
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ull end up being isolated

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all r life

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ik that uve been probably hurt in the past

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but if you wanna become a fully functioning person thats not the way

barren parrot
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my own history with ldrs (as with dating in general) hasn't been all that great, but if I pretended I don't need connection just to cope with that, I'd be living a lie

elder notch
elder notch
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Truth is sour

manic wadi
elder notch
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Okay

split wren
split wren
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@elder notch when did i say i m OD im not. He was here with me last year and this year he recently just moved to another town 🙂

split wren
split wren
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🙂🙂🙂🙂

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Fr stop assuming

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Im not stupid enough to OD

elder notch
split wren
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i didnt say it was an 'online' relationship. U assumed that

elder notch
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Yes

split wren
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Yes

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So basically

elder notch
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Still

split wren
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Its so annoying

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I wanna tell him that it's annoying and i cant do this any longer so yeah. But he has his reasons to be offline

elder notch
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Give it a break

split wren
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Since he is preparing for a competitive exam (which one of the hardest exams in my country)

split wren
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I dont wanna be love sick🙂

elder notch
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Just dont text him for a bit

split wren
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I dont.

elder notch
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Okay

split wren
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Ok maybe a lil bit.

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But one text doesn't count ok.

elder notch
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Then plan with him times to text

split wren
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I did

elder notch
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How it went

split wren
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Prwtty bad

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Hes genuine

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I cant even blame him

elder notch
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by any mean

split wren
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I know his family way too well

elder notch
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Do you speak spanish

split wren
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They dont let him use phone

split wren
elder notch
split wren
elder notch
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I tought you did

split wren
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I wish my family did that

split wren
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why would u think that

elder notch
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Some sick illness that makes me think everyone speaks spanish

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Just tell him how you feel about all that

split wren
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I do that

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He feels the same

elder notch
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But youre annoyed

split wren
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Very much

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I'll end up breaking up with him fr but i just really love him so i dont wanna do anything to hurt him

elder notch
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Pain is good

split wren
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He has done so much for me when he was here. The least i can do is support him while he is getting ready for one of the most important exams of his life

elder notch
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I really dont know what i would do in such situation

split wren
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Ikr

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I thought it didnt matter to me

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Cuz

elder notch
split wren
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I m mostly emotionless

split wren
elder notch
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Are you online all the time

split wren
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But there r some times where i feel very sad about him living so far now and us not being able to talk.

split wren
elder notch
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Quit that

split wren
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Bro its getting bad from the past 2days

split wren
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I did lessen the time on social media

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As it really makes me feel lonely

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I wake up so early (which i usually dont) just to talk to him. Cuz he wakes up super early unlike me.

elder notch
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Go to your mom and tell her hey mom im addicted to technology could you take my phone and only give it tome when i really need to

split wren
elder notch
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Get a hobby fr

split wren
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I m learning guitar

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I learned to crochet

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I learned how to cook

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I m reading novels

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Im a med student. I do 3-4 hours of study

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I go on walks

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WHAT ELSE AM I SUPPOSED TO DO TO NOT THINK ABOUT HIM

elder notch
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Go to the gym

split wren
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I already have gym equipments at home

elder notch
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And get chronic knee pain

split wren
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Im already too thin

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And even the maids come and comment on how thin im getting

elder notch
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Then get a bit thick

split wren
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🙂🙂🙂🙂

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no

elder notch
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Do a bulk

split wren
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Why

elder notch
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Being thin can be unhealthy if youre a girl

split wren
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I feel comfortable in my body i just wanna keep myself busy

elder notch
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Okay

split wren
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Lmao

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The lack of oxytocin does that your body 🙂

elder notch
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I just have a mental image of a concentration camp kid when a girl says shes thin

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But thats just me maybe

elder notch
split wren
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Yeah

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I didnt do anything

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I started using the gym equipments at my home so that they can be regular again

elder notch
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Stop

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Do push ups

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Bodyweight exercises are better

split wren
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I always had irregular periods but when i actually came into a relationship it became regular and when i looked it up i saw that being happy makes your health REAL GOOD
Hence ur body start functioning better

split wren
elder notch
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Learn to play chess

split wren
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Noone there is to teach me 😔

elder notch
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It can make you busy for a lot of time

split wren
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My boyfriend is offline remember 😔

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He is literal perfect he knows almost everything😔

elder notch
split wren
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🙂

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My PT teacher tried real good to teach me

elder notch
split wren
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But then schools closed

split wren
elder notch
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What does ikr mean

split wren
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Bruh we were in the same school and same institution and lived so close 🥲

split wren
elder notch
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Thanks

split wren
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It was so perfect 🤡

elder notch
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Dont bother

split wren
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I would've been normal if he talked to me

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But its getting difficult

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IDK WHY I FEEL SO SAD FROM THE PAST TWO DAYS

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I WAS PERFECTLY FINE LAST MONTH

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I WAS DEALING SO NICELY

elder notch
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Do you have friends

split wren
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SUDDENLY I FEEL SO ANGRY

split wren
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i literally have friends everywhere.

elder notch
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You cant base your happines on how your relationship is going i know its bad to do that cuz i do that

split wren
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Ikr

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I dont want to

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I understand that

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Thats why i do so many things

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But in the end i feel a lil empty

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The town doesn't feels lively anymore

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Also couples make me sick now

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They just remind me of my good old days

elder notch
split wren
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Yeah whatever

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I know I shouldn't think i like that

elder notch
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Really you shouldnt bother about shit you cant control

split wren
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I know I shouldn't bother

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Yeah

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I think I'll be normal tomorrow

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I really hope

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Its just kinda weird u know

elder notch
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Yeah

split wren
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Even my own house feels weird

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Since he has been here

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He has been everywhere

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Everything reminds me of him 🤡

elder notch
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😭

split wren
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ITS SO DUCKING ANNOYING 😭

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i wish i could just lose this memory😭

elder notch
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Like literally just stop

split wren
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i wish i could just stop😭

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its uncontrollable today 😭

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Even a hii from him would make me feel better. 😭

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I just want him to put as many efforts as i do😭

elder notch
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Girl youre addicted to your phone

split wren
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i am 🥸

elder notch
split wren
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but what cannnn i doooo

split wren
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But its not visible to me rn

elder notch
split wren
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Hence i feel miserable

split wren
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and my siblings😒

elder notch
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Password

split wren
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I own an iphone and i dont think u can put locks on apps

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Ig

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I havent seen

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Also my mum has my pass

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And also

elder notch
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This situation is unreal girl

split wren
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Ikr

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Ima go die 🥳

elder notch
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Fr just stop

split wren
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Thats the best 🩵

split wren
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I havent texted him in like the last 6hours

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Thats still a lot i'd say

mossy crescent
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Maybe talk it out with him

elder notch
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Also i should be coping in some unhealthy way rn and im here using evil technology again

split wren
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gworl 👏

split wren
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If i could.

elder notch
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I gotta go

split wren
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Adios

mossy crescent
elder notch
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Wish you luck with your addiction and emotional dependance shit

split wren
elder notch
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Like fr just cut it off

split wren
split wren
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That

elder notch
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Bye

split wren
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Trust me i know all the solutions

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I just can't implement them

mossy crescent
split wren
split wren
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Some people have bad experiences

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With OD and LDR

mossy crescent
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Ohh i understand

split wren
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Like basically

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I stopped od when i was a kid

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Bruh it was toxic for me so i thought i'd never do it again

elder notch
mossy crescent
split wren
split wren
elder notch
split wren
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Is your bf toxic???😗

elder notch
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Now bye fr

split wren
split wren
mossy crescent
split wren
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heyyyy

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i love listening to people

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Cmon girl

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Tell me

mossy crescent
split wren
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Ima psychology student too😌

mossy crescent
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Sure ig?

split wren
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tho i havent actually started studying but I still love it

split wren
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If u r comfortable here u can speak here or we can just shift to dms

mossy crescent
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Where ur comfy

split wren
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Im comfy either way

mossy crescent
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Im fine anywhere

split wren
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Ok lets shift to dms

mossy crescent
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Alr

split wren
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Ig thats more comfy