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#i feel like i’m losing feelings for my girl, is there anyone i can dm?
river plank
Here
deep sierra
why do you feel like youre losing feelings?
balmy stump
she’s the only person that’s ever been there for me
It's up to you how you want it to go.
If you still want to hold onto her but you're just not attracted to her anymore, then try to find new things to do together. Talk about new topics that might liven up the conversations. Explore new things with her and go out of your comfort zones. It sounds crazy but it might just be that you've lost interest in the same habits.
She may/may not feel the same way, there might be some tension in your relationship, that's normal. It's very normal and valid for there to be speedbumps and hiccups in your relationship at different times.
Think back over the time that you have been together, were you happy? Did you enjoy things with her that you didn't enjoy with anyone else? Did you learn things from her? Did you want to spend money her because you truly loved her and felt butterflies when you were around her?
Just ask yourself those questions. Try not to ruin it altogether. Talk to her about it.
If you're truly not interested in her anymore than talk to her about it. Don't tell her that you don't like/love her anymore, but tell her that you've both changed and you don't know what to do to recover the relationship. It's a shame, but, if you want to move then do so. Don't drag yourself down, just talk to her maturely.
balmy stump
It's up to you how you want it to go.
If you still want to hold onto her but yo...
i would sell all my organs to feel the same way i did before 😭😭
she’s truly amazing
n i don’t wanna lead her on so i already told her how i’m feeling
we’re taking a break rn, i’m hoping it’ll freshen things up if i have to miss her
balmy stump
i would sell all my organs to feel the same way i did before 😭😭
Aw man, I apologise it's not the same. Growth can change things in both of you.
I'm glad you spoke to her about it, that's the first really good step in helping it.
balmy stump
I'm glad you spoke to her about it, that's the first really good step in helping...
right now the situation is really weird
my mom kicked me out, so i went from living 2 streets away from her
to another city
balmy stump
we’re taking a break rn, i’m hoping it’ll freshen things up if i have to miss he...
Taking a break can give you both time to figure yourselves out and then when you come back together you might think really positive, neutral or negative.
Whatever you may feel when you see her again will decide your next move.
n every chance i do get to see her she js seems awkward
balmy stump
n every chance i do get to see her she js seems awkward
She probably feels awkward because she knows you're feeling awkward about the relationship. The next time you see her, if you can tell that she's feeling awkward then ask her about it. Say anything like: "Is there anything I can do to make you feel less awkward?" "Do you need anything?" "Do you want to sit down and talk about what's going on?". Simple questions like that will mean the world to her, and I know not everything is about making her feel okay (of course it might be that way for you) but you should also care about your feelings, so if she pushes you away or anything like that, then be sure to talk to her about that too. You shouldn't be feeling hurt/awkward either.
balmy stump
She probably feels awkward because she knows you're feeling awkward about the re...
no this was before i ever had doubts tho
i didn’t have much warning before i left
but i was with her when my uncle picked me up
but ever since then shit was never the same
she wasn’t the same
I see
n second last time i seen her she wouldn’t let me touch her cause she was on her period
which is fair
but
touch is my love language so it js made shit worse 😭😭
balmy stump
touch is my love language so it js made shit worse 😭😭
I feel you. It's very understandable that she was uncomf with touch though, please don't take it personally
Look I don't know how else to help you, maybe plan a meetup and just talk again?
balmy stump
I feel you. It's very understandable that she was uncomf with touch though, plea...
nooo i know that
i’m not mad at her obviously
but like look at it from my pov yk? it js didn’t help wit the situation 😭😭
stuck cradle
no hugs either?
same love languages as u and i loveeeee hugs but sometimes we just don't feel like hugging etc so don't overthink too much
r u guys long distance or u became long distance after talking to her abt ur feelings
long distance/taking a break
balmy stump
r u guys long distance or u became long distance after talking to her abt ur fee...
semi long distance, my mom kicked me out so i had to move to another city
wheat carbon
Its normal that the intensity dampens off a bit after some time, that’s just natural hedonic adaptation to a situation. Long term love is a compromise and a decision, not a continual positive experience.
balmy stump
Well, depends what feelings you have
That initial spark is wonderful, yet, it's just that
A spark
After a while the heart racing "fun" bit goes away, that's why flings and certain relationships end so fast
Because they think they lost feelings, when you really just lost the spark and thing it's over
I think your calm and able to just approach it normally
When the honey moon phase is over
And you still date