How do you get out of a hate self mindset?

[wide pagoda]

I wanna heal. I know everyone is worth it and special in their own ways, so uh I probably am too. And I know im loved, I just can't believe or trust it. I don't think its true or if i deserve it. Does anyone have tips on to help start loving yourself?

[storm river]

try to notice at least one beautiful, small thing around you every single day. make note of it, and be grateful for it. gratitude not only gives you perspective, it’s essential to help you find joy.

and be kind for yourself

[wide pagoda]

Ty! I will keep that in mind and im trying on the kind thing
Its getting a little better I just gotta remember to kinda force myself to be kind to myself first lol

[jagged nova]

My advice would be to be brutally honest with yourself, if you know deep down youre a good person with good intentions, it really doesnt matter what others think about you, your inner-self is more important that what anyone else would like to say about you.
Currently if you are feeling like having trust issues of whatsoever, you are just going through a difficult period in your life where you are being tested, and thats completely normal, just think about it this way, the harder it is now, the stronger you will be in the future and things will only get easier going forward, and as for finding right people around you, if youre a good person eventually you will attract similar people to yourself so no need to rush in that department and become close with someone who isnt compatible with you

[wide pagoda]

Thank you! Heafing all this advice it makes me feel a little silly since I feel like i should personally already know this but it makes more sense when someone else says it or like explain it.

[jagged nova]

No problem,I've only started discovering myself recently aswell and I'm only few years older than you,so no shame about it whatsoever 😊

[median turtle]

ask why , ask questions to yourself, try to find answers
you know yourself better than us