#i get rlly overwhelmed with loud places anyone know what it is or have a advice

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jagged kindle
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It's probably just sensory overload. Your brain can only take so much.

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Before it becomes exhausting and overwhelming.

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Your lack of sleep can also contribute to this

royal hound
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i don’t think its the sleep this has been happening sense i was 6

jagged kindle
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It's probably sensory overload then

royal hound
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ok

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i feel awful when it does happen

deft edge
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at least i think it is-

royal hound
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what is gentic based

deft edge
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ill check

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yes it is genetic

deft edge
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aka it runs in the family some times

royal hound
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oh

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makes sense

royal hound
deft edge
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it still is genetic

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your brain just gets overloaded

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i have a friend who has it

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try and just stay away from loud things

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theres not much u can do

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maybe ask ur doctor next time you see them

royal hound
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ngl I don’t see a doctor

deft edge
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how old are you

royal hound
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13

jagged kindle
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You need to see one then.

deft edge
# royal hound 13

your parents arent meant to take you every couple months for a check up

jagged kindle
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It's more like a yearly physical after your birthday

royal hound
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eh I still don’t

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I haven’t sense i was like 9

royal hound
deft edge
royal hound
deft edge
royal hound
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ok

waxen spoke
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not being able to stand loud noise can also be an hint on a mental issue too, such as maybe a small trace of Autism (dont self diagnose you have it just because you cannot stand loud noises) but if it gets to happens again, try to think of something else, it is hard I know this, and I know it won’t be your first reflex to do this, but when you are in a situation where you cannot escape, think of something, don’t start looking around quickly, or start moving fast, this will increase even more the stress, even make you dizzy, instead, try to stand at one place and focus on your own things, like your personal planning for the day and such, try to not mind the noise even if its really hard, of course it won’t work always it is normal, speak to your own inside voice and calm yourself down by using it. As I said, it’s not easy, it takes time and experiences, but it can make you slowly get used on what to do in those situations

royal hound
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ah ok

royal hound
royal hound
waxen spoke
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have you ever tried fidget toys? it sounds really odd like this, but just playing with an hair tie or a small piece of plastic can really help reducing stress, and if you have trouble with calming down don’t worry I won’t tell you to take breather like a lot of people say, it does help but I’m sure you are tired of hearing it a lot, but try to imagine yourself a story in your head, a story that has nothing to do about your future or past nor present, a story in a whole other universe, with no limits of fantasy, you can even include yourself characters of your favorite game and such, and interact with them in your head, it sounds reallyyyyy childish I know this too don’t worry haha but it can really help people really much and quickly too since they get their mind busy writing a fake scenario in their own head

royal hound
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ive tried alot ngl just chewing on stuff helps

waxen spoke
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then keep chewing but don’t chew your inside cheek, it can cause risk of cancer, try getting those chewing necklaces who are made on purpose to be chewed

royal hound
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eh although i have braces and im not supposed to chew on pencils i still do

waxen spoke
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try to find something more soft to chew on

languid valve
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I have autism and spd if you have any questions

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I also can share my experience and how I deal with it

waxen spoke
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yes i think Bullet you should try to ask from others that you may relate to and eventually find the reason why you are like this, self diagnose isn’t bad as its said, its never that accurate, but it can always give you an idea of maybe what you can possibly have

royal hound
waxen spoke
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the chewing necklace im talking about, try to get one its not expensive and small

royal hound
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im broke ngl i have no money at all

royal hound
waxen spoke
royal hound
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ok

royal hound
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im in public rn its bad again im so fvcking overwelmed

waxen spoke
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build a small world in your head , and focus on it while handling all the noises so you can keep yourself more focused and slowly not mind the noise

royal hound
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ok ill try

waxen spoke
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good

royal hound
royal hound
waxen spoke
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sometimes creating a small wall between reality and self conscious is really helpful, just don’t lose control on it

royal hound
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ok

royal hound
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fuvk im rlly overwhelmed

waxen spoke
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Bullet please you must call help

royal hound
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I don’t want to

waxen spoke
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Bullet please do it

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i assure you you will be thankful after

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they will be here for you buddy

royal hound
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still

waxen spoke
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why?

royal hound
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I don’t want to

waxen spoke
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why don’t you want help Bullet, I know you want help, don’t deny it I see it so well deep inside you, you want someone to give you a hug and repeat you that everything will be okay, I see you need attention from someone and you need the feel to be enough, Bullet do you fear asking help from adults?

royal hound
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yes

waxen spoke
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so this is why you refuse to ask help ?

royal hound
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yes

waxen spoke
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but , you are aware you need help, don’t you?

royal hound
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not rlly at this point

waxen spoke
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you wanting to do bad stuff to yourself seems completely normal for a 13 years old person? don’t you think its messed up?

royal hound
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not rlly

waxen spoke
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Bullet please..trust me you need help and we are here for you, its not normal someone like you want to do things to yourself believe me, but I want you to please come over your fears of adults and call one, I know it seems scary, I know you might be scared of what your parents will think but this can’t keep going, my heart literally ache each time you try to end it I don’t want someone like you to leave you need to open yourself and realize you are loved

royal hound
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to start with, im not loved

waxen spoke
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no, you are loved kid, you just don’t allow yourself to accept the love

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so many people care for your life can’t you see how we always reply to you so quickly worried you would do something to yourself? thats caring. each minutes we spend trying to stop you is showing how much we care for you and don’t want you to go and by time we got attached to you, love isnt just physical and “i love you”, its also actions and words

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we love you Bullet we really mean it we mean it in each moment we use our personal time into helping you

royal hound
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i just feel so awful rn i lost my best discord friend the only person that made me happy ive given up

waxen spoke
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and? you can find many mores, you haven’t finished meeting everyone that will love you, keep remembering this, allow yourself to accept the care you get, not only me but even @/BulletzFoBrunch#0001 care so much about you, allow us in your life it doesn’t hurt trying new things

royal hound
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im just soo overwhelmed rn im in a loud place i forgot my good headphones

waxen spoke
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its okay champ right now try to keep your mind busy, where are you currently?

royal hound
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park

waxen spoke
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can’t you walk around to find a more calmer spot?

royal hound
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its all lod

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loud*

waxen spoke
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cant you go home?

royal hound
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no

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no ride

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until 9

waxen spoke
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why are you there??

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what time is it

royal hound
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its 8 pm im at parade

waxen spoke
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you can do it champ its only 1h to wait try to get as far as you can from the crowd of people

royal hound
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its all crowded

waxen spoke
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then find a place with less people around

royal hound
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ok

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i found a spot

waxen spoke
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good remain here for a while kiddo and stay in your own world until it ends I trust you, you are strong and I know you can do it

royal hound
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ok

royal hound
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eh today was worse

waxen spoke
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how come

royal hound
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more overwhelming

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I don’t have headphones

waxen spoke
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look Bullet I will tell you something, you can make everything stop, you really can trust me. But for this you need to go ask help and yes! Yes I get it you are scared of adult it’s normal its scary its hard to trust them. But not every adults is the same, mainly the one working with kids, they want to help you and they won’t rush you, Bullet you need real help, not just some motivating text from discord you need to go ask for help and I know its hard for you, but its really the only way.

royal hound
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i want to get hel so bad but im so scared

waxen spoke
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how come? what scares you?

royal hound
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i just don’t like adults

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they are scary to me

waxen spoke
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i know but, one day you will become an adult too, I get it they are scary because they have so much power, but you need to get out of your comfort zone, child therapy are specialized with children, they are sweet and calm with them and they understand its hard for a kid to trust them, they will make you trust them step by step, they are good people believe me, my grandparents used to work with children everyday and help them get through really hard time

royal hound
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i have only talked to the school counsler and that was today scary as fvck for me

waxen spoke
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its ok you did a good first step I’m really proud of you, don’t push yourself too much, go slowly

royal hound
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i was shaking during it but i just hid them

waxen spoke
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its ok its your first time it’s normal you are doing well

royal hound
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im just so overwhelmed and done

waxen spoke
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just try to relax and not do anything

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what overwhelm you?

royal hound
royal hound
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im in puplic its bad no quite spots