#how do i tell someone that i just am not the right friend for them

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dim ocean
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hi all, i need advice on this "friendship" i've had with this girl for the past like 2 years
basically, this girl is very mentally draining, doesn't take social cues, no one at school likes her, but she's been through a lot in her life and i try my best to comfort her. she recently went off to college and had a horrible time there because she couldnt form relationships, she seems to just not be able to take cues from people who are just messing around wiht her and she is constantly seeking for attention (which probably stems from her insecurity). she does this thing where she spams stories on snap/ig and everyone sort of frowns on her and i feel uncomfortable being in her stories sometimes bc she jsut talks about the most irrelevant things (ppl should post wtv they want but shes constantly just spamming everyone's stories). she also had this thing w a guy at school who is not a v good person but she blew this whole drama up with him and now she is still trying to keep the drama going by posting on a separate private story of mine (when we hang out i just let her do wtv) with just that guy on it to "remind him how hot she is." she sent me a photo the other day and was like wow i just realized how hot i was in hs and i was like uh huh also she has a tendency to guilt trip for example, i did not really want to go to prom w her and i was so happy she was at college this year, but she was like you should take me to ur prom this year bc you guys have two proms and i only had one, and no one in my friend group wants her there. i am always the one trying to be nice and trying to act like her friend. she genuinely means well most of the time but she just seeks so much attention and is so overly confident and that pisses me off. i dont want to wish bad on her at all but i am tired of helping someone that i dont connect with, and i wish she would find friends who seem to actually care about her. any advice on what to do? sorry that this post is so long

craggy breach
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um

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does she live near u

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or

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  1. does she know ur parents/mutual friends
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just tell her I don't think we should be friends anymore- our personalities are too different

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or distance urself slowly

dim ocean
# craggy breach does she live near u

well yea she in fact is transferring to a college nearer to me ❤️ and yes she knows like all my school friends bc she sorta just inserted herself into my friend group and my mum knows abt her

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i will try doing that ty, i’ve been trying to distance myself but man this girl is hella persistent

craggy breach
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Oh that’s scary

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Does she like you maybe more than friends

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I don’t think you should feel responsible like “I’m her only friend, she needs me, she has no one but me”

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Since she’s draining u and trust me I’ve experienced that

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I wanted to break up w my friend but never knew how to (bc ive never done it before) and she ended up ending friendship with me instead

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Ig u could possibly act like her when ur with her and see how that goes

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Ask ur mom and friends too@for advice

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