Obsession vs love? | The Therapy Center | Page 1

woven shale Apr 15, 2023, 2:38 AM

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i need advice on how the hell obsession feels different from love

i might be obsessed with my childhood best friend. im almost confident that im not but i still dont know. ive struggled with this in the past and im worried it will happen again, please help. out of all my friends shes probably the one i would hate to lose + hurt again the most, and i need to know if im just crushing on her or flat out infatuated

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any advice is appreciated thank you<3

ionic willow Apr 15, 2023, 5:38 AM

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Hey

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I’d say if you are constantly tryna get her attention and feel like you are wanting to control her, maybe it’s more obsession (sorry if this isn’t what you want to hear)

If you genuinely care for her no matter what she does and can see you with her long-term then you might be in love!

misty dawn Apr 15, 2023, 5:56 AM

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^^ this is true. You need to set your feelings and desires aside and get to grow the friendship you two have. That way the higher likelihood of her perhaps developing feelings for you OR you knowing her better and not "wanting" her anymore

woven shale Apr 15, 2023, 6:56 AM

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tysm<3 i really appreciate both of u

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honestly i dont think ill ever not want to be around her even if i stop wanting something romantic, we've been friends since 3rd grade and have shared pretty much everything with each other. its not like i cant live without her but im definitely a lot happier being able to hang out with her yk

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im just trying to be so cautious because last time it started out kinda similar to this as well, reuniting with an old friend and shit. thats where the similarities end though, theres no urge to control or overpowering jealousy or anything so im hoping im ok?

misty dawn May 6, 2023, 4:31 AM

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woven shale im just trying to be so cautious because last time it started out kinda similar ...

how's the fort holding up?

woven shale May 6, 2023, 4:31 AM

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holy shit hey

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really good actually, im pretty sure its just straight up affection at this point and maybe a really momentary infatuation ? we're rly good friends :)

misty dawn May 6, 2023, 4:33 AM

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nice!!!!!

woven shale May 6, 2023, 4:34 AM

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shes been talking a lot recently about seeing me in person again while just a few months ago she seemed pretty uncomfortable with the idea

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plus im helping her write a novel shes starting to work on

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i love being close to her again <3

misty dawn May 6, 2023, 4:35 AM

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woahhh that's sick! I'm a writer myself that's pretty awesome! great to hear everything's mended

misty dawn May 6, 2023, 4:36 AM

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woven shale i love being close to her again <3

looks like you'll have a friendship for a long while 1WeSmart

woven shale May 6, 2023, 4:38 AM

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thank u for supporting me :) i appreciate being checked in on its rly sweet

misty dawn May 6, 2023, 4:38 AM

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of course, have a good one bruv

woven shale May 6, 2023, 4:38 AM

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u too !! take care man<3

fathom pagoda May 6, 2023, 6:17 AM

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the one thing i learned about the difference of obsession and love. obsession, we're aware of it now, the feeling of wanting to be close with that person no matter what. love? you know it's love when you still care about them a lot even if you two are a hundred kilometers apart. of course there's still feeling of wanting to see them again, but you understand that it's not the time and you feel that content is more powerful when you hear that they're having a good life even without you.

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