brother is an a hole

[random marsh]

Sooooo older brother is rude to my mother who is so nice to him and gives him suggestions or tips

He responds normally to my father

And every time I text him or ask him in person “Can you do this: ?” He turns it around and says it in a nasty way “Why can’t you do it” or “why don’t u do it”
If i say: “didn’t u say u were going to cook this dish:” he’ll say “Didn't you say you were gonna do work and get up earlier from now on”

I’m so tired of it sometimes and don’t understand why he is rude
There is nothing bad going on in his life so why is his personality like this?

He has short patience and talks down to me about school stuff too

[random marsh]

anyone plz advize

advise

[white dragon]

Sounds like your older brother is being rude and disrespectful to you and your mother, and it's understandable that this is causing you frustration and stress. It's not okay for anyone to speak to you or your mother in a rude or dismissive manner, and it's important to set boundaries and communicate your feelings to your brother.
One thing you might try is calmly and directly telling your brother how his words and actions make you feel. For example, you could say something like, "I feel disrespected and dismissed when you talk to me in that way. It's not okay for you to speak to me or Mom like that." Setting boundaries and communicating your feelings can help your brother understand how his behavior is impacting you and may encourage him to change his behavior.
It's also a good idea to talk to your parents about your brother's behavior and how it's affecting you. They may be able to offer additional support and guidance.

[real sequoia]

hey, things like that happen, we all have times when we say things that we regret later but he could just be under a ton of stress. When people are under a ton of stress even a simple action could be very difficult for them and that could be what is going on with your brother. I get that his being rude to your mother makes you uncomfortable and that is totally understandable, however, I feel like a bit of understanding should be spread everywhere. Also puberty does make people into a-holes and that's just a part of everybody's life.

[random marsh]

He’s past puberty haha also I don’t think he has much stress- he’s always rude

[random marsh]

He would literally laugh in my face

I’m chubby so he loves saying things like “lose some weight first” etc etc

[soft barn]

It seems like he thrives off of negative attention from you, and this keeps his ego afloat

[random marsh]

I wouldn't say he's toxic but he definitely hates that I'm lazy and the opposite of him (he works harder etc)