Lack emotional support, how do I find it?

[last elbow]

So I'm currently with a high lack of emotional support. My one present parent is going through so much that they're not likely to be capable of giving much for a while — sometimes they invalidate me and all conversations on it lead to more of that.

Irl I'm temporarily withdrawing socially, gotta work on myself first because I have a lot of things happening. Online, I got a group or two of friends who are nice, sometimes supportive but I realized that I tend to accidentally dump on them instead of venting. That's changing.

I'd rather not give them all my issues, so where could I go for simple one-on-one validation and nothing more when I think I need someone else to listen? I usually try to sort out my problems once I have that, so I probably wouldn't have to do it so often after an amount of time.

Thanks for reading.

[golden lagoon]

From reading your post, you can try opening a coaching ticket via #821404701345054721 if you'd want someone to just listen to you and offer support.

My personal advice here is:
I get that you feel alone, and that you don't want to stress your friends with your own struggles. I think sometimes by asking them for support is good, so that way you wouldn't "dump" on them without them agreeing to help out.
You could try to ask them "Hey, I'm wondering if you have some time later? I really need support and someone to listen to me talking about (_). But I get that if you don't have the energy, don't feel obligated to help me" or just something along those lines
Letting them know what they can do to support you and finding a suitable time can be helpful ^^

I think that sometimes writing your thoughts down and having a conversation with yourself while doing it can be helpful too. Just remember that you want to try to be aware of how you talk to yourself, is it in a negative way? is it in a compassion way? How you think/talk to yourself can really affect what you think about yourself as well. Especially during hard times, you want to try to be gentle with yourself.

I hope you feel better soon, wishing you a good day/night ahead ^^

[last elbow]

Thank you so much for replying, means a lot to me.

I'll be consensually venting to friends when it's possible, timely, and not overwhelming to 'em. When I can't, managed to decide that I'll be seeing if the vent channels have time for me, but I'm glad you recommended the coaches too. I'll try that if the helpers get tired of it

I actually tend to journal, and I'd say my speech patterns with myself are a rather forceful version of what you'd see in the vent channels. Probably ought to start a change to neutral or loving there, yeah

I've already started feeling better, hope your future is just as good as you want mine to be