I look down on people for self-affirmation. I know I do this but should I be convinced that I have a problem?
#insecurity
crystal void
tardy leaf
Do you tell those people how you think of them?
If the answer is no then i see no reason to believe you have a problem, as long you know the boundaries of your behavior and words.
crystal void
no
gusty yew
Personally, I think that a different perspective on viewing yourself for self-affirmation is by acknowledging what good aspects you have rather than comparing yourself to others. I see what the other person is saying though because if you're not sharing those thoughts with others than it's technically not affecting other people. It only affects you.
crystal void
@tardy leaf pls realize that ultimately people have to solve their own problems
you don’t solve it for them
this is the internet;empathy is an illusion
we can offer encouragement yeah but uhhh we can’t be therapists
tardy leaf
That's such a selfish statement.
Some people simply are not capable of seeing the solution by themselves.
crystal void
That’s pretty arrogant
tardy leaf
That's realistic.
crystal void
I mean no offense just what I think
tardy leaf
I don't get offended, don't worry about it.
crystal void
hey but if you aren’t a certified psychologist then you should probably stick to encouragement
tardy leaf
Without being a certified psychologist i have helped hundreds.
Would this apply to every other field in life?
zealous herald
How did you both get here from self-affirmation?
crystal void
I read one of you posts earlier that said something like “follow my instructions without deviating a single step” or something
tardy leaf
How did you both get here from self-affirmation?
I was pinged with a very selfish view of the world so, i think he has curiosity.
I don't leave any questions unanswered.
crystal void
Without being a certified psychologist i have helped hundreds.
Would this appl...
what? You sound really vain
tardy leaf
I read one of you posts earlier that said something like “follow my instructions...
Yes, that was the most crystal clear solution it was perfect as a matter of fact.
Doubts, fear, hopelessness.
These are things that cloud wisdom.
tardy leaf
what? You sound really vain
Do i?
How about you answer my question.
Can i not solve mathematic problems without being a certified mathematician?
crystal void
why is my view selfish? I said ultimately people have to solve their own problems, because who will solve it for them?
Yeah it’s pretty vain
tardy leaf
I will.
crystal void
you said you have helped hundreds even though you aren’t certified
tardy leaf
Yeah, i have.
Is speaking the truth considered vain nowadays?
crystal void
hey man I’m pretty sure you aren’t some saint
you don’t solve other peoples problems
and this is a discord server
If you want to help people go get a degree
good day
tardy leaf
No, i do this for fun.
One day i will get bored and I'll stop.
Good day.
stiff oxide
<@394032760152653825> pls realize that ultimately people have to solve their own...
To some extent I agree. It’s ultimately up to the person to take action on their own problems.
But sometimes, some of those people just need some guidance/encouragement/ change in attitude in order to act on it. Like a nudge. Some, not all.
Regardless, It’s up to us to decide whether we want to take people’s advice or not. It’s up to us to ultimately act (whether we decide to take someone’s advice or not) to help ourselves.
stiff oxide
I look down on people for self-affirmation. I know I do this but should I be co...
I don’t think you have like a serious problem, but I also don’t think it’s necessarily a positive. I think it can be harmful, not necessarily to the other person, but to you
Like the title, it feeds on your insecurities.
flower&flames I think said it best: “Personally, I think that a different perspective on viewing yourself for self-affirmation is by acknowledging what good aspects you have rather than comparing yourself to others”